What do I do?

[Zekramcross]

Hey guys,

I've have a serious problem to discuss and so I'm expecting serious answers. Let me give you some background first before I dip into the problem itself. I have been picked on at school since the 5th grade, which in my opinion is just ridiculous, and it hasn't stopped since. During that time I threatened to end my life due to how bad it was. I later realized that there's no point to it and that I had to "suck it up".

Well, here I am in high school senior year and I'm STILL getting picked on. I'm just at the point of exploding and just beating the living shit outta someone. I'm usually a cool guy with a high annoyance tolerance, but this has gone off for far too long. The problem that I'm dealing with is that I'm constantly picked on by people in the school, bus, or any other event involving the school. Sure I tried ignoring and the whole "tell an adult" is completely redudant at this point. It has gotten bad to where it has became physical frequently.

What do I do? I have no clue as to how I'm going to solve this.

[iironiic]

Re: What do I do?

Well did you make any attempt to speak to someone closer about the problem? I would talk to someone who would listen, like your parents, teachers, friends, the principal, etc.

An alternative way is to make fun out of their insults. I've done this back in middle school when I was constantly picked on for being Asian. Someone at one point stretched their eyes at me, but instead of the typical "whatever" response, I started acting like a ninja. They were scared and ran away hahaha. I wouldn't do this too much though because well, it's like degrading yourself in a sense.

Hope this helps!

[Xayphon]

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People who mock on you usually expect rage from you as a result of their doings in order to feel satisfacted, accomplished, cool in front of their buds etc etc. Talking to an adult person is not really working anymore, except they make sure these people will get into ****ing re-educational camps

- Best thing to do is not to rage, go mad or ignore them, because that's what they expect the most and it's like feeding the trolls if you know what I mean

- Do something unexpected, e.g. any reaction that makes them feel weird instead of accomplished

- Mock them back at an instant if possible (not with an insult, but maybe with some logical conclusion or any other thing that makes you look rather intelligent than a qq-person)

- Always stay calm and try to make some I-don't-give-a-****-about-you-gaise expression

- Sarcastic hey-I-find-that-funny joke

- Go into a Karate or Self-Defense club /secretly/

- Anything else that is mentioned here

- If your anger is really getting that uncontrollable, feel free to go all out on them, but make sure you're aware of possible consequences


Sometimes those who pick on you are losers themselves or stupid as shit and need the attention by their friends in order to hide their true problems in rl, like an unsecure future, family problems, bad grades and so on (I don't know the people who annoy you, so that might not be true, but I expect people at your age to be intelligent enough to know that picking up on someone innocent without a reason is more than a dickmove) so keep that in mind as well for some more self-esteem to speak up against them

[Cavernio]

Re: What do I do?

People stopped picking on me when I got physically violent the middle of class. But I'm a girl and the people picking on me weren't the 'let's make a gang to beat her up' type people, so I didn't have to worry about getting the snot kicked out of me. It was also grade 8. I don't really recommend it.

So, umm, by highschool senior, are you almost done or have 1 more year after this? Because if you're almost done just focus on the fact that once you're not with the same group of people who've probably picked on you your whole life, things will get better.

[benguino]

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Considering you are a high school senior, I assume that means you're graduating soon. With that in mind, know that things will likely get much better when you head off to college. You'll get to start off with a clean slate, most of the people there won't know of your past experiences back in high school. Just know that first impressions still mean a lot, so keep your head up high and keep confident.

Also, try to keep in touch with any close friends you have, even if it means by phone/internet if you are too far away from any of them once you move. The good thing about moving to a new place is that you get to keep all the good relationships you've had with people via the technology we have today (phone/internet) and you won't have to deal with any bad relationships you've had from before.

That being said, once you do move, try your best to get to know people, creating a network of people you can trust and depend on is very crucial. And when I saw get to know people, I mean more than just other students. Of course, you'll want to make some new friends as well (see if any of your friends has a friend that'll be going to the same school as you. The easiest way to make friends is by becoming friends with your friends' friends.)

Also get to know some of your professors. If you come across a professor that you enjoy (i.e. no-monotone, enthusiastic in a non-creepy way, makes the class internesting, etc) go visit them during their office hours and ask questions or discuss some things about the subject; some professors, if they are a good one, will be happy that you are interested in the subject they teach (and they'll be happy that they motivated you) and creating good relationships with professors like that will be more than useful after you finish the class, they can give you handy information (I've gotten information about a paid summer internship in the math department at my local university from my calc professor), they can be a valuable resource (I've asked my high school chem teacher for help for a chem class over facebook, lawl), and they can write you a good recommendation letter.

I know that I've done almost nothing to solve the original question, my bad. Just know that things are sure to get better later, and know that later is rather soon.

EDIT: broke up what I said into paragraphs instead of a wall of text

[Mau5]

Re: What do I do?

