girl problems

[dancingmaniac3]

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Im a Junior, and i'll admit i dated a freshman this year, but it wasn't all that bad. Sure she was kinda immature and was always goofing around with her little girlfriends and everything, and every once in a while it got annoying cause she was like never serious but when we were alone she was great lol. Anyway. Yeah, confront her about it, or do what EB said. If she doesn't want anything to do with you, it could mean two things: One, she likes you too and is afraid to admit it, or Two, shes just a bitch who doesn't understand male feelings and is like all the other girls in high school: they want a hot/older guy. Ditch her ass before she hurts you, if she's that type of girl.

[Yanah_God]

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At that age, relationships are just for sex anyway. I really get a kick when I walk down the hallway of my highschool and see kids kissing and saying "you know I love you". Then the people whine about it when the "relationship" gets broken.

[nforcer06164]

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I told my relationship story not too long ago in CT. But, I can give some advice from the other side of the coin.

I went out with a girl for a while, and something happened out of our control that caused us to break up. We hung out as friends for a little while, and I realized I still liked her. A back-and-forth struggle ensued for about a year until I realized there was no way we could be friends because of the feelings I still had, and couldn't ignore. She was awesome and would've been great to keep as a friend, but I couldn't get away from the feelings that never really left.

So, if you really can't ignore your feelings and it bothers you... good luck. It took me a lot of strength to cut off all contact with her... but it might happen.

Sorry to bring up the negative side, but it might happen that way. Just be careful what you do or say.

[dontcareaboutmyid]

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See now the problem here. You're 14. You both are not mature enough for anything more than a friendship. And don't give me anything about yes we are, you're not. Sooner you realize that, the better. Also, any true relationship won't blossom right away anyway. Keep it on the friend level, there's plenty of time to move forward.

If anything, be patient. Like half the people have said, she's more than likely attention whoring, and that's expected.

Also, why do people find it necsesary to subject us to their girl problems? Who was that one guy who we gave advice to and then he blatently ignored us, only to come back and prove us right about everything.

[XXXsmittyXXX]

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Mcrenaissance maybe you should ask her if she wanna bang?
Friends with benefits of crucialness

[Grandiagod]

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Push her down in the sandbox and spit in her hair. That's always worked for me.


PS. I didn't read what you said, I just assume that you like a girl or whatever.

[stlunatic0124]

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If you ask anyone about girls, ask me. Where you went wrong is telling her you liked her. MAYBE you can do that in college because most girls will cut out the bull**** and games by sophomore year but never ever do that in high school. You will know if a girl likes you, she'll make it blatantly obvious. Even in college too, so you really don't have to tell them you like them. Girls hate that. 100% of them want what they can't have and if you don't tell them you like them, you have a better chance with them. Just start flirting casually and if she brushes it off stop. But from my past experience, sorry but you have no chance of being with this girl. She'll never stop being friends with you because girls are always looking for platonic friends, but don't waste your time trying to be with her. Once a girl has it set in her mind that she wants to be just friends with a guy, she will be just friends with them. She knows it within 5 minutes of meeting you.

[xObserveRx]

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wow... way to crush his hopes in about 20 seconds. :P

[stretchypanda]

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So, a boy I knew used to write me notes all the freaking time when I got to high school. I was not in any way attracted to him, and I never wrote notes back (I was never into the "tee-hee note!" thing, and I kind of thought he was stalking me), but I was new in town and I needed friends, so I still agreed to hang out with the guy. I mean, he was nice, he was just the most awkward person I've ever met (and I went to nerd camp). So, we were friends for a really long time, and he always made it no secret that he wanted to go out with me, but I always turned him down. We ended up dating his senior year and then breaking up right before he graduated, and we're still friends. It took a while to get back to friends after we broke up (like three years), and things are still sort of awkward (like how he won't look at my new boyfriend or gets silent if I mention him), but we're friends.

