So a few friends had this great huge plan to go to Vermont one week in January. We had everything worked out. It was supposed to be a graduation celebration for us and a birthday celebration for one of my friends. But as January gets closer the plan has started to crumble completely. First, one person that wanted to go couldn't go during the week (which she didn't really think was necessary to mention until now), so we rescheduled it for that weekend even though it's a holiday weekend meaning more crowds and more expensive lift tickets/hotel rooms. Okay fine. Then she started complaining that Vermont was going to be too expensive, so they started talking about going to the Poconos in PA which just happens to be where my family has a cabin near the mountain.
It didn't take long for me to realize that they were trying to avoid paying for a hotel and I quickly explained that the last time I took friends (who brought people that I didn't know) they not only trashed the place and did not help me clean up the place, they also had sex in not only my father's bed, but also my little brother's bed which absolutely disgusted me and I almost burned the sheets. They said well okay we will let you know how much the hotel will be. Then when I tried to explain to them while they wouldn't be staying at my house, I would...why should I have to pay for a hotel when I have a house to sleep in? No thanks. Obviously I'm starting to get annoyed. None of this seems to be clicking for anyone but me.
Here is where it gets interesting. When I told my girlfriend that I wouldn't be going to Mt. Snow anymore, she became extremely upset (even though she isn't going). I finally got out of her that for Christmas she got me a gift certificate that basically gives me a free pass to not only my lift ticket but also for any food and drinks that I might want. So now, I feel terrible. Obviously she jumped the gun a little here, but it was a very thoughtful gesture and I really appreciate it.
Now I have another friend, who feels bad for me and might also be taking advantage of this situation to spend time with me, that is inviting me to her condo in Vermont which is right on Mt. Snow the same weekend that I am supposed to go away with my flaky group of friends that cannot get their act together. Going with this friend with the condo would also encourage my girlfriend to go because the only reason she isn't going in the first place is because she absolutely despises the girl that put together the original trip that has started to crash and burn.
So here is my question after my tldr rant...would it be wrong if I told the flaky friends sorry peace out everybody I'm going to Vermont with or without you, or should I basically give them the finger for trying to use me for my house and for changing plans at the last minute? I have absolutely very little time this season to make another trip to Vermont, and this would be money wasted. So what do you think I should do?
Thank you FFR amigos.
It didn't take long for me to realize that they were trying to avoid paying for a hotel and I quickly explained that the last time I took friends (who brought people that I didn't know) they not only trashed the place and did not help me clean up the place, they also had sex in not only my father's bed, but also my little brother's bed which absolutely disgusted me and I almost burned the sheets. They said well okay we will let you know how much the hotel will be. Then when I tried to explain to them while they wouldn't be staying at my house, I would...why should I have to pay for a hotel when I have a house to sleep in? No thanks. Obviously I'm starting to get annoyed. None of this seems to be clicking for anyone but me.
Here is where it gets interesting. When I told my girlfriend that I wouldn't be going to Mt. Snow anymore, she became extremely upset (even though she isn't going). I finally got out of her that for Christmas she got me a gift certificate that basically gives me a free pass to not only my lift ticket but also for any food and drinks that I might want. So now, I feel terrible. Obviously she jumped the gun a little here, but it was a very thoughtful gesture and I really appreciate it.
Now I have another friend, who feels bad for me and might also be taking advantage of this situation to spend time with me, that is inviting me to her condo in Vermont which is right on Mt. Snow the same weekend that I am supposed to go away with my flaky group of friends that cannot get their act together. Going with this friend with the condo would also encourage my girlfriend to go because the only reason she isn't going in the first place is because she absolutely despises the girl that put together the original trip that has started to crash and burn.
So here is my question after my tldr rant...would it be wrong if I told the flaky friends sorry peace out everybody I'm going to Vermont with or without you, or should I basically give them the finger for trying to use me for my house and for changing plans at the last minute? I have absolutely very little time this season to make another trip to Vermont, and this would be money wasted. So what do you think I should do?
Thank you FFR amigos.
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