coming out

[Hakulyte]

Re: coming out

it's weird, but I actually have an easier time getting to know girls than getting to know guys. maybe it's because my interests/personality tend to skew towards more feminine characteristics.

I used to have a fairly difficult time dealing with girls until I stumbled over the idea that maybe I was just gay. Suddenly, relations with them turned from nearly unbearable to really interesting. I mean, I always sort of liked them but felt awkward at same time. I thought I was just shy until I figured that attraction wasn't here even if I liked feminine traits etc. It's like I liked her hair, her curves, her way of expressing herself and doing things but not her as a woman no matter how great/beautiful/respectful she was. So, I obviously always avoided relationships because of this unconsciously. It's possible your case is different but I think it's a good example of things to try to keep an eye on.

I also feel like these "feminine characteristics" are one of the traps when you're relatively new to homosexuality. It's like we keep forgetting that guys can also express more feminine traits and assume that if something is feminine it makes us most likely (at least) into girls. I suggest trying to sort out why you think you're attracted to girls and guys and then compare each side. If you don't feel the same or that you're attracted them in different ways, it's quite possible that it's more complicated than you think. I can't really add much without risking to say something that may not be relevant to your situation.

[dragonmegaXX]

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Haha damn considering how much of a ****** everyone here assumes I am I figured people would just turn my comment on me.

But hey whatever I'll take what I get.

[Reincarnate]

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stop

[rushyrulz]

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...

get out.

[.Layne.]

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Haha damn considering how much of a ****** everyone here assumes I am I figured people would just turn my comment on me.

But hey whatever I'll take what I get.

lol... just stop posting please..

[Charu]

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Haha damn considering how much of a ****** everyone here assumes I am I figured people would just turn my comment on me.

But hey whatever I'll take what I get.

It's not because of what you protray yourself to be. It's just the joke made was insensitive to the context of the thread.

In other words. It's NOT because of what you think we assume, it's because the joke is in bad taste in terms of this discussion.

[Izzy]

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Haha damn considering how much of a ****** everyone here assumes I am I figured people would just turn my comment on me.

But hey whatever I'll take what I get.

Wait, I thought you were gay. So you are just a homophobic furry lover? That is probably the strangest thing I've seen all day.


It's weird because I almost never see male on female furry content. It is just always homosexual for some reason.

[Herogashix]

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100% support.
Can't comment: would take 20 minutes to read whole thread- library is giving me 2 minutes. Will edit with reply in few days.

[dragonmegaXX]

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Wait, I thought you were gay. So you are just a homophobic furry lover? That is probably the strangest thing I've seen all day.


It's weird because I almost never see male on female furry content. It is just always homosexual for some reason.

No.

Also I find it hilarious how people see one gay guy asking another gay guy if he's a top or bottom is somehow a hate crime.

[d4u7211]

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It's weird because I almost never see male on female furry content. It is just always homosexual for some reason.

A bit OT to be replying to this, i know, but that's a bit of a misconception. There is lots of straight furry stuff out there. The community just has more gay people, ergo, more gay smut. Also I feel like there are plenty of gay furries that like to be rebellious and post that sort of stuff around for semi-shock value.

[psychoangel691]

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it's weird, but I actually have an easier time getting to know girls than getting to know guys. maybe it's because my interests/personality tend to skew towards more feminine characteristics.

but you're right, I'm not exactly sure. isn't the barometer basically about sexual attraction, though? I'm attracted to both girls and guys, but I'm not sure if it's in the same way or if there's different traits to each that I appreciate...yeah, this is getting rambly. I guess I just have a lot to sort out.

I think a lot of people go through this in life whether they admit it or not. You might be bi, you might be gay, or you might just be trying to figure it out. When it comes to the sexual attraction thing, well I can say that in my case I am very sexually attracted to women, but I could never imagine actually being settled down in a relationship with a woman. So having a sexual attraction toward one over another might not really say that you are one way or another necessarily. You probably see things in both sexes that you find appealing and it's just going to take you some time to figure out what makes you happiest. Just be you and do what you feel is right. You'll always have support here throughout. <3

[NFD]

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haha gay

[PaperclipGames]

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As long as you don't frustrate yourself too hard over it, you'll realize things over time as they pass. I was unsure whether I was bi or gay for a very long time because I can consider women all beautiful and cute and I could in theory even be in a relationship with them. It took a lot of time before it just gradually dawned on me that I'm honestly not sexually attracted to them.

I suppose I'm one of those people who are biromantic or something? I mean, in the end, I don't see why gender is a necessary criterium to fall in love with someone. But maybe that's just me.

[retching oesophagus]

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As long as you don't frustrate yourself too hard over it, you'll realize things over time as they pass. I was unsure whether I was bi or gay for a very long time because I can consider women all beautiful and cute and I could in theory even be in a relationship with them. It took a lot of time before it just gradually dawned on me that I'm honestly not sexually attracted to them.

I suppose I'm one of those people who are biromantic or something? I mean, in the end, I don't see why gender is a necessary criterium to fall in love with someone. But maybe that's just me.

biromantic? does that mean you're attracted to pens rather than penises?

Now that you've come out as biromantic
Would you say you're more likely to write on other people
Or do you want their pens to write on you?

Or are you not that way ink-lined?

i kill my head sometimes lawwl

If I had to identify myself it would definitely be punsexual. To clarify, it means that I see through gender and love people for the quality of their puns.

[qqwref]

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Sexual orientation is complicated stuff. Don't think you have to assign yourself to a simple category such as "gay" just because a lot of other people are doing it. Mine isn't as easily explained as that, and I'm sure I'm not the only one Fortunately that hasn't been a problem, since it doesn't really matter to me whether people know about it or not. I'll admit to being slightly mystified at some of the people in the LGB(etc) community who feel they have to constantly broadcast it to the world.