Girlfriend

[Reach]

Re: Girlfriend

This couldn't be further from the truth. I've been with many confident, mature, well-to-do women, many of which were very accomplished.

By "being a douchebag" I don't mean act like an obnoxious jerk. I am referring to a sort of "overextended charisma," where I mean that you essentially fake the confidence, even if you don't have it. Acting like an asshole-jerk will only land you women with low self-esteem who are drawn to the high energy and type of humor. But being bold/brash/charismatic/confident, you are more likely to appeal to women who also tend to exude confidence/independence/charisma, and these girls tend to be quality.

I refer to this as "being a douchebag" because, to me, it's a sort of greedy, overextended way to take a mile when you're given an inch. Your natural inclination is to be set in a certain type of confidence level/a certain type of interaction, but it's a real douchebag thing to do to overextend yourself into a higher confidence and essentially "steal" girls away from people who actually have confidence.

I actually do have a fair degree of confidence, but I used to have quite a few self-esteem issues. I always faked my confidence, and I found that it attracted many high-quality girls. After a while though, faking the confidence wears away as it turns into real confidence. Confidence becomes reinforced when you have repeated success as a result of your efforts. So, in result, it starts melting from a sort of false confidence to real confidence, and the effort to attract females then becomes more natural.

Well, we don't disagree then. Middle ground is best. You want to be interesting but still treat her well.

I just wouldn't use the same set of words to describe the behavior. When I think of douchebags I generally think of the lowlifes that bag many low self esteem women with their ridiculous behavior, more towards the lines of what you said here: "Of course, don't be on the other end of this spectrum either. You can't be an asshole with absolutely no regard for the feelings of others...etc".

[MrRubix_MK5]

Re: Girlfriend

I kinda wish there was a place on this forum to discuss interpersonal relationships/sex/personal issue sort of stuff... it can get pretty interesting and informative if done correctly, but unfortunately FFR is likely not the ideal place for it.

[Artic_counter]

Re: Girlfriend

I kinda wish there was a place on this forum to discuss interpersonal relationships/sex/personal issue sort of stuff... it can get pretty interesting and informative if done correctly, but unfortunately FFR is likely not the ideal place for it.

I wish it too. We still can ask it in the suggestion forum tho. If we have some good moderators in that forum, we can make it a good place for those kind of thing. I think that you have an exelent potential of being a moderator for that forum. I think that everyone share my opinion too.

[MrRubix_MK5]

Re: Girlfriend

I personally don't like the job functions of forum moderation, so I'd likely have to pass on such a thing. Besides, I'd probably get bored and start doing foolish things. I'd be a pretty bad moderator.

[OnixRose]

Re: Girlfriend

I'd be a pretty bad moderator.

makes sense considering your main is banned and you're posting from an alt

[MrRubix_MK5]

Re: Girlfriend

yup

[Tasselfoot]

Re: Girlfriend

there are plenty of websites that specialize in the line of topics/discussion you're referencing. FFR isn't one of them.

[MrRubix_MK5]

Re: Girlfriend

I kinda wish there was a place on this forum to discuss interpersonal relationships/sex/personal issue sort of stuff... it can get pretty interesting and informative if done correctly, but unfortunately FFR is likely not the ideal place for it.

oyea

[Verruckter]

Re: Girlfriend

she asked him to be her boyfriend -.-

How old are you? 12?

[ledwix]

Re: Girlfriend

I actually do have a fair degree of confidence, but I used to have quite a few self-esteem issues. I always faked my confidence, and I found that it attracted many high-quality girls. After a while though, faking the confidence wears away as it turns into real confidence. Confidence becomes reinforced when you have repeated success as a result of your efforts. So, in result, it starts melting from a sort of false confidence to real confidence, and the effort to attract females then becomes more natural.

Sigh. This is exactly the same thing one of my best friends has been talking about for a while. Good strategy.

[who_cares973]

Re: Girlfriend

i beat my gf and then cuddle with her afterwards seems to work out fine

[Grandiagod]

Re: Girlfriend

I don't like Rubix.

If i was a girl i wouldnt do him

[WTFBrandon]

Re: Girlfriend

i beat my gf and then cuddle with her afterwards seems to work out fine

Your a wifebeater, how does that make you feel?
If I was you, I would be proud.

[Izzy]

Re: Girlfriend

i beat my gf and then cuddle with her afterwards seems to work out fine

That isn't semi humorous.

[who_cares973]

Re: Girlfriend

Izzy you have no sense of humor