Moving out

[imockthepea]

So not to go into great detail here but my dad is an alcoholic and has been that way for the past 8 years (since I was 10). After turning 18 this past December I thought I could deal with the crap he would constantly give me (name calling, occasional shoving, trying to drive drunk with my little brother in the car) till I went off to college. Well yesterday things blew up when he attempted to leave the house to go get gas for his car while intoxicated. Basically I wouldn't let him leave the house and drive drunk because I didn't want innocent people hurt. He got into a shouting match with me and then proceeded to get physical (shoving me up against a wall and trying to throw me out of the way). I don't feel safe in my house anymore, and my mom isn't really helping me out by trying to get me to stay with cheap bribes. I know it's my fault I got into that mess but this isn't what I am asking help for.

I'm planning on moving out of my house soon, as in the next few weeks. I have friends who I can stay with and a job so I can pay rent to them. What I need help finding is if there is any State or Federal aid to those who decided to pay for college by themselves and are emancipated students. I'm heading off to SUNY Fredonia in the fall and am not sure if NY offers aid or even our lovely government. Any information would be amazing.

[Afrombean]

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I know it's my fault

It is...?

my dad is an alcoholic... name calling, occasional shoving, trying to drive drunk with my little brother in the car

ps does the word "emancipated" particularly apply when you're 18? I mean, yeah, free and on your own, but you're legally an adult already so that's not outside normal circumstances.

pps trying to support yourself and do college at the same time will end up with you either failing at one or both tasks, or, if you manage to succeed, being in debt (especially if you're doing anything other than community/junior). This is why most people tend to try to avoid striking out wholly on their own for as long as possible. I'm sure there is SOMETHING that can be done (and your couselor would be able to help you with that), but it's never enough.

[Gano]

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Speaking as someone with an ex-alcoholic parent, good luck with him
As for all the other stuff, I don't know bye

[Veldrin81]

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https://www.fafsa.ed.gov/

With the position you're in, you should get some help from FAFSA.

[Mans0n]

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wow, just make ur dad get addicted to somethin else, like force him into it with tricky wordplay, oir get him rly drunk then persuade him to start smoking weed, then he'll be mellow as **** and wont start problems.

[JKPolk]

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Mans0n that's the worst suggestion I've ever heard in my life.

[fastfingers65]

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Manson, I really hope that was a joke. His father would be better off playing Xbox live all day.

[imockthepea]

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Well Afro the only reason I say "emancipated" is because I will not have any support from my family in paying for college. The whole idea I'm trying to work out is staying at the college throughout the summer and taking classes at the same time to get my degree faster and get a job a little faster. I know some of you might suggest the military at this point but I have issues with that.


*Edit* What I meant by "It's my fault" refers to the most recent altercation I had with him on Friday.

[Coolboyrulez0]

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I agree just leave that ****er.

[JKPolk]

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I agree just leave that ****er.

Because it's obviously that easy.

[Coolboyrulez0]

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If there's a will then there's a way.
If I'd be in his situation I would do everything possible to escape that madness.

[Specforces]

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Do the military son, get 4 years in and then have your college completely paid for. If you're so worried about getting shot up, sign up for a non combat job.

[JKPolk]

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If there's a will then there's a way.
If I'd be in his situation I would do everything possible to escape that madness.

Sorry kid real world don't work like that.

[Sullyman2007]

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I know what you're going through man, having some of the same problems here. I don't turn 18 for another 2 months, but I'd sure as hell like to get out as soon as possible.

Also, don't forget about your brother. If your moms not helping, see if he can stay with relatives or something because he shouldnt be living in that kind of enviornment.

[adlp]

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whats wrong with your little brother living with an alcoholic?

nothing. hes gonna grow up and be a champ