Emancipation

[Relambrien]

Re: Emancipation

I would recommend against telling your mom about this thread until you see a trusted adult and explain your situation in full, then get their advice. Take it from someone whose mother also gets irrationally angry--proving them wrong about something when they're already very upset only leads to much, much worse.

Explain the situation to an adult (your school principal or guidance counselor if you can get in touch, but basically anyone you trust), and have them talk to your mother for you. Adults are much more likely to listen to other adults, even if they say the exact same things and use the exact same arguments as a child. Even moreso if the adult is in a position of authority that demands a formal conversational tone.

[MrRubix]

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Foster homes now are sometimes known for that, yes. They try to screen for unfit foster parents more strictly now, but of course, there are always going to be those that slip through.

But, basically, when you choose to have a kid, you're also agreeing by law that you're going to take care of it. No matter how much she may dislike you, she's obligated to support you until you're of legal age to be able to do it yourself. It sounds like she is getting upset over something silly, but of course there may be things you aren't fully revealing to us (if you're particularly nasty when you argue, that could really get on a parent's nerves and drive them to the point where they thirst to kick you out).

Take it from someone whose mother also gets irrationally angry--proving them wrong about something when they're already very upset only leads to much, much worse.

This is very true. Arguing with irrational people is usually useless because they don't listen to reason and instead appeal to biased emotions without merit. Take it to a trusted authority first and get an adult's take on the situation, and if necessary, arrange for them to talk with your mother.

[Commandersa1]

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It's good that a parent wants to make sure you have a good life(All As), but kicking you out for getting an A-. :/ Even if it was the last day of school, sometimes counselors or other teachers stay afterwards to finalize grades and whatnot. If it ever goes to court(I doubt it), make sure you have papers proving that you went to spec. ed.

Also do not show her this thread or tell her that she is wrong, or whatever you learned from this thread. She will probably cool off eventually, hopefully. Just do not make things worse.

[MrRubix]

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Not even Asian parents are that hardcore O.o

[Shadowcliff]

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It sounds to me like there is something going on with her that she is not telling you. Something is making her battle with emotions, and apparantly you are a nuisance to her, so she wants you to go away. Maybe you could move all your stuff to your friend's house, but stick around when your mom gets home. Ask her if there is something going on that she's not telling you. The question probably wont make her mad, but it might make her tell you.

[devonin]

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Foster homes are the worst things in the world because all foster parents do is abuse and neglect and there is nothing you can do about it (or so I HEAR). >.<

You live in Ontario, that means any foster care you'd end up in would be through the Children's Aid Society. Both of my parents work for the Children's Aid Society, and believe me, issues of foster parents abusing or neglecting their kids are -incredibly- rare. In 20 years, I've heard them talk about one foster parent who didn't a very good job, and was clearly only in it for the money, but even then wasn't abusing her kids. And that's it. These homes are investigated by case workers all the time to check up on the kids, and the process is done in such a way that it is made -very- easy for the kids to raise protests in private and get a closer investigation done.

I mean, we've already established that there is -no- chance this would happen, but seriously you don't need to be afraid of the prospect of foster care in Ontario.

[s0ulst0n3]

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Well Rubix, when I argue, I kind of...break things, lol. The first thing I do is run into my room, or into the living room biting onto things with my teeth breaking them, like the TV remote. Sometimes I throw stuff on the ground like lamps, but just like you should know, when I get angry, I'm angry! Haha.

My parents expect so much of me since Grade 4 when I got all A+'s on my report card..then they said "we expect this from you from now on, or you will get stuff taken away!". Kind of unfair on my part, it was going good until recently. The grade isn't the big issue though, it's the fact she thought I was skipping school when I wasn't. I overreacted, and she did as well. I see a psychologist about my anger, though.

In this case, all I broke was my speakers (I was biting on the wires..they were unplugged) and a couple plates, haha. I didn't want to mention this because..you might all think I'm insane. O.o

EDIT: That's very nice to know, Devonin! Thanks!! ^^

[Mans0n]

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Well in that case lol. Maybe you just put her through the roof. I mean yeah my mom will sometimes do the same thing, blame loads of stuff on me, with absolutely no proof. Mom's can be like that sometimes. Once she cools down and she will talk to you. Tell her your sorry, and ask her to come to your school. and/or talk to a teacher, principal you can trust, who knows you were there at school.
then she will realize her mistake. Hopefully if she's anything like my mom she will forgive you, and act like it never happened.
PS: i got terrible grades, C in math # in laungage Arts. B in history. A in science.
And some other crap.

[stretchypanda]

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Okay, THAT behavior might make your mom feel like she has no control over you...

[LLaMaSaUceYup]

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Okay, THAT behavior might make your mom feel like she has no control over you...

Yeah pretty much

I've heard stories s0ulst0n3, your mom overreacts and puts her anger out on you.

I hope you can fix this mess...

*Hide your computer!*

[s0ulst0n3]

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Rofl, actually I stole my computer tower. I went in through the back door (which was coincidentally unlocked). Their cars were gone, so it was my perfect chance. I couldn't carry my monitor though, I don't care much for it.

It's her own fault, if she just gave it to me I wouldn't have had to steal it back. ^^

I'm not out of the tourney THAT easily!! (Funny how the only thing I had on my mind the whole time was the tourney, no fear of being caught or anything).