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  • Rebirth0
    FFR Originalbro
    FFR Simfile Author
    • Jun 2003
    • 8751

    #1

    Desperate Situation...

    I honestly don't know where to post this or anything. I don't know if it will get locked or flamed or anything, but I have to try something...


    I'm in a situation here, I think I need to do something but I'm not quite sure on what I should do. I don't really think any opinions would change my mind on what I want to do though.

    I met someone a few months ago, on ODI. I spent time talking to that person, who is a girl, and started to like her. It may be pretty pathetic if you say so, but we are "going out". (even though this is just online crap right now, but I don't care) We're supposed to really meet for the first time during the meetup here in Kansas City next summer. Over the last few months I guess we had grown quite attached to each other. Enough for me to say that I really love her, even if I just know her through the computer.

    Earlier tonight...she told me some stuff. How something about this is emotionally damaging her for some reason. How she can't handle or deal with it right now. Much of the reason is because we really can't see each other in person. She lives in LA, California, while I live in Kansas City, Missouri. 1600 miles land are between us.

    I had been talking about somehow going to see her for this Christmas. Waiting until the summer (we would be waiting one year) seemed just too long of a wait. She said that it would probably be best if we waited for the summer. How it might mess things up with her parents, cancelling her trip this summer if I came down there and if they found out some stuff. So I forgot about it, and had my mind set on waiting for the summer. Now that this happened, I think that it really is best to go see her this Christmas. I have to do something about it, I can't sit and wait another 7 months, especially after hearing this...

    Here's my true problem. I have $200, and it will cost probably around $1,000 to make the trip. It will probably be $200 - 300 in gas just to drive ONE WAY. There's about $500 in gas alone, then I need a hotel and money for food and all this other stuff. I also have no job. I've tried quite a few times to get one around town, but not enough places hire people my age (15 currently, even though I'm ALMOST 16).

    I've got to get the money, any way I can. I have to go. But without a job, it will be near impossible. It already would be near impossible even WITH a job though.

    So I've gone this low....(in my opinion. Doing this is pretty much my last resort) I've got to get the money, and I have a month to do it. My parents won't be much help, because they have no money anyway. I could probably get SOME from them, but it wouldn't be enough. Given the situation, and if you guys had some money to spare, would you donate it to me so I could go and see her? Even if there's a chance that I might not be able to pay you back, (larger donations (if I even get any) will CERTAINLY be paid back).

    I hate even bringing this up, but I need the money more than anything else right now...
  • Grandiagod
    FFR Player
    • Jul 2004
    • 6122

    #2
    Re: Desperate Situation...

    Uhhhh, first of all, Internet romances rarely work since the avalability for physical itimacy (not just sex, general closeness) is extremely limited. As you are finding out.

    Second of all, I hate to say it, but a relationship at 15 years old never lasts. Especially one like yours, the situation is too extreme. So it is doubtful that anyone is going to give you money for a doomed relationship.

    Third, I actually believe you though. Maybe I'm an idiot.
    He who angers you conquers you. ~Elizabeth Kenny

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    • Rebirth0
      FFR Originalbro
      FFR Simfile Author
      • Jun 2003
      • 8751

      #3
      Re: Desperate Situation...

      I've known all of the odds from the start. Being 15, living 1600 miles away. There's a small chance of it ever working out. Everybody might say this, but I've never been more sure of something than I am of this working out. I have no doubts in my mind about it.

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      • TD_Duckie
        FFR Player
        • Nov 2006
        • 31

        #4
        Re: Desperate Situation...

        I have an internet relationship with a boy, who i've known for about 3 years now. Hes always seemed to be the closest i've ever been to a person, just without the physical part, and feeling. I know you probably no matter what people, including myself, tell you, wont matter, but Grandiagod is right. Also, Relationships online can never be trusted, unless the girl has live webcam and can prove to be who she says she is by doing something. But when you meet someone for the first time in person, no matter how much you know them over the internet and how close you've gotten to them, they could be what you never expected, and the whole trip your really trying to get to work will be a waste.
        Be careful though, with whatever you plan to do.
        Last edited by TD_Duckie; 11-22-2006, 12:23 AM. Reason: Spelling mistake
        Originally posted by TD_Project
        i would hope you dont mash anything with your penis.

        thats just.. i dont even know what to say.
        Girls are from Venus,
        And boys are from Jupiter.
        I think

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        • xxH03xx
          FFR Player
          • Mar 2005
          • 463

          #5
          Re: Desperate Situation...

          I really think that your relationship wont work because it is an online relationship.they never work doode.just keep it online until she comes to see you and thats when you smash her vagina



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          • UberMario
            FFR Player
            • Aug 2005
            • 1777

            #6
            Re: Desperate Situation...

            H03 is so modest.

            I met my lady I've been with for a year now on the internet. Lives 600km from here. I'd say go to someone with alot of money and just promise to pay them back. I spent about $500 on my woman and I've to pay my sister back still... but that's because I don't have a job and don't plan on getting a job. You probably can get the money back more assuringly than me anyways.

            By the way, I don't blame everyone that doesn't give you money. Just go to bars with fake id and gamble high stakes with playing pool.
            That's cool Mario, but how come whenever you eat mushrooms, everything gets bigger but your dick?

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            • angel-d
              FFR Player
              • Feb 2005
              • 278

              #7
              Re: Desperate Situation...

              My suggestion is to go out and enjoy life. If you meet up over summer and things work out, great, start from there and see what happens. if they don't, never mind, it happens. But you can't scrape together money to see her sooner, especially if she doesn't want you too.

