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  • church_pk
    FFR Player
    • Dec 2005
    • 2575

    #1

    wow..

    My gf just broke up with me yesterday, just a few days after Rebirths gf broke up with him. Rebirth and I pretty much help eachother with everything girl wise. The only difference is my gf (Clandestinity on here" lived about 200km away, and I met her in real life twice, once for for 3 days (slept over at her house) and the other, she came here and we went downtown Toronto for the day. These were the best days of my life (that I can recall) I love her greatly because she is a wonderful person and has more than the above average qualities I am looking for in a girl.

    This went on for about 3 months. It's astonishing, after going through all this, and seeing how women lie, and change their minds sparatically, almost over night about how they feel about you. I don't know how they can live like that, or even feel bad about it. The whole 3 months she said the most (what I thought to be) the most meaningful things,the most beautfiul things, I really thought she was serious. but then suddenly, almost literally over night she had decided that the relationship was too much for her and she felt tied down and wanted to be single, and had no choice but to end it. I have a feeling a lot of it had to do with her mother, because she did not approve of me being 18, and her being 15. I don't blame her for that, but I think if Ally really loved me it wouldn't have mattered. Yes, I am very heartbroken, and feel betrayed beyond belief, but it's easy to tell yourself it's not the end of your life, it's just hard to believe it.

    After 3 months of everything we went through, I just can't believe she could end it all at the drop of a hat. I am wondering if it's still worth it to fight for her back, or if I should move on and try find someone closer to my area, but at the same time i'd feel wrong dating another girl, feels like i'm cheating on Ally for some reason.

    So basically i'm wondering, (opinions) if love can just be dropped, and blocked out of someone? It's just impossible to think that she loved me, then over a 2 day period, after consulting Rebirth and his ex (Erika aka Kazumi-chan), that she decided that it is "too much" and can't do it anymore. Like, if you couldn't do it, why would you wait so long to tell me? It's as if she TRIED to hurt me, without hurting herself. When her friends talked to her about it, she got wise to me and figured out that I asked them to see if they could get me anymore info, and she replied to them saying "he can talk to me himself". Is this suggesting she WANTS me to talk to her? or that I just shouldn't get other people to do my own dirty work. We haven't talked at all today, and didn't talk all of last night.

    I haven't thought out this post clearly since it's uh, 4:15 am right now, but it's what's going through my mind at the moment. Not expecting great comments but it's worth a try.
    Last edited by church_pk; 12-6-2006, 02:04 AM.
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  • BoRiS X RaD
    I play index :-)
    • Nov 2006
    • 417

    #2
    Re: wow..

    Did you atleast smash her the nights you spent together?

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    • church_pk
      FFR Player
      • Dec 2005
      • 2575

      #3
      Re: wow..

      Nope, she is still a virgin. Reason for this was since this was the first time we met in person, I did not know how far she was wanting to go. It's a long story Idk, she had never done anything with a guy before, (I was her first bf) and I also didn't know if she still loved me in person as she did over the internet, she gave weird signals and I just decided to play it safe.


      EDIT: The day I came home I got asked the question, "Why didn't you have sex with me" at this point I was like ********************! Turns out she was wanting it at the time and was wondering why I wasn't giving it to her, lifetime regret, but that's neither here nor there.
      Last edited by church_pk; 12-6-2006, 02:13 AM.
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      • GuidoHunter
        is against custom titles
        • Oct 2003
        • 7371

        #4
        Re: wow..



        Seriously, you've got a pretty accusative tone, there, toward another member of this site, to boot. Your rhetoric is probably going to stir up some seriously negative feelings here if you don't take it somewhere more private. Now, if you're purposefully trying to be inflammatory, REALLY take it elsewhere.

        Originally posted by church
        I am wondering if it's still worth it to fight for her back, or if I should move on and try find someone closer to my area, but at the same time i'd feel wrong dating another girl, feels like i'm cheating on Ally for some reason.
        I had two relationships fail because I was still in love with my first girlfriend. I tried to get over her, but never was able to (I also quit trying after I got back with her over two years ago). As far as I'm concerned, that just takes time.

        --Guido


        Originally posted by Grandiagod
        Originally posted by Grandiagod
        She has an asshole, in other pics you can see a diaper taped to her dead twin's back.
        Sentences I thought I never would have to type.

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        • church_pk
          FFR Player
          • Dec 2005
          • 2575

          #5
          Re: wow..

          @Guido. I'm not trying to be inflammatory or accusative, I was mainly trying to see some opinions on if love is perishable that fast, but my gut feeling tells me to just get over her, but who knows, all depends on what she says when, and if I do talk to her again.
          Spread C711 Metal ZX./

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          • BoRiS X RaD
            I play index :-)
            • Nov 2006
            • 417

            #6
            Re: wow..

            Doode you can do better then a 15 year old. Just go for a milf.

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            • GuidoHunter
              is against custom titles
              • Oct 2003
              • 7371

              #7
              Re: wow..

