Online Dating

[xObserveRx]

well put laharl. Some people can relate to that, some people can't.

[aracelibercelle]

I agree with all of you pro-online dating. Sure, talking in person beats words on a screen any day, but don't the same messages and same personalities get portrayed? The only bad thing about online dating is that someone could easily pretend to be something they're not. But if you're a smart person, you can usually avoid those situations. Not always..but most of the time. I met a guy online that went to my school and knew some of my friends so I could be sure he was really a 17 year old guy instead of some 40 year old pervert. Another good thing is like Laharl said, that you can connect intellectually, and if you're talking to someone online, then you can know you truly like them for who they are, not just what they do or look like. In theory anyway. So, it is possible, it's not stupid, it does work, and it is a great way to meet people. I mean even now, aren't we all just a big group of people, strangers, talking to one another? What's the difference between meeting someone on here and just liking them for friendly conversation or whatever the case may be, and doing the same but going into deeper feelings? I've seen how you guys take a liking to one member or a total dislike to another, which is natural. That's because personalities do carry on in words. So why could you hate or dislike someone based on what they say..but not love?

well those are just my thoughts on the subject anyway. a scenario to at least think about, no?
pardon my inquisitiveness heh.

[Laharl]

Actually, that reminds me.

My cousin Brian married a girl he met through the internet, named Siobhan (pronounced "Shivan") from Scotland. I think they knew each other for about 2 years, and he convinced her to go to school at BYU. She did. They've got a baby due before the end of the year.

A lady in my ward that I've known for a long time (older sister of a girl I've gone to school with since kindergarten) is getting married to a US Marine she met through the internet here in about two weeks, if I remember correctly.

[banditcom]

Distances suck...

[alextrebek]

Tried it once. Dunno about how it is for other people, but it wasn't for me. Though I've made some good friends online. Surprisingly large number of people who aren't lying :O

[sweatervest]

Okay, so I was once like in love with, or thought i was with someone, i was sposta see him this summer and blah blah, he broke my heart a while ago, but whatever. i think that if you meet the right person, and you care for them enough, and you have the resources (web cam, phone, etc) that you can get along just fine dating over the net. However some people need the physical part. which is where i find it hard.

[NaOTa4231]

congrats on first post. online dating is stupid b/c u can say and be somone your not very easily. its just not real unless u actually meet the person.

[NaOTa4231]

off to look at Miami University!!!!!!!!!!

[xObserveRx]

see? some people still don't get it.

[sweatervest]

how can you be so naive. if you trust people, and know that you can trust them, then it works out, and dont congratulate me on my first post with sarcasm. i may be a new poster in these forums, but i post in others.
now.
as for online dating, it is ideal for some people, and you cant expect others to be honest if you arent 100% honest with them in return.

[aracelibercelle]

Well..I guess we've established that online dating is not for everyone...those who are missing out, are just that...missing out. If that's the way they wanna go then I'm sure they'll have good times meeting people in person. Everyone's different anyway, and do things their own way. I for one, though, think it works.

[xObserveRx]

Well its like shopping i think: Do you only shop at one store? And settle for the best item at that store only? No. You shop around all over, and pick the best item at the best store, for the best deal. It's the same thing.

I think dating people who are only around your area is "settling for less." Not that you couldn't meet the perfect person there, hell, they could be living next door. But still, saying that you wouldn't date someone who's perfect for you because of distance is sad.

[NaOTa4231]

First off i wasnt being sarcastic when i said congrats on the first post (dont know how you got that idea), and all i was saying is if you dont know what the person looks like that you are getting to know it can't work out (at least for me). As far as the trust thing if you are being 100 percent honest w/ someone then i agree you have no reason not to give the person the benefit of the doubt.

[Falcon]

how could u get so attached to him chrissi? You didnt even get to meet him.

Is touch that important to you?

Personally, I don't think that is something required to make someone fall in love with anotehr being, although it needs to be present for anything extremely serious to happen. Some people, such as Chrissi I assume and my own self, connect to people on an intellectual level, which is something you can find and obtain a healthy degree of through internet relationships (as in, any sort of relationship. Enemy, lover, friend, foe, etc.)

ah, laharl, its been a while.

we've had this discussion before... check like, 80 pages back in the chit chat forum. ima quote myself.... and laharl. hope you dont mind, bud.

i'll give it a shot.

I may have you missrepresented here, but I wanted to throw this out there...

The person I consider to be my girlfriend, I've never met with in person. I didn't see a picture of her until AFTER I was fairly certain that I could apply the word "love", one I never use liberally, towards her. (And before anyone things that I'm "being played", I'll just say that I had a very good friend whom I trust wouldn't ever screw with me that badly have me talk to her in the first place, one of his personal IRL friends.)

Now, you may have meant something to the extent that it wouldn't have got to this point if there wasn't that basic human desire to be with someone, often considered a sexual thought. Is that what you meant?

this concept is not for the faint of heart and the shallow. in order to truelly fall in love with someone without ever seeing them involves the sort of sould connection that has been referred to earlier and has nothing to do with sexual desire in the slighest. in order for a realtionship like this, whether it be "boyfriend girlfriend" or just a really deep friendship takes both of the parties involved realizing that, despite what the world tells them, there can be a relationship that can last without ever seeing that person and without ever actually desiring to have sex with them based on how they look. as far as the sex point goes... regardless of how mature or advanced a person (and by person i mean male) is there is always a certain sexual desire. however, in this instance it would not be based on looks. it would be based on sould connection and an actual desire to spend time with this person for the rest of your life. a personal example: a while back i heard about a new car forum ( i'm into cars... in case you didnt know) where i met a bunch of new people, several of which i started to chat with or post specifically to on the forum. with one in specific there was some sort of connection. we started to talk over AIM, and eventually phone numbers were exchanged. the second night of actually talking to this person she had told me basically her entire life story and many of the problems she was having for no apparent reason other than the fact that we connected. i'm fairly certain that if we lived closer (she lives 6 hours away) that we would be dating. by the way... shes 2 years older than i am. so, as for the concept of meeting people on the internet and becoming involved with them, it is completely plausible and sometimes effective, but takes an extraordinary set of people to be able to achieve this.

i'd say that about sums it up...

[banditcom]

I usually give people the benefit out the doubt most of the time, even if I don't know them. I don't assume they are being dishonest. You must not let anyone get close to you. That has to suck.....

And nearly all the people who become close friends or start a relationship online HAVE seen each other, talked on the phone, etc.

online dating is stupid b/c u can say and be somone your not very easily. its just not real unless u actually meet the person.

You can be someone you're not very easily in person as well, even hide your true gender. Oh, and what do you mean it's "not real"? The caring, the friendship, the love? HAHA... yea, okay.. don't be ignorant.