coming out

[kmay]

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its almost never as bad as you think it will be. when you tell them just be prepared for the worst.

[Reincarnate]

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For some it can have some very serious consequences. Depends on what kind of people the parents are.

[Xiz]

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Hell yeah Moches!

[Hakulyte]

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I still have no idea how people accurately figure out where they are on the kidney scale.

[DissonantMuse]

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I'm very happy to see you're finally coming out and talking with people about it, and that's a very difficult thing to do. It's like such perfect timing seeing a post like this because just the other day I finally came out about my sexuality, I'm still kind of in the questioning phase though but after having some of these feelings and thoughts for months now I'm comfortable with considering myself bisexual. To be honest, it's very exciting, I feel that now there are so many possibilities and I'm able to explore my sexuality now more than ever before. Anyway just makes me really happy to see posts like this, it's a very beautiful thing! So here's to the best of luck to you!

[kmay]

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For some it can have some very serious consequences. Depends on what kind of people the parents are.

being gay, i know this. i do also know that for everyone i know personally, it was never as bad as they built it up to be. parents usually have a clue that you are. no one is ever perfectly cautious.

[eastsideman09]

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Moches <3

I don't know what it's like in Korea, but you mentioned you have a good relationship with your parents. It might be a good thing to be honest with them. Either way, you're still their child. (This coming from someone with a great relationship with his parents, albeit in America and not having gone through this issue in particular :/)

[icontrolyourworld]

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I'll always love ya moches

[PaperclipGames]

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Be happy with who you are. It took me a lot of effort to come out to anyone in my real life, and the funniest part was that I knew my mum would be completely fine with it. It's understandable.

You've taken a step today. The most important thing is that you should feel content and happy with how you feel. Accepting yourself is more important than being accepted by someone else. Design your universe.

I don't know you, but I'm proud of you just for posting this thread, even though I think we all know FFR is a pretty safe place for these things.

Best of luck in your life. I don't know what it must be like to live in an environment as strict as yours; I've had to deal with the general type of homophobia, but that's probably on a completely different scale. I hope things will work out for you. Again, be happy with yourself; that's the primary thing.

Tell people as soon as you feel ready for it. I can tell you one thing though, and that is that coming out feels strangely relieving, in a very good way. Even when it's never mentioned in future discussions, it still feels good to be able to be who you really are. Best of luck <3

P.S.: People always assume the worst when they come out, and it's almost always not as bad as they expected. I don't know how well you are with your parents. Simply prepare for any type of reaction. It may be possible to hint, or otherwise try to figure out how exactly your parents would react. If you're pretty sure it will be (very) negative, it may be better to simply not tell them. It's not an absolute necessity. Regardless, you are their child, and they love you unconditionally. It's up to you to decide when is the right time.

Edit: Also, feel free to hit me up if you want to talk. I'm always there for people. :3

[AlexDest]

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Good on you moches for opening up . It may be good that you'd tell your parents as soon as possible. Hopefully they aren't going to say it's wrong for you to be this way because the 'bible' says so.

[iCeCuBEz v2]

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I'll use this thread for me as well

I'm bisexual :O.... to a certain degree I guess.. I like women more tho. never got around to telling anyone on the internet before.

I'm a pussy tho I'm never telling anyone in real life taking that shit with me to the grave. So I give u a lot of credit for coming out I certainly can't.

[evanescence_death4ever]

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Moches, I don't know you... But it's great that you have come to the point of being able to accept this part of you and start to share. I don't know what it's like to be in this situation, so I can't say I've had any experience with the dilemma concerning your parents.

As I've heard before, "honesty is the best policy." In almost every situation in my life, being honest would have been the best decision. It would have kept me from a lot of bad places. That's all I can say from experience.

Have a great one ^.~

[Tyson ultima]

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Obligatory step

[YoshL]

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Hi moches! You're pretty much in like, the exact same situation as I am surprisingly. Conservative Korean parents that I don't feel comfortable coming out to, close friends who do know, and don't judge, but are really supportive of me.

About your parents, it's really your choice to come out or not. Like, they grew up in a culture/era/place/whatever that really didn't have much "gay" problems. It's like a really old person trying to understand how a tablet works. Also, if you try taking a step back and looking at the bigger picture, they're not talking bad about gay people because they're trying to hurt you or anything. Their "hate", or "ignorance", or whatever you wish to call it, isn't directed towards you, and if you do choose to come out to them, they might be supportive, they might yell. You really don't know. The thing is, they don't expect it, so their reaction might not exactly be tyhought out, or appropriate. Basically I almost tried, but pretty much got yelled at, probably louder than I've ever heard my parents ever. In my personal experience, I phrased it as "struggling with my sexual identity" and my dad nearly exploded. He thought the best option would be to put me into therapy, or some random stuff that I don't even remember anymore.
In any case, looking back, it wasn't because he didn't want his son to be gay or bi, but just because he cared about like, who i was. And who i was didn't seem to fit with what he thought was "normal". The point is, they might react negatively or positively, but like, hopefully, your parents are just caring deeply for you. nothing else.

But yeah. make sure that you're coming out to people who you know /really care/ about you. Even friends with more conservative views, if they're actually your friends, won't judge.

[kommisar]

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move back to 'merica



there is such a thing as a religious homosexual. If you're still very much involved in your faith don't let the general catholics' ideals scare you. The pope doesn't speak for everyone.