Things will get much better, especially considering you've made it this far into schooling and you're almost done. If people pick on you, they're looking for a negative response from you. If you play it out cool like you don't even care and they're not worth the time, you win. Because if you don't let them ever win, they know they're a failure at even trying, and after awhile it just ends because they give up.

That's just in my own experiences, it depends on the gravity of what this "picking on" is, I mean don't get me wrong there's nothing wrong with like physical self defense haha.

Just let the worthless human beings that pick on you know that they're not good at anything they do by simply playing it out without caving in. They'll stop haha. Atleast they did for me

Hope this helps! Just so you know once you finish highschool you'll probably never see any of those people again.

Edit: Oh yeah what Iironic said, don't ignore them, they're expecting that, especially if they're being physical

[Kibblre]

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I'm going to sound like a jerk for saying this, but just try to ride it out. If you're a senior, you've only got a little bit left. As far as my college experience so far has played out, everybody is much nicer than in high school. I'm the gamer-type kind of guy, and I live in a hall with a couple other gamers, some sports players, band kids, and various other "groups" from high school. Everyone here gets along just fine.

[wargasm1]

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heres my advice to you : **** them up and they'll stop. every punch you throw u might receipe 5 in return, but nobody likes to be punched so they'll stop.

u might also want to consider weightlifting.

Remember people pick on others usually becuase they lack confidence, work on that too.

[reptile3141]

Re: What do I do?

Aww, man. Since you're almost done with school, my best advice to you would be to stay strong and tough it out. Like others have said in this thread, college is so much better. Based on my own experience and the experiences of the people I know, all the drama/bullying shit that goes on in high-school is practically non-existent in college.
P.S. I would recommend against getting physical unless it's self-defense, bro.

[Hateandhatred]

Re: What do I do?

heres my advice to you : **** them up and they'll stop. every punch you throw u might receipe 5 in return, but nobody likes to be punched so they'll stop.

u might also want to consider weightlifting.

Remember people pick on others usually becuase they lack confidence, work on that too.

As ass as this is, it;s pretty much the only thing that works, depending on the level of the picking up.

It didn't work for me because that meant getting screwed by 10 of them and getting ruined by baseball bats, hockey sticks, lighters and other craps I'm no too sure I want remember for very, very painful minutes.

But if they're not the type to gang up on you, show them who's the boss. Violence is never the solution, but only in a perfect world.

And like anyone said, you're graduating. People are more civilized after high school.

[DarknessXoXLight]

Re: What do I do?

I've been picked on since the 2nd grade and being the kind of person I am, I just tolerated it until high school. In high school I fought back, not in a rage way or physical way, but I would laugh at everything people would say. It eventually stopped because I would make the people picking on me feel worse than they could make me feel. Make them feel absolutely idiotic for what they say. Make it look like their insults are completely stupid and just don't let them get to you. If you've got nothing, just smile. It's hilarious.

Or if you feel like getting suspended, destroy them~

[benguino]

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I know at my high school, if you get caught even stepping on an ant (exaggerating a bit) in the last quarter before graduation, they won't let you "walk the line" (i.e. participate in the graduation ceremony) If the graduation ceremony means anything to you, then I'd advise against getting physical with others.

[who_cares973]

Re: What do I do?

I know at my high school, if you get caught even stepping on an ant (exaggerating a bit) in the last quarter before graduation, they won't let you "walk the line" (i.e. participate in the graduation ceremony) If the graduation ceremony means anything to you, then I'd advise against getting physical with others.

This is true don't fight

I can't give any real advice because I was never.picked on. But uh ride it out its almost over. When school ends light them on fire

[Zekramcross]

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Thanks guys for helping me out here. I'm just getting fed up with all these immature acts. The people who usually pick on me are the ones on the bus, but I constantly tried to ignore, self-defense, mock, or even telling them to stop. Nothing seems to work. It's like it doesn't phase them at all. I'm at that point to where I'll graduate and after I do just beat some asses. I have all this hurt bottled-up and I tried letting it go, but it still remains.

I know at my high school, if you get caught even stepping on an ant (exaggerating a bit) in the last quarter before graduation, they won't let you "walk the line" (i.e. participate in the graduation ceremony) If the graduation ceremony means anything to you, then I'd advise against getting physical with others.

This is why I don't want to fight anyone. I don't want to get suspended or not walk over some stupid shit someone else said or did to me.

[Syhto]

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I'd try to let it blow over. bullies usually have a lot of issues. picking on them back probably wouldn't help. you have to surprise them with understanding or cleverness, but don't confuse them too much cuz they might hulk rage on you

I actually had a dream last night this huge chick was about to beat me up for something I didn't do, all I did was go shhhh and she was like dont U tell me to SHOOOOSH !! and I was like I'm sry, you don't deserve that. and she was all ik ya dumbass then she left. appeal to a different side of them