              Also if you have such a great relationship now over the internet, why try to change that so fast. As far as you know, things could be totally different in person and you might not get along at all. I'd say enjoy what you have together now and see what happens if and when it does.

              Unfortunately long distance relationships between adults who have been together for years before they have to move away rarely work. So your chances are slim to none.

              Sorry to sound so negative, but my fiance and i lived half way round the world form each other for 3 years (i was 20 and he was 19) after we had been together for 4 years and we only just made it and are still working out some issues after almost 6 months of being back in the same house. I know how hard it can be, and it would have been 10 times harder if we didn't spend a lot of money on flights 3 times a year, phone calls and fast internet connections (to use skype without lag).

              Good luck to you and i hope everything works out. If it doesn't, remember you are still young, there is plenty of time to have many more relationships which will most likely feel just as special.

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              • blitzmage
                Banned
                • Sep 2003
                • 506

                #8
                Re: Desperate Situation...

                Originally posted by Rebirth0
                Earlier tonight...she told me some stuff. How something about this is emotionally damaging her for some reason. How she can't handle or deal with it right now. Much of the reason is because we really can't see each other in person. She lives in LA, California, while I live in Kansas City, Missouri. 1600 miles land are between us.

                I had been talking about somehow going to see her for this Christmas. Waiting until the summer (we would be waiting one year) seemed just too long of a wait. She said that it would probably be best if we waited for the summer. How it might mess things up with her parents, cancelling her trip this summer if I came down there and if they found out some stuff. So I forgot about it, and had my mind set on waiting for the summer.

                Those bits seem to suggest she isn't really intrested in you fully and she never thought the relationship would go that far. So now shes kinda backing out maybe worried and trying to make excuses and such prolonging.

                1000 dollars for a 15 year old is rediculous and you will never make that money or even get it donated. She doesn't even seem to be intrested in the relationship and I imagine if you did go anyway she would proberly stand you up and run.

                I seriously do not see this working at all, don't waste your money and don't ask for it it will end in dissipointment anyway.

                I know you will not agree with this at all but thats pretty much a natural reaction for someone blindly 'in love'.

                tl;dr version: This simply won't work out.

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                • Tasselfoot
                  Retired BOSS
                  FFR Simfile Author
                  • Jul 2003
                  • 25185

                  #9
                  Re: Desperate Situation...

                  if you are 15, how do you plan to drive?

                  also, gas is cheaper than you think. figure about $20 for 200 miles. all highway driving, you can almost certainly get better milage than that, but i'm just playing worst case. 3200 miles round trip is 16 x 200. or $320. not $500... and as I said, almost certainly less.

                  motels would run you 50-70 a night, food you can probably do on 15-20 max a day. so figure 100 between food and motel. so if you where there a week it would cost you 1000. 100 for 7 days plus 300 in gas.

                  regardless... i don't see this as a good idea. relationships never work at 15 when you see the person every day.
                  RIP

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                  • iPatcH
                    Swamp Lemons Rule
                    FFR Simfile Author
                    FFR Music Producer
                    • Dec 2004
                    • 3370

                    #10
                    Re: Desperate Situation...

                    The whole internet thing worked for me, and I've known the lady since I was 15 (now 18).

                    Also, why don't you just fly? I would think it'd be around the same cost, but less work for you.

                    edit: actually, dude, I found some round trip flights from there to LA for as low as $262 on Cheaptickets.com between Dec 20 and Jan 31. There are some really cheap tickets, I'd get them now before it's too late. Just find one with a time and price that's okay for you.
                    Last edited by iPatcH; 11-22-2006, 08:43 AM.
                    put on a donk on it

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                    • Rebirth0
                      FFR Originalbro
                      FFR Simfile Author
                      • Jun 2003
                      • 8751

                      #11
                      Re: Desperate Situation...

                      If I flew, I would have no car to drive around with when I got there. I don't know. I know it's cheaper and faster to fly, but I'd pretty much rather drive.

                      I know it may be a waste to do this, but I'm going to try anyway.

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                      • Tokzic
                        FFR Player
                        • May 2005
                        • 6878

                        #12
                        Re: Desperate Situation...

                        See, me, I just have fangirls. All of the sexual availability, none of the drama.

                        Last edited by Tokzic: Today at 11:59 PM. Reason: wait what

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                        • TD_Project
                          FFR Player
                          • Dec 2005
                          • 427

                          #13
                          Re: Desperate Situation...

                          heh, this summer im going somewhere as well to meet someone. From Winnipeg, MB, Canada to Texas. Thats one hell of a drive, i have a few suggestions:

                          First
                          get a job over christmas break and save like a mad man.

                          Second
                          get a friend to come along, contribute money for gas and you two can call it a road trip

                          Third
                          MAKE SURE your car is ready for the trip, you dont want to be stranded because of an oil leak, or something of that nature.

                          all in all, even though your 15, good luck. You just might need it.

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                          • Tasselfoot
                            Retired BOSS
                            FFR Simfile Author
                            • Jul 2003
                            • 25185

                            #14
                            Re: Desperate Situation...

                            Originally posted by Me
                            if you are 15, how do you plan to drive?
                            o rly...
                            RIP

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                            • Grandiagod
                              FFR Player
                              • Jul 2004
                              • 6122

                              #15
                              Re: Desperate Situation...

                              He's almost 16, so he can drive alone at his birthday, at least under most state's laws.
                              He who angers you conquers you. ~Elizabeth Kenny

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