Respect

[agonist]

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Honestly I felt the same way (as the OP) when I was in high school. I got over it, and found a girl who was just as boring as I was.

Haha, I like this post

[Netjet!]

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I've gone through the thread and have cleaned it up from spam. Stop being dicks, seriously.

[spring25960]

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In some cases, self-respect is much more important than respect from others.But it doesn't mean that from others isn's important.

[DossarLX ODI]

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Self-reflection can really destroy someone's self respect, so I can agree with that. IMO it's better to have more of a CBF attitude towards your failures, just learn from them rather than being full of guilt; only time this is hard is when others berate you or tease you out of jest all the time.

I never self-reflect, and therefore, I have no negative thoughts about myself. However I am also aware about my successes.

[kmay]

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Seeing your own faults is not something to retract from, see what you can fix about yourself with a little fine tuning, practice what you are passionate for a grow from there. self-reflection is a good trait to have and you might want to be able to learn it dossar. without critiques how can you improve?

i agree you shouldn't hate yourself, but that is not self-reflection. if you think your perfect and someone comes up to you can calls you fat, and gross and all this other stuff it will hurt you a lot more if you can clearly judge yourself and know how you feel about certain parts of your body or personality

[TC_Halogen]

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Self-reflection can really destroy someone's self respect, so I can agree with that. IMO it's better to have more of a CBF attitude towards your failures, just learn from them rather than being full of guilt; only time this is hard is when others berate you or tease you out of jest all the time.

I never self-reflect, and therefore, I have no negative thoughts about myself. However I am also aware about my successes.

I very much agree with this, and it's a very big shame that I didn't have this mindset when I was in high school - failures were constant (to me) and I couldn't find myself to break out of this shell. I still have trouble trying to get over past mistakes, and self-reflection constantly plagues me from doing anything involving creativity or expression.

Being aware of this constant issue with self-reflection then starts to spread over to my overall attitude, which makes me a more shy and reserved person because I don't want anyone to see these "self-interpreted" flaws.

Seeing your own faults is not something to retract from, see what you can fix about yourself with a little fine tuning, practice what you are passionate for a grow from there. self-reflection is a good trait to have and you might want to be able to learn it dossar. without critiques how can you improve?

i agree you shouldn't hate yourself, but that is not self-reflection. if you think your perfect and someone comes up to you can calls you fat, and gross and all this other stuff it will hurt you a lot more if you can clearly judge yourself and know how you feel about certain parts of your body or personality.

And I agree with everything about this; while there are always people who will constantly demean your existence, there are others who will try to help you out in anyway they can. Listening to constructive criticisms from other people can in turn help your overall confidence when you would otherwise be too afraid to shine.

[All_That_Chaz]

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OP just wanted to let off some steam I can forgive that. You just need to get your own priorities straight. Sure sometimes members of the opposite sex can be very cruel, but hopefully at some point you figure out how to not fall for the cruel ones. The lack of respect is a problem with them, not you, so don't drive yourself crazy trying to please people you don't care about.

Focus your criticism on yourself rather than other people. Reflect on how you act and be honest with yourself. Are you always a nice person? Of course not. Nobody is (except maybe Hammy =p). When you do this and really work to improve yourself as a person, you'll find that disrespect from others doesn't hurt as much because you respect yourself and you know better.

What I'm getting at is that you need get your priorities straight. Your need for love and attention is getting in the way of self-actualization. Step back and bask in the love and affection you already receive from friends and family. Don't let jerks keep you from learning to respect yourself. Read about Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs. It makes a lot of sense.

[MetalAtlas]

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I didnt think this was gonna get as many posts or views as it did. Also, I dont take offense to anything that was said here, thank you for all your opinions. Sometimes I get a bit carried away and im sure, like anyone else, I sometimes get lonely and wonder what it is that i do wrong. Yeah, I probably should quit complaining and just get up and do, but sometimes, when things get rough, you end up thinking about anything and everything, especially stuff that shouldnt be a priority. I would consider myself a nice guy, but sure, there is plenty of room for improvement. I saw somewhere that someone posted, actually i believe it was Kayla, about being too good friends with someone and that it just becomes akward if youre really good friends. Well, I dont see it fair to treat anyone differently, so I guess it would be akward with everyone, which would kinda make sense. But i can live with that. And also, I apologize for making generalizations. I know alot of really awesome woman who are great respectable people, such as Kayla, ichlie, panic just to name a few on the site. I tend to get flustered, just like anyone else. But honestly, thank you for all the insight.

Ps. I saw a picture of myself. LOL. Good point. I forgot I had that picture on here lol. Confidence shouldnt be shown in mirror pics haha

[who_cares973]

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Oh man this thread. Can't respect others unless you can respect yourself. Ooze confidence and woman will be all up on yo dick. When it comes to dating think of yourself as a product. Make yourself as marketable as possible. Works every time. Pretty much just go with what rubix said. I mean look at his ugly ass. He's probably gotten more ass with his ego than tk hero has with his muscles. Just sayin

Also I self reflect a lot just don't dwell on the negatives as much and you'll be golden

[Reincarnate]

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lol I'm actually a really tall, decent-looking dude IRL (on a good day, anyway) -- but I don't think that's what matters. You can be unattractive but still do well with women as long as you're funny/interesting/smart. There's also a difference between ego and confidence. IMO confidence is lack of worry of failure. Ego is an arrogant, self-entitling assumption of success.

[who_cares973]

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can't be confident without having an ego tho

[rushyrulz]

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I've gone through the thread and have cleaned it up from spam. Stop being dicks, seriously.

K, move it to CT next time you go through removing trolls from a super serious topic. :/
It's amazing how there's hardly any trolls in that forum and a surplus in this one.

but seroiusly, this is a critical thinking topic, not a chit chat one.

Productive part of this post so it doesn't get deleted by you know who:

Best way to get people to respect you is to respect them. If you're not respectul to others, why do you deserve respect from them? If you're being completely respectful to someone and they're douching back at you, it's probably time to break the connection with that person (unless it's family, but you can't pick them...). Really the only way to get a mass of people to change themselves is to make little dents yourselves, kinda like the green movement. Being good is contagious, but unfortunately, so is being bad.. So if you are GOOD to other people, they might start being GOOD as well. The hardest part is trying to be nice to some disrespectful ignoramus.

[who_cares973]

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CT doesn't have trolls because its a bannable offense lol its in the CT rules sticky

[mnnicol]

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Love how so many posts got deleted lmao

And what you on about, WC. Rubix is a 12/10 ezy

OP, just be more confident. You're a fine looking dude (no homo) so what've you got to be worried about? Don't be treating every girl like a goddess and be more confident in yourself 'cos

Ooze confidence and woman will be all up on yo dick