Crying.

[GuidoHunter]

I'm not one to cry, as I'm not a very emotional person. That's just my nature; I rarely have anything to be upset about. I've cried four times since I was ten or so. Two of the times were when my grandfather died and when my dog died. Now, to get back to the point (and integrate the relevance of the last two times I cried), I always look weird at guys when they cry for a reason that I deem stupid or ridiculous. I'm sure whatever they cry about is really important to them, but if I don't get it, Imma think "What the hell dude, you look like a crybaby pussy", or something along those lines. As I am not an emotional person, I expect everyone else to be that way as well, which is why I look weird at guys who cry.

So, regarding the manliness issue... I think men crying at [what I deem] frivolous things is just out of character. I don't think it makes you any less manly to cry, as most of us do, did, or will, but to do so in front of others can betray the image of you that most likely includes some degree of staunchness and stoicism that is usually attributed to men. Crying is something that women do (according to popular sentiment and generalizations), so doing so, as a man, will make you look generally more womanly, and womanly men don't get the utmost respect from society. That's where I think most jeering comes from.

Deaths in the family are always legitimate reasons for anyone to cry. After that, it can get hazy. Love of your life things are usually acceptable (after all, being in love is EXTREMELY powerful), but pretty much anything past that is overly emotional and thereby not characteristic of manliness.

Now, why did I cry the other two times? As I said before, deaths in the family are acceptable reasons for anyone to cry, so why did I wait to mention the others? Well, because I cried the first two times I watched the ending to Saber Marionette J. Yes, the ending to an anime made me cry not once, but twice.

Being as how I thoroughly understand when I think it's acceptable to cry, and that I'm a very unemotional person, does that make watching the ending to a girly anime a decent reason to cry? Absolutely not. I'm certain that if I walked in on myself crying like that, I'd point and laugh at myself.

Getting around to the other point of discussion of the thread, why did I cry at that? Hell if I know. It was sad, but I've seen much sadder stuff and shed nary a tear. Things are weird like that.

--Guido

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[Torlock]

ive never cried out of happiness. I have always associated crying with pain so it just doesn't feel right to cry out of happiness. If you are crying for a valid reason (like situations that have been previously stated) its ok, but if it's because you are as Jewpin says "a whiny little bitch" then I'm going to question you.

[Izzi]

so you were crying over this monp and u want to know if other people do the same??

[DHS1]

I cry when I feel like it, but other than that.. never! o_O;; Who ever makes fun of me will be "bitch slapped". Then we'll see whose crying.. HAHAHAHA O.O

[FishFishRevolution]

so you were crying over this monp and u want to know if other people do the same??

I love people who type coherently, who's messages are easily understood, and those who grasp new concepts quickly.

[LostUserName]

everybody cries but for me it boils down to when its an appropriate time. For instance, when a close relative passes away (that means when they die.) I usually have to hold off so that I can support those who are "affected" more than me. Once I've helped them then I allow myself to grieve. I think it's part of my upbringing, strange.

*edit hehe*
Unless of course you dont have any lac(real? something!) ducts (lets you cry.)

[ayanepuck]

I used to cry easily. I would cry at movies, (happy or sad endings) and various other things. Beats me as to what happened, but I just do not cry that much anymore. The last time I cried at a movie was the ending of Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, and that was because the ending was so beaufitul and so wonderfully done that I cried out of sheer awe and respect to Charlie Kaufman and Michael Gondry. (writer and director)

I do not like to cry in front of other people. I have learned to hide emotions quite nicely...and I have seen that when you cry in public, someone will almost always ask you what is wrong....and then you end up having to explain....and I do not want to think about what is making me cry.....it only make things worse.

Love is very powerful, so crying at something like the end of a breakup is pretty much a sure thing. However, I will be DAMNED before letting the other person know I am upset.....or cry in front of him. There are people I can cry in fornt of and people I can't cry in fornt of. Yes, it is very much a pride issue. I refuse to let someone else know that they are in control of MY emotions.

Crying is a way of releasing tension for some people, and I used to be one of them. Just not anymore.

[Layladay]

i have to cry, if i hold in anger or sadness, i really start fucking up. when my great-g-dad died, i held it in, got in a fight in school, and almost killed her cuz i hit her in the head multiple times in the head, arms, legs, etc.

[Layladay]

-with a lock-

[shevic9000]

Crying is ok! I don't cry much.....Except when i feel like i have gotten out of line..i guess yall can't understand that...Anyways i cr when close relatives die...and at the thought of close relatives deaths...