Mentality

[rqm]

Re: Mentality

i think youre just insecure.

seriously though, there is a middle ground. not everyone with "high" self-esteem is deemed arrogant by their peers. i feel pretty comfortable with myself and yet i dont go around tooting my horn about how amazing a guy i am, looking down on others who are less fortunate than i (aka everyone), or doing anything that would lead others to find me arrogant.

ps what devonin said

[Cavernio]

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Firstly, I'm annoyed at the people who say that people with depression have low self-esteem. Having been a teenager at a junior high, I certainly understand how having low self-esteem makes you unhappy. But as being someone who experiences depression which is totally different from whatever unhappiness I had in grade 8, my self-esteem is really not a factor. It can be high or it can be low, but either way, it has little bearing over whether I'm happy and motivated or not.
Secondly, to the person who said that happiness is being happy with who you are and not caring about what others think, that's a very juvenile mindset. If you didn't care what anyone thought of you, you'd have no friends because you'd be the biggest dick ever, and having no friends usually makes people unhappy. Even someone who's power hungry and who would do anything to get what they want, they want power over something or someone, and that relates to how other people think of you and how they treat you. You probably care what you parents think of you, what your friends think of you, and probably especially what your love interest thinks of you. And that's a good thing.

[Seefu Sefirosu]

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No... I said because the person themselves don't care about the people around them and only about themselves. Obviously you received the wrong thoughts then what I was saying.

Indeed thats correct actually, some people believe such things (poor human) heck some people still believe the earth is square yet its round.. Its human bliss I tell you.

Dunno what that is... *Googles it*.

I do agree with you on that although I merely take what I have learned and seen and integrate it into what I am saying now because all these things I have said are true facts and some people don't give 2 ****s about other people neither do people who have low self esteem or (sometimes) high self esteem because either there so into there lives that they could care less about the outside world or there to sad about their lives that they commit suicide or if there lucky cut themselves. But hey I am only here to tell you guys what I know myself, take it as is.

That entire post is a waste of energy to try to read, because at the end of the day, your answer to devonin's question was "Indeed."

Just in case you don't know what that means, that's like saying "Yes!!"

With both exclamations.

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[devonin]

Re: Mentality

Your post said less of use than his did. Pot meet kettle. How about you just review the rules for this forum instead of trying to moderate it for me.

[Dorby]

Re: Mentality

Someone who has low self esteem generally thinks less of themselves, dosen't believe people when they complement their traits, and is somewhat anti-social because they believe their opinion does not matter.

You can basically flip everything around to describe a person with high self esteem ; thinks highly of themselves, over boasts about when complemented, and believes they are always right.

So in order for a middle ground to be achieved, I believe one has to experience both faults (I call them faults because you shouldn't live one way or the other, you should have a balanced perspective) in order to understand what is wrong with the way they perceive things. Some people will learn early in life, others will always be the same.

I personally think having a low self esteem is worse, rather than a high one, because you are basically putting yourself and your life on hold simply based on your insecurities. So for anyone out there holding back, just let go. Be yourself and not everyone is going to like that. You will find people though, trust me.

[lil_klutzy_foot]

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People that think arrogance is the same as confidence in my opinion, are often jaded and don't take the time to really take a look around them to try to differentiate. Personally, there is a clear line between confidence and arrogance. Not everyone that's sure of themselves find the need to rub it in other people's faces because they are self-assured. I don't think arrogant people necessarily are confidence because they seek attention and validation within people's reactions(good or bad). People with low self-esteem are insecure, because really self-esteem is determined by self-love.

If you have little to no self-esteem, of course other people's opinions will get to you, again people that are insecure(whether they are arrogant as well or not) seek validation as well because they can't find any within themselves.