Love

[Hwoarang137X]

There's a certain level of maturity necessary to even comprehend it and kids your age just don't have it.

That's so true, yet some people that age can understand it. Those people come along once in a blue moon.

But if you did understand it, you wouldn't be posting questions like this on an online forum, most of all a place like FFR. What you just oh-so-subtly said was that, regardless of what Guido had to say, you still understand it at your age. Personally, I disagree with the general scope of your comment. It takes a good portion of time and experience to determine what love is, at least in the sense that you're looking for. A ridiculously high proportion of high schoolers don't know what love is, and I would need a damn lot of convincing to believe that a middle school kid had a clue at best. I know that I personally had no idea whatsoever at that age.

Love is something that's very personal. It's pointless to try to describe it in any tangible sense, because it just won't give it justice when all is said and done. It can take on many different forms and many different levels, and it's possible to love someone that you have no intention of dating or marrying and aren't related to. It's all a matter of perspective, definition, and intention.

i don't think a forum is the right place to try and figure out which girl you want to stay with or make any personal decisions on (if she cheated on you, dump her)

but to answer your questions:

ideas- i think love is fabricated out of weakness and dependancies, and for people who can't hold their own and need to rely on others

love to me- a waste of time, energy and money

double feature- of course you could love more than one person, parents, partner, even your cat if you so please, why you would let yourself love even one person is a mystery to me

"true" love - when you depend on a person more than others, kinda like being a true mooch

symtoms - you lose friends, talk endlessly on the phone, a weekend seems like a long time to not see someone, you spend more than 20 dollars on her/him in a course of 6 months

and as for clearing your mind, go for a walk, sit on your roof, and don't bring your problems to the public

First of all, way to be a jerk (the only reason I stopped at jerk is because there's a filter). Step off and let this kid TRY and clear his head. He had a little trouble clearing it on his own, so he came here for help. While I don't agree with his decision, don't bash him for it. Secondly, drop the emo kid routine. There's enough of this crap in the world in general, even more so on the internet in general, and WAY more on this site in particular. We don't have mods throwing around EMO ALERTs for nothing. Third, go meet some wonderful person and fall for them and realize how stupid you are for writing that.

And fourth, twenty dollars in six months?! Damn, you are a greedy little boy, aren't you?

[blahblah18]

I used to respond that I don't know what love is... but I tihnk I do now... its amazing and miserable. Its when you care about someone so much that you can make yourself completely vulnerable to them... that you cna give yourself completely to them to do with as they will. Its a level of trust unparallelled with anything else that anyone can ever imagine. It is a state of being that dictates your actions.. I can only imagine what its like having a kid... that's got to be the ultimate.

[Tonberry_Kid]

[quote="GuidoHunter"]There's a certain level of maturity necessary to even comprehend it and kids your age just don't have it. Don't get discouraged; something better can, and likely will, come along in the future.


That's not 100% true. I happen to be extremely mature for my age. I have had people actually mistake me for a senior in high school for how I act. Not everyone acts the way they should at their age.

Ps. I don't know how to use quote lol.

[Hwoarang137X]

That's not 100% true. I happen to be extremely mature for my age. I have had people actually mistake me for a senior in high school for how I act. Not everyone acts the way they should at their age.

He's not saying that kids your age can't be mature, he's just saying there's a whole new degree of maturity that comes along with what love really is. You can be a mature person and not understand what love is at all. Actually, I don't know how old you are at all, but I was always considered to be exceptionally mature for my age starting at 6th grade. Now, being a recent graduate of high school, I can safely tell you that it was only two years ago that I understood what love really is. It's something that just takes time and experience, not raw maturity in itself.

P.S. You forgot to close the quote tag. Put "[/quote]" at the end of a quote to close it. Or, you know, just click the button at the bottom of post you want to quote.

[Verruckter]

I used to respond that I don't know what love is... but I tihnk I do now... its amazing and miserable. Its when you care about someone so much that you can make yourself completely vulnerable to them... that you cna give yourself completely to them to do with as they will. Its a level of trust unparallelled with anything else that anyone can ever imagine. It is a state of being that dictates your actions.. I can only imagine what its like having a kid... that's got to be the ultimate.

<3 blah, that's one of the most, if not the most precise description of love I've ever read (or heard).

IMO, the image of what love should be reflected by our society sucks. Movies, books and TV shows show love as such an easy thing, where one always falls in love with the most beautiful girl (or guy), and it works so easily. It works so well that they just have to look at each other in the eyes, without even saying "I love you", and BOOM, they are having sex on the kitchen table. Love is nothing like that. If one were really in love, he woulnd't even be able to approach the desired person.

Love is something strong, and as blah said, it makes you vulnerable. You can't just come and think that at first sight, that person will be your lover and will kiss you just like that. Love involes time, questions, doubts, actions, observation, etc.

That's what I had to say.

