coming out

[moches]

I have been attracted to men for as long as I can remember: since I was seven, probably. The first memory I have of me...masturbating (oh, fuck, this is embarrassing) was related to a male figure. Anyway, the bottom line is, I'm bisexual/possibly gay. Have been for as long as I can remember and that wasn't a choice for me. Ever.

But I live in hyper-conservative Korea, with two hyper-conservative parents who just had this exchange watching Spartacus:

Mom: Ugh, they're gays?
Dad: Yeah, obviously (tone of disgust).
Mom: Ew, what is this show?

You can imagine why I haven't come out to my family yet.

But today, for the first time in my life, I talked with a few trusted friends about this. It felt amazing to finally have somebody know and not have to hide my sexuality from them, honestly. The best part was that everybody was amazingly chill about it. Nobody was even very surprised and everybody was quite supportive.

I don't know why I'm making this thread, really. I just wanted to share my experiences, maybe hear from other people, and get some thoughts/advice about coming out. Should I even bother coming out? Other than that whole, you know, hating gays problem, my parents and I have a very tight bond and I'm at a complete loss how I can get them to even begin to understand me.

[moches]

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god fuck I've never revealed this much about myself on the Internet why

[MyRoseTearsBlood]

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It's okay bro

[Ksl33zy24]

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'Tsall okay to me as well. (: I'm not dealing with what you are going through, but I know that revealing truths about yourself is a very hard thing to do.

[psychoangel691]

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You don't even have to worry about it here man. One thing I can give this community is they are supportive of this. Look back to flipsta's thread. You just have to do what's going to make you happy regardless if your family is on board. Sucks that more parents aren't supportive though :/

[DarknessXoXLight]

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Eeek, I wish I knew what kind of advice to give but I've got nothing. :c My mom isn't the most accepting parent either. But good luck to you with whatever you choose to do, I hope your decision brings you happiness.

[iCeCuBEz v2]

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being bi makes you more open to a whole world of sexual exploration imo.

saying nothing about myself nothing at all.

[A2P]

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I hope that one day, you can open up to your parents when international gay rights are more widely pronounced. Best of luck!

[Izzy]

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Everyone is probably a little bit bisexual. Why limit yourself to half the population?

[Wayward Vagabond]

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Everyone is bisexual some just swing more to one side than others

Niches step your parents a file and show them how you feel through art

[kommisar]

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hah this is awesome.


100% support mocher


MAYBE THAT'S WHY YOU STEPPED CHER

[Zyphoror]

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Niches step your parents a file and show them how you feel through art

Lmfao

Don't worry about it at all, hope all goes well for you~ :')

[Tarrik]

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Good luck with everything man, hope things don't get too tough.

[Mourningfall]

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Should I even bother coming out? Other than that whole, you know, hating gays problem, my parents and I have a very tight bond and I'm at a complete loss how I can get them to even begin to understand me.

Really depends what you're looking to get out of this, if you just want to be comfortable with who you are and you honestly feel getting it all out in the open will help, I say go for it. You're parents may not be immediately understanding, but they won't love you any less.

[TC_Halogen]

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It's really difficult to feel right about admission of something like this when you know that your parents are so strongly opposed to it. Some people are so closed-minded...

Personally, I'll never judge someone if they are passionate towards someone of the same sex, and I won't ever feel ashamed if I gain an attraction to another male either.