This girl can't really ignore the fact that you have feelings for her now that it's in the air, but if you've been friends for a while and she values that, she'll be cool. She might end up breaking your heart, and it'll probably hurt a lot, but if you're serious about maintaining the friendship, stick with her. Not to say she'll "come around," or even if she does, that it'll be the fairy tale you want, but it's totally possible to stay friends with her.

Or maybe that guy stuck around because a) we went to a small school in a small town and were friends with all the same people and b) he knew I'd have to give in someday.

[Mainbutter]

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#1: Be confident, no matter what. Just go do what you gotta do and talk to her. Find her face to face and lay it out straight. Tell her exactly what you feel, what you want to come of your current friendship, and that just because you like her doesn't mean you can't be friends.

#2: If you want to even see what dating her would be like, ask her out to a damn movie. Somewhere public where she won't be scared of you coming on to her all alone.

#3: The worst thing for you to do is let the situation get out of hand. Get enough a hold of your emotions so that you're not trembling and passing out whenever you try to talk to her. It would help HER alot in any conversation you have to see you in control of yourself. Simple calm body language like that helps broadcast the image of 100% honesty and sincerity.

#4: If you really are good friends then a silly little thing like "who do you like? what? You like ME?!" shouldn't ruin a friendship.

#5: FACE TO FACE TALKING. I CANNOT EMPHASIZE THE IMPORTANCE OF THIS ENOUGH.

This sounds alot like a situation I had back in october. I was at a party in the basement of this campus house where one of my friends lives. Long story short we had a stereotypical drunk hookup between friends. It was fun. I left in the morning. I tried calling her later the next day and she didn't answer, so I wrote her a note and left it in her mailbox asking her to call ME to find a time we could talk about what happened. After a good bit of mental preparation I met up with her and we took a walk outside and we both ended up basically confessing that we had "more than liked" each other for a while. We decided to try going out on a couple of dates to see if we wanted more out of our relationship than friendship, and we've been together for over 7 months now.

A big difference in our situations though is age. I mean, I've been invited to two different weddings of friends this summer. Now that I think about it, my little sister is 13 years old and I do NOT think she should be getting anywhere near ever even thinking about the possibility of maybe ever pondering being anything more than aquaintances with any of the little punkass boys at her school. I'd be very wary if I found out that she had "guy friends". If anyone ever even mentioned wanting to hold hands with her, that person would get shanked in eye.

I guess my most important piece of advice to you kid is to watch your ass, in case this girl you're after has a big brother.

[XXXsmittyXXX]

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Girls are funny

[Yanah_God]

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Girls have vaginas.

[jewpinthethird]

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Women are ridiculous. Just stop caring so much now and save yourself a bunch of trouble. You're probably thinking "how is that even possible?" Just say "f*ck it" to everything and have fun.

[falconsfan14]

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I have a friend. I've known her since the beginning of the school year. We've always been cool and everything. The thing is though that I've had a crush on her since I've known her. The other day we were talking and I don't know what we were talking about but then the subject turned into if I had a crush on anyone. The teacher walked into the classroom so we continued our conversation by passing notes (sounds childish I know). So she kept bugging me about it but I didn't want to tell her. After a while of this I got into a new set of mind. I thought like this "It's almost the end of the year, maybe you should be more honest.." so I flat out told her that I like her. Then the bell rang. For a day nothing really happened other than just being awkward the whole time. I couldn't even talk to her without a lot of stuttering and blushing. I actually called her later and tried to talk to her about it but it seemed to me that she was trying to avoid the subject One of my friends who has known her way longer than I have tried to talk to her about it. He said that although she didn't say anything it didn't seem to him that she liked me. And that hurt. I really like her. I don't know wether she likes me or not, but if she doesn't I understand. The problem is that if she doesn't I want to continue to be friends with her. I don't want to have an awkward relationship with a good friend that I had. I haven't talked to her since. Any advice?
Thank you and much apprecciated,
MCRenaissance

If you really like her alot, and you want a relationship.... then make her like you. if she doesnt already, then give her some good reasons to. dont tell her, but you know what i mean, just make her like you.

[dancingmaniac3]

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But don't overdo it.