Relationship Poll

[choof]

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Has anyone that said yes been in an intimate relationship? Just curious.

oh just saw this post
yes

[awein999]

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petition: ffr middle of the night relationship advice into public school schedule. dis is Nobel prize worthy discussion

[VisD]

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i once answered a phone call by a woman

[GammaBlaster]

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I am a baby seal

[choof]

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i am super purple hippo

[korny]

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well i mean you're korny so yeah i don't put too much into what you say on flashflasrevolution.com

It kind of blows my mind how much you let my internet persona bother you

[choof]

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Ur'e Right

[Izzy]

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I'd find it nearly impossible to believe they actually love me if they can't even hug me or cuddle or sleep next to me, let alone kiss or have sex.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with two people in love being intimate. If someone isn't interested in being intimate then they probably don't love you or aren't capable of loving you.

Also real asexuality is probably closer to the rarity of SEPA patients. I doubt I'd believe anyone who claimed to be asexual.

[Cavernio]

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I can't believe the audacity of people who dare to say that they know how someone else is better than the individual does. Even if you knew them really, really well, that's still just...Like, yes we're all humans but no, we're not all the same. Yes, are own selves is all we have to go by to really -get- someone, but we also have brains and language to communicate.
Either that or people just think everyone goes around lying for some reason??

Anyways, I think I'd be alright with 'not have sex with my partner' but not with no physical intimacy. Like, the reason long-distance relationships suck is because there's no physical contact.
Some people generally don't want to be touched at all really though, not just sexually. I would also have a hard time believing someone loved me if they didn't want to touch. Are those people aromantic?

[j-rodd123]

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if someone had zero intimate interest in me it would make me feel physically unattractive and that's a very important part of relationships imo. #STOPUGLYPEOPLE

[Snowcrafta]

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It kind of blows my mind how much you let my internet persona bother you

You would he surprised how common this is

Source: me

[Izzy]

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Because there is a difference between "I don't want to have sex" and "asexual" that people who claim to be asexual probably don't understand. Or claiming to be asexual is there only ticket out of a bad situation that would hurt somebody.

Either way I'm only saying that I wouldn't believe them very easily. It would be difficult to convince me. I would never hands down say that something is absolutely true or false.

[Cavernio]

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Well unless your pleasure parts are broken somehow, there is the capacity for orgasm in even asexual people. That's how I'm defining asexuality right now. Although that said, most of us have probably experienced not as orgasmic orgasms, and for someone who isn't actively seeking pleasure, they probably just don't get as much pleasure from it as other people otherwise would also. Pleasure-seeking is going to be tied to pleasure-getting.

[Toxophilis]

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Because there is a difference between "I don't want to have sex" and "asexual" that people who claim to be asexual probably don't understand.

You need to do a bit of research. Asexual means 'lack of sexual attraction', which means that when they see a person, they don't instantly think in terms of if they are bangable or not. They see their features, and are capable of knowing if someone is aesthetically pleasing (easy on the eyes) or not. They (normally) do not get horny or think about sexual things even if they are alone. However, this doesn't mean that they aren't capable of enjoying sex. Some asexuals will engage in it with their partner, be it for pleasure, or for their partners sake (i.e they feel they need to), or plenty of other reasons.

In my case, in my two previous relationships I slept with both partners because I didn't want to lose them. I have never found a person sexually attractive, but I do appreciate beauty. For example, boobs are sweet.

I hope this clears a few things up for those of you who are too ignorant to look up the actual definition.

TL;DR: asexuality has nothing to do with if they want sex or not

[Izzy]

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TL;DR: asexuality has nothing to do with if they want sex or not

There is no way that is true. That would make the term asexual entirely useless. In fact I would probably even fit under that description and I am no way asexual.

It's basically like you are saying that everyone who isn't a shallow and only judges people based on sex is asexual. To me it sounds like you are just making up definitions to fulfill your personal beliefs. You can describe yourself however you want, but trying to make it fit into an unrelated broader definition isn't the way to do it.

Ah, I see your religious. Never mind. Just do whatever you want.