Parental Question

**TheRapingDragon** · 05-20-2007, 03:20 PM

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About the mower: you left it until 1 hour before you were supposed to have finished. That was your fault, if anything you should have done it that morning just to have it out of the way. Though your mum changing it to 5pm was wrong but as I said, you should have had it already done.

Concerning the rest, well, I can't comment on your mum or what she thinks you do or don't do. We don't live in your house, we don't see what you do. We don't know if she has a point or if you do.

Just try to reason with her, that's all you can do. Talk to her about it, explain this to her in an adult manner and try to show her that you are feeling a bit undervalued and want to know how you both can come to an agreement.

Just be sure not to come off as sarcastic or annoyed or anything.

**All_That_Chaz** · 05-20-2007, 03:24 PM

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her house, her rules. be as calm and mature as you can when arguing your point with her, but if she doesn't change her mind, deal with it. you have to play the game with parents.

**Pikachu655** · 05-20-2007, 03:26 PM

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Hmmmm i get that from my mother a lot to, cept i'm accually not any older that 16 (my profile says otherwise) also Don't bend over for her personaly i think that if i tell some one i'll do something at a spacific time or have it done at/by a spacific time and this some one then prevents me from doing it i'd want to say something along the lines of: it's your fault i couldn't do it! but then they would reaspond: but you could have done it sooner! Uh yea i could have IF you had been smart enough to tell me that you where taking the lawn mower or a spacific tool needed to get the job done. I could go on and on but overal opinion Tell her that you'll do it on another day of the week becuase she prevented you from getting it done. If she says no then just go anyways sure you'll get "Grounded" but what does that do but keep you from doing a few things?

**Wlfwnd91** · 05-20-2007, 03:29 PM

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I guess I should specify that she left at 7am.. And there's some noise law in our town, that on a Saturday you can't mow your lawn or something til 9-10am

EDIT @ TRD: She used to actually be really understanding and treated me as an equal until her boyfriend showed up. Now if I talk to her like an equal I have an attitude, so either I bend down or I actually GET an attitude to try and put myself above her because I'm being shoved down so much.

I do try and reason with her, and it really doesn't work. Especially when the douche bag (her boyfriend) is around.

**Pikachu655** · 05-20-2007, 03:33 PM

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Just out of curiosity what is her boyfriend like? As in metal head, druggie, stupid person, something like that?

**alster1** · 05-20-2007, 03:34 PM

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Originally posted by All_That_Chaz

her house, her rules. be as calm and mature as you can when arguing your point with her, but if she doesn't change her mind, deal with it. you have to play the game with parents.

i agree fully
~al

**Wlfwnd91** · 05-20-2007, 03:35 PM

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Originally posted by Pikachu655

Just out of curiosity what is her boyfriend like? As in metal head, druggie, stupid person, something like that?

He's big, black, grew up in chicago, and is sincerely dumb.

**TheRapingDragon** · 05-20-2007, 03:36 PM

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Originally posted by alster1

i agree fully
~al

Read the rules:

1. Only post if you can contribute something to the topic/debate. This means no more: "What <insert name> Said" , or "I agree/disagree".

Also, Wlfwnd91, unfortunately you still cannot be rude or immature to her or anything, you have to continue to get her to listen to reason. Be adult, be clear with your points before you bring them up and then sit your mum down and talk to her. If she won't be reasonable then unfortunately your options boil down to "stick with it" or "move out".

**ashleychauntel** · 05-20-2007, 03:37 PM

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It may be her house and her rules but it is unfair for your mom to treat you that way. I think a big part of growing up deals with parents treating kids like adults and giving them adult responsibilities as well. If you mom gives you a time then I don't think she should be able to change it on you last minute and then expect you to abide completely - if she is the one that messed up the initial plan than she is the one that should be willing to make a compromise with you on when the chore could be completed, but not last minute.

That is not fair to you.

I don't really know much about you or your mom or your life - that is just what I think in regard to a parent/child relationships. Parents have to be willing to bend a bit, children on there at their beck and call and aren't supposed to be.

Oh, and I am not saying be an ass to your mom - but you may want to explain to her that you are trying to grow up too and that you aren't there yet, you're still a kid and you want to do kid like things, like hang out with your friends and that she can't just expect you to do everything she wants whenever she feels like it. She took the lawn mower, she should have to work with you on completing the job she wants done because she messed up the first time.

**Wlfwnd91** · 05-20-2007, 03:44 PM

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Thanks guys. I was expecting a lot more flaming of me, but you've all been real cool and helped me get my thoughts straightened a lot more. I'm heading out now, but if you all want to keep discussing this I'd love to read what else you guys have to say when I get back. Thank you again (I know not a CT post, but wanted to show my appreciation)

**slipstrike0159** · 05-20-2007, 03:51 PM

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Originally posted by Pikachu655

Hmmmm i get that from my mother a lot to, cept i'm accually not any older that 16 (my profile says otherwise) also Don't bend over for her personaly i think that if i tell some one i'll do something at a spacific time or have it done at/by a spacific time and this some one then prevents me from doing it i'd want to say something along the lines of: it's your fault i couldn't do it! but then they would reaspond: but you could have done it sooner! Uh yea i could have IF you had been smart enough to tell me that you where taking the lawn mower or a spacific tool needed to get the job done. I could go on and on but overal opinion Tell her that you'll do it on another day of the week becuase she prevented you from getting it done. If she says no then just go anyways sure you'll get "Grounded" but what does that do but keep you from doing a few things?

Was that seriously 4 sentences...? wow

In any case, sadly enough in these cases you are completely at fault in the eyes of your parents if you do one thing wrong. You should have done it all on friday plain and simple, procrastinating will get you screwed. Sometimes you just have to accept the fact that parents have 'supreme executive authority' (lol at monty python quote) over you. Politically your only options are to do something to get into foster care (horrible idea), emancipating from your mom (another horrible idea), running away (equally horrible) or taking it until you move out. However, once you move out you are going to have to take it from your boss and many other superiors.

**alster1** · 05-20-2007, 03:54 PM

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all these long replies are making me nauseous...

**1337h4xz0r** · 05-20-2007, 04:13 PM

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Sounds just like my dad =), only he's more of a dick.

**Pikachu655** · 05-20-2007, 04:33 PM

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Originally posted by slipstrike0159

Was that seriously 4 sentences...? wow

In any case, sadly enough in these cases you are completely at fault in the eyes of your parents if you do one thing wrong. You should have done it all on friday plain and simple, procrastinating will get you screwed. Sometimes you just have to accept the fact that parents have 'supreme executive authority' (lol at monty python quote) over you. Politically your only options are to do something to get into foster care (horrible idea), emancipating from your mom (another horrible idea), running away (equally horrible) or taking it until you move out. However, once you move out you are going to have to take it from your boss and many other superiors.

You don't have to accept it but you still gotta live with it. I'd also like to add that if you think your mothers boyfreind (or dad's girlfriend) is a total dick no matter how selffish or rude your parent is they should at least listen to what you have to say. You should tell your mother what you think of this guy, also some advice when you do this: make sure he isn't able to hear you tell her your opinion.

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