Online Dating

[TheTypist]

I'm not sure how to say that I agree with Jam930 without adding something that is devastatingly negative. So I'll just leave it at that.

[TheTypist]

Double post. Sorry

[Chrissi]

I will never again have an online relationship. The last one I had started out fairly good. But it's funny how you can think you know somebody and not actually know them. He was the sweetest, nicest, most caring guy I'd ever met. He was silly and was just everything I wanted.. we were together for 9 months or something like that. Then he dumped me with a 1-line email and cut off ALL contact for a few months, in which I tried to commit suicide.

He lived in england, so it wasn't like I could take a trip and see him. Well... he broke my heart and he was the last person I ever thought would do something like that. For real. I don't know how many times I hear people say that the person they've met is the most incredible and would never do something like that. And then you don't really believe them.. but I -knew- that he would never do something like that. Yet he did. We were so close and we shared everything. It still confuses me to this day how somebody like that could turn around so rapidly.

I talk to him now. I'm not sure why. And he says he can't tell me why he did what he did, but that he's sorry, yada yada... I have no way to believe him though.

[Jam930]

You're lucky he dumped you.

[Chrissi]

... um, I would agree, except that he dumped me in THE MOST HORRIBLE WAY POSSIBLE.

[xObserveRx]

Lucky he dumped her? how so?

Anyways, I had a year long online relationship before. It ended kinda badly, but it never has kept me from believing that they never work out. I'm sure all kinds work out, and on the other hand, all kinds fail, just like any other relationship. It's all about what Jazz was talking about. If you really love someone like that, then how you met them, or how often you spend time with them shouldn't affect it.

I think that just like other things before them, Internet relationships are still kinda Taboo. It shouldn't matter what other people think. If you want to date someone, whether it's on the internet, or over the phone, in person, or all three, It's no one's call except yours and theirs.

[Chrissi]

I think she meant because I would never have broken up with him. But I'm not sure what Jam meant really.

[xObserveRx]

yet you just blindly agreed with her?

[Chrissi]

*laughs* No.. I thought about if I agreed with what she said, and said what I thought. Am I lucky he dumped me? Yes. Am I lucky he dumped me the way he did? No. At this point in my life, I'm glad I'm not with him anymore. But I'm not glad that I went through such a horrid and confusing time.

[Jam930]

What's wrong with blindly agreeing with me?

j/k =P

I said something... she thought about it and came to a similar conclusion... therefore she agrees. This kind of thing happens all the time Observer, agreeing is a constructive process...

=D

[DarkLord63]

I don't trust many people and on the internet it is so easy to lie about who you are that i would not even think about dating someone on the internet.

[LEGO]

ahahahahhahahahahahahahahahahahahaha

funny topic

no no no no no no no

it is silly

[xObserveRx]

Okay, first off, Jamie, you really need to stop trying to look like you're better than everyone here, it's getting annoying.

and secondly, i think it basically comes down to trust. You're either gonna trust people, and learn the hard way, or not trust people, and never learn.

[NaOTa4231]

how could u get so attached to him chrissi? You didnt even get to meet him.

[Laharl]

how could u get so attached to him chrissi? You didnt even get to meet him.

Is touch that important to you?

Personally, I don't think that is something required to make someone fall in love with anotehr being, although it needs to be present for anything extremely serious to happen. Some people, such as Chrissi I assume and my own self, connect to people on an intellectual level, which is something you can find and obtain a healthy degree of through internet relationships (as in, any sort of relationship. Enemy, lover, friend, foe, etc.)