[crintae]

[quote="Verruckter"][quote="blahblah18"]I used to respond that I doni hate when people say that love is too powerful to describe with words.

here are some films--
"in the mood for love" by Wong Kar-wei
or if you want oldschool- "Casablanca"

some poetry
"braiding" by Li-Young-Lee
"the river merchant's wife" by Ezra pound
"sonnets for the portuguese" by elizabeth browning (oldschool)
shakespeare

some short stories
O' Henry
"What we talk about when we talk about Love" by Raymond Carver

also the age thing annoys me. With respect to all of the authors I just named. When they were 4 they knew more about love than anyone on this message board ever will.

[CaRmZ]

What are your ideas on love? wow......love is a magical and beautiful thing its like a spirit you can't see it but you can feel it.....

What is love to you? love to me is what I said about true love.......

Can you love two people at once? no to me thats morally wrong unless your loving your parents or family now thats different

What is "True Love"? True Love wow I don't think there is a single definition to true love....my definition of it is when two people a man and a woman are happy together and can express their love for one another through feeling and interact....sometimes love can be defined by simple saying I love you....love is a diffulcult thing to understand but I think I might have found it....with my boyfriend.....I love you Franky *my boyfriend*

How can you tell if it is or if it isn't? simple its when your mind and heart both agree

[Tonberry_Kid]

I used to respond that I don't know what love is... but I tihnk I do now... its amazing and miserable. Its when you care about someone so much that you can make yourself completely vulnerable to them... that you cna give yourself completely to them to do with as they will. Its a level of trust unparallelled with anything else that anyone can ever imagine. It is a state of being that dictates your actions.. I can only imagine what its like having a kid... that's got to be the ultimate.

*tears* Beautiful. Perfectly put.

[JurseyRider734]

I get pretty annoyed when in profiles I see "I love you (insert name here)!" when the person has been going out with the other for about...a day...or even a week. It bothers me more if they're like...14 years old. It bothers me if they're a tool, and they're whipped, and they think they're in love just because the person gives them attention when they do whatever they tell them to do. These people don't have the maturity to handle anything similar or related to love. They should probably be shot...well..not really, but you get the point.

If you're young and mature for your age, there's a possibility you might be able to comprehend love if the occassion arises. To do anything to stay with the person you have, to care about them, respect them, be comfortable around them, and have the most sincere affection for them that you could ever have...that's love. It's a great feeling to be in love with someone and them to love you back, although love can be the biggest pain in the ass. (Unrequited love). It's something you definitely have to work on.

omg quote from movie 4u

Romances. They're shooting stars, a spectacular moment of light in the heavens, fleeting glimpse of eternity, and in a flash they're gone.

Pretty true, great movie, too. Go watch The Notebook.

[Sera13]

This is a subject thats hard for me to really comment on becuase i could go on for days or even years about what love is to me. i know many people have yet ot even grasp the concepts of love and boast about how much they love their new boyfriends of a week, or even a month, and that is not love. Love is deeper than that, Love is proabably the most Vunerable things on the planet, It is pact with trust, and pain. Its when you can get into the biggest fight of your life and then kiss and make up and act like nothing happen. When you woudl give up anything and everything and live on the streets so your love can have the world. love is when nothing but the other person and their happiness seems even remotely relivant. Love is about who you could never see yourself without, not who you could see yourself with. When no matter what flaws your lover may have they are still perfect in your eyes. Its when you get up in the morning and dont have to worry about what you look like becuase you know your going to be beautiful to them anyway. love is when your not afraid to cry in eachothers arms, but scared to let them see you hurt becuase you know its hurts them.. love is all of this, and so much more.. its such a sensitive but fullhearted and passionate thing. Increadibly vunerable, but ever more strong. Not only is it a mental state of mind but when you are really in love, you get a feeling a true and physcal feeling in your chest like a pressure, but at that moment you can feel it the love, the special tingle.. its amasing.

[LegendaryDJ]

Hey, I've liked the same girl since 2nd grade and i'm in eigth grade now.

Unfortuanatly she doesn't feel the same way about me....

[jewpinthethird]

Love is insulting your partner's faults so they lose their self-confidence and become even more dependent of you.

[derangedmonkey18]

Hey, I've liked the same girl since 2nd grade and i'm in eigth grade now.

Unfortuanatly she doesn't feel the same way about me....

i am not quite sure thats exacitally what we are going for..

~*SERA*~

[MalReynolds]

Some advice to guys on love: If a girl ask you how she looks in jeans, don't say "Man, I've never seen a bigger ass... And I used to be an elephant hunter."

Even though you're kidding (I know I was), that's a good way to get someone to leave you alone in a huff. Love is never having to say you're sorry? Well, fine. Then it's not love, cause I apologized a lot after that.

Mal

[Sera13]

Love is never having to say you're sorry? Well, fine. Then it's not love, cause I apologized a lot after that.

Mal

who said that????