Relationship Poll

[Poison-]

Re: Relationship Poll

Doesn't sound like you're happy with where your relationship is right now.

[andy-o24]

Re: Relationship Poll

Let's try to clarify my position of yes without debating asexuality.

I am a heterosexual male who finds physical attraction in women. I have sexual thoughts and masturbate. I have been in an intimate* relationship with one female. I am scared of sexual intercourse because I am scared to impregnate a woman because I know I do not have the financial means to take care of a child. I look at relationships like friendship which blurs the division between the two. Intimacy and sex are not priorities of mine.
*Intimate being hugging and kissing and nothing further.

-o24

[Mollocephalus]

Re: Relationship Poll

any asexual person would agree that it's not a way of life. Their life doesn't revolve around their asexuality just as someone who is gay, lesbian, bisexual, pansexual, whatever else sexual doesn't let their orientation define the way they live.

What irks me is how people who are asexual are like "we should fight for our rights!!" when all they have to do is date someone who shares their same mentality. They definitely don't have it as hard as someone who is transgender or homosexual, especially in certain outdated cultures where chastity is praised as a value and sexual minorities are considered immoral, filthy and even worthy of being punished to death.

I'm now going to make an extreme example: there are communities out there which try to make it legitimate to be obese or anorexic and encourage to do so. While being asexual is essentially harmless, unlike the two things posted earlier, why do people try to build a structure over anything? It seems to me a petty way to try and create a cultural environment in order to protect and justify something using the number of people involved instead of scientific and psychological arguments.

i may be going off on a limb here

watch out now


i think,


the semantic definition of 'intimate relationship'

cannot be established if there is a lack of intimacy...




i can't be entirely certain though i need an expert

Godamne i have to agree with lito for once in my entire life! !

[FoJaR]

Re: Relationship Poll

lito said it best

love =/= sex

[Mollocephalus]

Re: Relationship Poll

When did lito say that

[FoJaR]

Re: Relationship Poll

always

[tosh]

Re: Relationship Poll

They definitely don't have it as hard as someone who is transgender or homosexual, especially in certain outdated cultures where chastity is praised as a value and sexual minorities are considered immoral, filthy and even worthy of being punished to death.

While asexuals may not have it nearly as "hard" as those who are LGB, there is definitely confusion associated with asexuality. Some people are like "Well how do you know if you aren't attracted to anyone?" or "Just try it sometime. I'm sure you'll like it." I kinda equate it to wanting to try skydiving. Someone is perfectly able to say they don't like the idea of skydiving without actually experiencing it - however in that situation no one would bat an eye.

I went to a super small, rural high school in the US (I mention this because I know you live in Italy, so there may be a difference in cultural views on teenage sexuality). I don't consider myself asexual, however I do have an extremely low sex drive and have never had the urge to have sex with anyone. Back in high school there were definitely times where I was teased for not dating or not being interested in anyone. Whenever I would meet up with classmates after we graduated, they would always ask "So have you had sex yet?". While the answer is obviously no, I just got irritated at them asking the same question over and over again that I finally just said yes and made up a bs situation where I had a one night stand at a party.

[Mollocephalus]

Re: Relationship Poll

I kinda equate it to wanting to try skydiving. Someone is perfectly able to say they don't like the idea of skydiving without actually experiencing it - however in that situation no one would bat an eye.

The big difference is sexuality plays a big role in every human's life and it is necessary to reproduce. It is a bonding activity, and has many prositive side effects. Sexual driven mental constructions can be seen everywhere, everyday. It affects us more than we even want to admit. It's far more important and in some way necessary than skydiving or any other trivial activity.

[Litodude]

Re: Relationship Poll

not ganna lie i thought prositive was a word i didn't know about prostrate well-being that i didn't know heh ;D

[tosh]

Re: Relationship Poll

The big difference is sexuality plays a big role in every human's life and it is necessary to reproduce. It is a bonding activity, and has many prositive side effects. Sexual driven mental constructions can be seen everywhere, everyday. It affects us more than we even want to admit. It' far more important and in some way necessary than skydiving.

I won't disagree that sexuality plays a vital role in society as a whole, nor on the notion that it can be bonding activity with positive side effects. The comparison to skydiving was just to show that you know you can dislike (or not be interested in) something without having prior exposure to that activity.

Also, I'm not concerned with not reproducing since there are 99 other people who will gladly do so in my place lol.

Going to take an exam. So if you respond to this, don't expect anything for like 4 hours.

[iironiic]

Re: Relationship Poll

Given that every 1 of 3 people on FFR could be in a relationship without intimacy is a bit intimidating

[dAnceguy117]

Re: Relationship Poll

[DossarLX ODI]

Re: Relationship Poll

The problem with the poll question is how a relationship is defined. I would immediately have to assign only one definition for it to make sense which isn't exactly fair (e.g. a friendship is also a type of relationship). The assumption of "partner" is also implying that it is directly a sexual relationship, but that's also not fair to anyone that doesn't even care about sexual relationships to begin with.

I have no interest in sex. It also goes into the topic of disagreeing with monogamy. Every relationship I have involves some sort of mutual connection, but absolutely nothing sexual. So I'm putting yes.

[Litodude]

Re: Relationship Poll

no there isn't an argument of connotative meaning of relationship if you had half a brain and looked further than delving into a premise of semantic misconstruction of 'relationship' jesus christ

honestly from my understanding and the understanding of anyone that actually read the OP it's quiet easy to interpret OP is looking for an excuse to get out of a relationship that he deems doesn't satisfy his needs, and just needed a second opinion

if you don't wanna touch anyone else because you're scared of physical interaction with any other member of society other than yourself, and identify with being 'asexual' because you've never had the opportunity to develop an intimate relationship with anyone other than your mother and your hand, then you honestly have no say into this but please don't stop posting because it's highly comical and it allows me to form an opinion about your hygiene or lack thereof

[Litodude]

Re: Relationship Poll

fit or stink \m/