              Originally posted by BoRiS X RaD
              Doode you can do better then a 15 year old. Just go for a milf.
              lawl ur rly kewl u sed mlif

              --Guido


              Originally posted by Grandiagod
              Originally posted by Grandiagod
              She has an asshole, in other pics you can see a diaper taped to her dead twin's back.
              Sentences I thought I never would have to type.

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              • BoRiS X RaD
                I play index :-)
                • Nov 2006
                • 417

                #8
                Re: wow..

                lol

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                • evilbutterfly
                  FFR Player
                  • Apr 2003
                  • 5784

                  #9
                  Re: wow..

                  (I was her first bf)
                  There's the problem right there. Lots of girls get freaked out by their first serious relationships. Things get going and they feel overwhelmed cuz they don't know how to handle being so close to somebody, unlike ever before. Because they've never done it before, they get to worrying that they'll do something wrong and they wonder if they're in too deep and for whatever reason they decide that ending the relationship will save everybody the trouble.

                  The love of my life broke up with me because she was scared of commitment and didn't know how to handle things. Eventually she came back but was still unsure, because she hadn't gotten really serious with anybody else. I finally said I was sick of the on again off again thing and told her that it'd be over for good if she left again. She didn't believe me and ran off again, only to find that I was dead serious. She finally learned what she had lost and tried to win me back, but apparently I have some good ass willpower. Eventually we both got together with other people, but now we both admit that we thought of each other all along. She got pretty serious with a boyfriend after me and wished that he could've been me, and that's when she finally realized that she was ready for commitment with me.

                  Now we're inseparable. I had sworn I'd never take her back and had pushed her completely out of my mind (well, almost), but as soon as she came back I knew I couldn't turn her away, especially since I could tell she had grown up a lot. When you really love somebody, it never stops. All you can do is push it out of your mind and ignore it. It takes a damn long time to even be able to do that.

                  Also (and I don't wanna be a total meanass, but it must be said), 3 months isn't that long. I wouldn't just throw around the L word after 3 months. Given that 3 months really isn't that long, she's probably just scared and may come back around. Whether or not you need to pester her or leave her alone I can't say, because certain respond better to one or the other.
                  So I've gone completely slack-ass and haven't done any work on creating games. =(

                  In less-depressing news, I got a job for an online business (which sells non-electronic games, of all things!) which has taught me a lot about marketing online and all that jazz.

                  So now I'm on Twitter @NoahWright.
                  And I write the blog for their website.

                  Plus I do cool programming in-house that you'll never see. =O

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                  • Starshot
                    /DJS\
                    FFR Music Producer
                    • Dec 2004
                    • 1794

                    #10
                    Re: wow..

                    Relationships tend to be a growing experience for both members. Dust yourself off, get up, and say "Hey, I've learned something from all this"

                    Life is about comparing and contrasting, my friend.

                    But, on the topic of love being dropped, well, that's a whole 'nother story.

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                    • Tokzic
                      FFR Player
                      • May 2005
                      • 6878

                      #11
                      Re: wow..

                      I've known some girl that I'd like to be with for four years (basically from the first time I talked to her) but I'm such a dumbass that I've blown two EXTRAORDINARILY OBVIOUS opportunities to make my move, and probably countless others before that were less than point-blank.

                      Now she's with some other guy and I never see her anymore. I hardly blame her though - she's been about as direct as she can be with me without flat out telling me, "I WANT YOU TO ASK ME OUT. DO IT. NOW."

                      I'm extremely suave and charming when I'm not trying to impress people, but I'm pretty awkward and oblivious to this sort of thing when I actually value it. XD

                      Last edited by Tokzic: Today at 11:59 PM. Reason: wait what

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                      • stretchypanda
                        shock me shock me
                        • Sep 2004
                        • 4123

                        #12
                        Re: wow..

                        Originally posted by GuidoHunter
                        I had two relationships fail because I was still in love with my first girlfriend. I tried to get over her, but never was able to (I also quit trying after I got back with her over two years ago). As far as I'm concerned, that just takes time.

                        --Guido

                        http://andy.mikee385.com
                        <3

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                        • lightdarkness
                          Summer!!
                          • Jul 2003
                          • 11308

                          #13
                          Re: wow..

                          best of luck to you, I know first hand heart break, you'll get through it

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                          • TheRapingDragon
                            A car crash mind
                            • Aug 2005
                            • 9788

                            #14
                            Re: wow..

                            3 months.

                            Long distance relationship.

                            You "love" her so much and will die for her etc. etc.

                            I doubt it was love, purely because I've heard a million and one stories identical to yours through my times moderating Teenhelp. Hell, even if it was love, unfortunately it appears that perhaps she did not love you, and has realised this and realised she doesn't want to be with just one guy. Man, she's 15, I doubt she's even prepared for a serious relationship let alone a serious long term relationship.

                            It's 3 months and you were her first boyfriend, it happens, move on and pick yourself up. Clear your head.

                            I got lucky first time and have only ever been with one girl, but those are rare, I see failed relationships all around me, unfortunately it happens, this girl just wasn't for you, but it's not the end of the world.

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                            • slain767395
                              FFR Player
                              • Jul 2005
                              • 7

                              #15
                              Re: wow..

                              wow cry lil bitch.
                              lol jk
                              well good luck w/e

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