Serious thread about love.

[dancingmaniac3]

Okay so, I need ideas on how to ask this girl out...

background info: we've been talking for a few(2-3) months, but she wasn't ready for a relationship or anything, and she wanted to take things slow. So i respected that and gave her all the time she needed...and i never asked her out or anything because of that. Well now she's ready to actually be with me, and she drops hints and all, but naturally, being a guy, i didn't read them very well. So her best friend just called me and explained to me how she wants me to ask her out and stuff...and i'm planning on doing it at school tomorrow during lunch, since we leave campus and whatnot as a big group of friends...I just need ideas on how to make it special, cause shes a special girl and i dont want it to be a plain "will you go out with me" deal...

I need ideas on what to say and what to do. So far, I was thinking of going with the traditional approach of buying flowers that morning or right before lunch and writing it on a card or something...cause girls love flowers. But idk what to say...and i know i should just say how i feel and whatnot, but i'm afraid ill stammer and just fail at life.

Ideas? Please. And this is a serious situation i'm in...bad place to ask for advice, i know, but its whatever.

Thanks in advance...I really like this girl alot.

[sertman]

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My advice is to find a spot where you two can be alone, maybe on a park bench or something, and just put your arm around her and say "Will you go out with me?"

Asking someone out usually isn't the thing that needs to be special, tbqh. Save that for proposing (if it gets that far rofl)

[dancingmaniac3]

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Well I was going to like pull her aside during lunch and bust out the flowers and ask her there, or ask her on the way back to school since we'll be alone and bust out the flowers from my backseat of the truck...but idk what to say or how to say it...i want it to be memorable and special cause i think i'm going to be with this girl for a looooong time...

[sertman]

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Don't bother with the flowers dude... i mean it wouldn't hurt but it's a bit over the top if you're just asking her out

How old are you? If you're still in high school, usually the relationships don't last that long. Now it may work out for you that it does, but don't get your hopes up

[imockthepea]

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Don't be to nervious, just remain calm and cool. I don't know why this worked out for me but it seems that playing tag can help. But yeah flowers are a little over the top for asking someone out. Find a nice spot secluded and such and just be like "You know I would really like to get to know you better", or just stright up asking someone out works to. Idk sometimes improve works also. Good luck!

[Cj_leonine]

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punch her in the face. . . damn said serious.

make sure it's actually a girl. seriously if you're goin' with someone for awhile and it turns out she got a pee pee. . .yea

[Tasuke]

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Say: "I love you."
her: "What?" or "Really?"
you: "nothing, wanna go out sometime?"
or "Well, kinda but let's just start slow."

[dark-juju]

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Get here away from the big group of friends. Somewhere you can sit down next to her. Put your arm around her, and say "Be mine?"


Done deal.

[Hr2]

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Phone her up

Ask her how she's doing

Say "Can I take you out to *dinner* *lunch* *movie* on *day of week*?"

Don't bother with all this excessive bull****. If you want to do it in real life, do the same thing, just make sure there aren't other people around.

Putting your arm around her won't make a difference, if she wants to she'll say yes, if she doesn't want to she'll say no. If she says no and you still want to, I dunno I guess that's time for the excessive stuff, I get asked out more than I ask people out, and I've only been told yes rofl

[eVILPeeR]

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Just do what sertman said. Don't take it too far, you won't know you're gonna be with someone for a long time until you're with them for quite awhile.

Also, another reason for not getting flowers is because it might scare her off. As nice as it is, it might be too much.. and she may think you feel stronger than she does.. which is a bad thing, and can end things and make things awkward and **** it up real quick. Just take it easy, find a quiet spot and just ask if she'd like to try a relationship with you. Tell her you're willing, and if she is then say like "Okay, well would you be willing to have a relationship with me?"

Simple as that, dude.

~Jeff

[SethSquall]

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Don't bother. Just arrange to go bowling, movies or whatever you cool kats do. With your group of friends, don't feel pressured. Just spend more time with her. When two peoples are attracted to each other, they naturally get close. It obvious. If you make a whole plan of attack things can go horrible wrong. You'll know when the moments right. Its not about espionage and ways of pulling her aside.

[dancingmaniac3]

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Well, i should've mentioned this, but we've been like casually dating for a few months now. We already look and act like a couple, just haven't really tied the knot so to speak. By that I mean we've already gone on dates, met the parents, did the whole movie/cuddle thing, and i just came back from her house where we sat on her couch and she layed her legs across my lap and we sat and held hands and just talked about life. She constantly misses me every moment of the day, and i do as well...So this isn't like I just met her and want to get to know her. It's basically a situation where we just want to like make it an official relationship, with a set date and everything. You know what i mean.

I decided to go with the flower approach today.

[stretchypanda]

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Get here away from the big group of friends. Somewhere you can sit down next to her. Put your arm around her, and say "Be mine?"


Done deal.

I would totally laugh in a guy's face if he pulled this one.

Not really to be mean either, but more because I'd be pretty certain he was joking, because that's one of the dumbest tricks I've heard of.

[natetheffrer]

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whatever you do, dont go with an upturned collar.

[Tasselfoot]

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I'd do it alone... away from the group. Flowers do seem a bit much for asking her out.

BUT... if you want to go the flowers route, I'd suggest getting them sent to her DURING school. Don't know if your school would deliver them to her in the middle of class, but it definately happened once in my HS that I saw.

That would be the way to go, IMO. So long as it wouldn't embarrass her. Cause it would definately make every other girl in the class jealous.