Relationship Poll

[dAnceguy117]

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best wishes with everything sexysaxman05, we're all here for you

[Cavernio]

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fear has nothing to do with, inexperience has nothing to do with it, pleasure has nothing to do with it, there is zero interest is that seriously a mindboggling concept

of course it's nothing in comparison to what homosexuals/transsexuals/transgenders deal with but it's still annoying as fuck

Sorry but I AM mindboggled by the idea that pleasure has nothing to do with it. Unless you've got some sort of likely drug-induced brain damage and your whole motivation/drive/pleasure system is screwed up, drive = pleasure for just about everything that exists. The system of seeking pleasure and the system of feeling pleasure, especially at a base level, are very obviously linked. I honestly want you to elaborate choof.

Like, is it that there's no drive just to be with someone else or just no sex drive in general? I'm sure both of those types of people exist and both seem to fit the term "asexual"?

If masturbating is pleasurable, then how can you not be driven to do it? I actually get that previous sentence myself, however it's still tied into overall pleasure though. Personally, I've had times in my life where my sex drive has been higher also lower, and I associate more pleasure from sexual activities when the drive itself has been higher. Like, if I'm just masturbating because I'm bored or I want to sleep and I'm barely mentally sexually aroused, that's just hardly going to be as pleasurable as when I'm super sexually aroused.
That's why I'm saying pleasure has something to do with it, because low sex drive in myself = less pleasure, and in order for me to understand I need to be told how is my experience different from an asexual's in order to understand that person's asexuality.

[TheSaxRunner05]

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the fact that I agree ITT with some people I used to have on ignore scares me somewhat, mainly b/c they constitute most of the argument I agree with.

People have all kinds of different definitions of relationships. There is not one exact example in which everyone lives by. There's obviously popular ones, of course, but asking for "one example" or "what is meant in the OP" is a flawed question.

Point is, some people feel like sex, or, to a certain extent, some kind of romantic behavior involving physical contact is an integral part of a serious relationship. Others don't. Learn to live with those that have a different definition/opinion. Just because they have a different opinion than you does not make them wrong, and it certainly does not indicate that they have mental issues holy shit I can't believe I just read that from someone that isn't snowc or lito /endrant

On a different note, Bridget summed up what I think you should do the most, Geoff. I think that's the best way to approach this situation. Its kinda funny that this thread has veered off of its course, but that you still are getting what you want out of it, I think.

Yea, Silly had a really great comment. On another note, I think this thread has run its course.

[Nyokou]

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Of course.

[Tokzic]

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For me, emotional intimacy and physical intimacy go hand-in-hand. If I'm emotionally intimate with someone, I can't help but desire physical intimacy with them.

Having physical intimacy without emotional intimacy isn't even possible because I won't have any attraction to someone I feel no emotional intimacy with.

[DotKritic]

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Sure you can have a relationship, but this sounds like, "Hey, lets be friends." Just like saying, "I want to be with you, but not have sex with you."

edit: I can see this if the person is at a young age and they're unsure; or they're at a mature age and they just don't want to have sex.

[choof]

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edit: nvm
stepmania

[welsh_girl]

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Nope. Intimacy is important in a relationship IMO.

[Spenner]

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In my relationship intimacy is just really nice and we both agree it's a really comforting and close time for us, so yeah, if there was no intimacy, it would just be a totally different relationship I'd be in.

So I can't be in the same relationship I am in without some form of intimacy, it's just a part of it. Mind you, this still sustains after not seeing each other for 6 months at a time (for this last gap @_@) it's just inevitable after we see each other again though. It's fun, and with someone you love, it's really comforting.

[PaperclipGames]

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I probably couldn't because I'm a very cuddly person.

But in any case it depends on the reason why my partner wouldn't feel intimate. I would be fine if say my partner were asexual. If they wouldn't be intimate for me for some personal reason (e.g. they wouldn't like me that way) then it's obvious that such a relationship wouldn't work, so then it's a no.

[I like it]

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personally my wife (who shall not be named) lives in the digital anime world so there is no way we would be able to be intimate (but don't tell her though), my pillow of her says otherwise though

she likes my fedoras a lot and i cant wait for the rest of our lives together

[choof]

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Miku? ?