Forgetting about Love.

[zhul4nder]

How do I forget about Love? I want my obsession for this one boy to stop. Things aren't working out...he doesn't like me, his friends don't like me, and he as a 'douche' reputation. I keep coming back for his cute smile, his occasionally crudely humorous jokes, and his musicianship. I stare rejection straight in the face but I don't know how to come to grips that he doesn't want a friend that thinks he's sexy.

I constantly get the urges to talk with him, tell him how I feel and how it feels impossible to forget about those qualities about him. Maybe that would be too extreme, but I feel that it's only after I talk with him about these things that it will make things right again.

But I'm horribly afraid about the bullying. The last time I tried this, he started to bully me and made fun of me for liking him. I assumed that it was an attempt to dislodge my obsession for him but to no avail, I still fell back into love's grip.

Though the bullying has stopped, every time I look at him or he looks at me, my heart aches. To me, the world dims slightly and it just feels like a fruitless future. The moments that could have happened, the intimate relationship could have had, the laughs that we could have laughed together...Those thoughts in conjunction with the thought that those moments would never happen I believe is the source of this obsession.

I want to forget about love. I want to live my life before it becomes too dark to see anything. How, how do I forget about him? How do I confront my fears about talking with him? How do I deal with his hatred toward me? How will I deal with the hatred I will have for him once this ordeal is over?

yea, I realize that he isn't worth it. Faking not liking him...I think that would make me think about him even more. And when I do break, I'll be considered a liar. I want to be real with my emotions. The problem is that I'm too afraid of getting hurt again...so afraid that I refuse to try to get to know the person more...the only way that I'll be able to focus on his negatives. I'll need to find a strategy on how to approach him without me feeling like I'm jumping off a cliff. Usually, what happens when I do try, my brain freezes and my mouth stops working. Then my body wants to run away as fast as possible.

One more thing to clarify...

I am a guy. Yes, I like men.

[PlaceboFX]

Re: Forgetting about Love.

I am certain are going to get flamed for this. Don't take it personally.


There is a stickied thread that you can take refuge in and ask for relationship advice...but even that isn't completely safe.

[Tater Tot]

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http://www.flashflashrevolution.com/...=63794&page=20

Go here for the thread he was talking about.
It'll take you straight to the last page.

Also, You'll probably be able to forget about him if you just stop focusing on him.

[pokelda]

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ha ha you're gay

[zhul4nder]

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oh noez.

[TheRapingDragon]

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ha ha you're gay

I love people who can ironically mock themselves while mocking others. It shows character.

Anyway, as I am hoping this will be moved to the relationship thread.

How do I forget about Love?

Baby don't hurt me.

I want my obsession for this one boy to stop. Things aren't working out...he doesn't like me, his friends don't like me, and he as a 'douche' reputation. I keep coming back for his cute smile, his occasionally crudely humorous jokes, and his musicianship.

Everyone loves an asshole. It's just unfortunate that you doubly love assholes so it goes hand in hand (so to speak) that you would love this guy if he acts like the one body part you find most intimately attractive.

I stare rejection straight in the face but I don't know how to come to grips that he doesn't want a friend that thinks he's sexy.

That isn't a valid argument. I mean with that logic you should be able to walk up to Brad Pitt and tell him he's sexy and he'll fall instantly in love with you. It does not matter what the person thinks of you, if you think differently about them then you won't want to be with them.

I constantly get the urges to talk with him, tell him how I feel and how it feels impossible to forget about those qualities about him. Maybe that would be too extreme, but I feel that it's only after I talk with him about these things that it will make things right again.

That's just what every guy wants to hear, a whiny git crying on about his feelings.

But I'm horribly afraid about the bullying. The last time I tried this, he started to bully me and made fun of me for liking him. I assumed that it was an attempt to dislodge my obsession for him but to no avail, I still fell back into love's grip.

Asshole is what asshole does.

Though the bullying has stopped, every time I look at him or he looks at me, my heart aches.

Alas other things shall never ache, betrothed in perilous love.

To me, the world dims slightly and it just feels like a fruitless future. The moments that could have happened, the intimate relationship could have had, the laughs that we could have laughed together...Those thoughts in conjunction with the thought that those moments would never happen I believe is the source of this obsession.

I worry how devoid of intelligence you actually are. Personally I can see from a mile away that you are merely following the tired old mantra of "what you cannot have you want". It is quite pathetic.

I want to forget about love. I want to live my life before it becomes too dark to see anything.

I'm sorry to hear you're going blind but life goes on.

How, how do I forget about him? How do I confront my fears about talking with him? How do I deal with his hatred toward me? How will I deal with the hatred I will have for him once this ordeal is over?

How many questions does it take to lick the point of these questions.

One lick. Two licks. Oh wait, that isn't happening. Anyway.

If I were a girl this would be around the point where the guy stops listening and starts seeing monkeys throwing poo at people, hahaha, monkeys are so funny with their little tails and unashamed attitudes, hehe, poo.

[OrganisM]

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Uh oh, somebody call the WAHHHHHHHMBULANCE

OH GOD THE PAIN IT HURTS I WANT TO PORK SO BAD NO PLZ DONT HURT ME, DUN HURT ME, NO MOAR

PS - you're young and naive, just like the rest of us, only some of us have developed a little bit of sense: there's plenty of fish in the sea, and it's not likely this person is that special. so stop whining and find somebody else. or at least keep your whining to yourself. I'm going through a situation that's a lot worse, and you don't hear me whining about it on FFR.

[Jokee]

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Only time will heal these wounds.

Talking with experience. =/

[DoctorSerpentine]

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Is it just me or does every single post by organism contain the same goddamn pun

[TheRapingDragon]

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I'm going through a situation that's a lot worse, and you don't hear me whining about it on FFR.

Yet you still felt the need to mention this as a form of comparison as if we cared about your attempt at validating your post.

[OrganisM]

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I am being an unmitigated tool and then trying to call you on it

Oh, how thou art cold and distant from me
And how mine ears, in shock, hath recoiled, then
In sadness I can only turn away
At a loss from having lost your favor.

[~HentaiXXX~]

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Let's get along children.

[OrganisM]

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shouldn't this be in relationships thread

Absolutely, that's a given. Though if I put up any argument with the thread, somehow I'm the bad guy.

[OrganisM]

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I do make an effort to contribute and wish I would be treated with that in mind. But I suppose every place need a guy they love to hate, though I would think this forum has plenty of them already.

[TheRapingDragon]

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Organism - Stop being so serious. I dislike people who try to presume they are hated when we are merely joking around. If anybody hated someone else on the internet I would call them a pathetic loser.