Just venting

[Laharl]

This is a post where I'm going to vent some frustrations. If you are the kind of person that reacts negatively from this, turn away now. I feel like screaming because I just need to get it off my chest, and if you're going to be a jerk about it, kiss my ass in advance.

That said.

My friends do not understand why I say "I have no friends." In fact, most of them take offense. I have reasons, though. To me, a friend is someone who makes me feel included. When I befriend people, that's what I do, I include them in what I do. I don't do much, I admit, but I let people know what's up and invite them to hang out and all that sort of good stuff.

My friends? Nah. They don't. They make plans and just ride along with the ringleader of the evening, not thinking to bring another. Another who's been trying to get everyone together to do something, I might add. Oh, and the real kicker is when they all tell you that they WANT you there the next time everyone hangs out, and then never return your calls that day. It's FAN-FRIGGIN-TASTIC. Makes me feel like my friends are the best friends anyone could EVER ASK FOR.

I have no one my age, where I live, I can bounce things off of. Well, there is a girl who seems to care somewhat, but the details on that friendship would take too long to explain in full. Basically, she's still with a guy who hates my guts. I also just can't talk to my parents about things, because... I dunno. I hate the way I feel judged by my father.

At least I'm enjoying my new job. So not everything is bawls. Just my social life. MY STORE NEEDS TO OPEN. Then things can start to fit together.

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[Cenright]

RE: Just venting

My friend situation is the exact same way, but I do have people my age around me somewhat. Still, I know exactly how you feel about friends including you. That was why I started to stop thinking of certian people as friends and more as acquaintances, so I know EXACTLY how that feels.

I don't know completely how it feels to not be able to have someone to 'bounce things off of'. I had to deal with that a little, but not to the extent you have to. I hope things get better for you.

[emccky]

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Why have there been so many threads like this within the past few days O.o

[tnyhwk900]

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So what. You get to sell Porsches and Lambos all day.

:D

[ananana]

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Right there with ya, Larl and Cen.

Just I'd really like to have some female friends with similar interests. I never really hit it off with girls =\
I can't talk to my mom about anything anymore so I really don't have any female to talk to about crap.

[-Skooter-]

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To me, completely in a personal opinion sense, I feel there is a huge difference between a friend and an aquaintance. I feel it seems to be very difficult to completely be able to call someone your friend...or at least to completely look at them that way. Friend is a very loose term, it's kinda like love. It's hard to find, and not commonly meant from the heart. It's something we think is there, but it can hurt us tremendously. Part of me hates the idea of trusting other people, I'm not fond of it...the other part of me thinks that without trusting someone, than what do you really have? Happiness and security comes with a price...Sucks ...but it's reality. Stick in there, if they're really your "friends" they'll try and understand you and work with you through this, and if not...shit, you didn't need em anyways.

[angel-d]

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They don't sound like friends to me. Sound like people who are there out of convinience. If it is possible i'd try to get to know some new people.
Saying that i know how much is sucks to have someone you think is a friend not include you in what they are doing. I have always been better friends with guys that girls but eventually they will get girlfriends who often don't want them hanging out with me as i am seen as a threat (girls make sense again, 'yes you can go watch football with your mates, but not HER') so it is hard for us to be friends after that.
Moral of the story- urm maybe there wasn't one... but like skooter said, if their real friends they'll help you through, if not find some new ones.

[esupin]

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Where did you meet these friends? My friends have friends that I am not friends with, and it used to bother me until I realized I also have friends that some of my other friends are not friends with.
Maybe you're hanging out with the wrong crowd.

[Sudden2]

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I have many good friends, two of my friends have been my friend for seven years now.


I don't really have social problems, but sorry to hear you do.

[Cenright]

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It's something we think is there, but it can hurt us tremendously. Part of me hates the idea of trusting other people, I'm not fond of it...the other part of me thinks that without trusting someone, than what do you really have?

Someone recruit this girl for TWG.


But yeah, I try not to use the term friend so loosely. I guess my expectations of others is sometimes a little high, but still, If there are people good enough to love, it seems there should be more who are good enough to be friends.

[QreepyBORIS]

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In middle school, I had some awesome, reliable friends. Now a whopping none of them go to the same highschool as me. Woe.

But I have some okay acquaintances with whom I eat lunch--but that's about it. I kind of know what you're talking about.

[ckj846]

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That's a bummer.
I have some people to hang out with, but I also have a lot of closer friends.
I think you just need to get to know some other people better. Your friends sound like the tag-along types, and I really don't like people who follow the crowd. I like having my unique style, and that is what I look for in a friend. Good luck, I hope it goes well for you!
O_o

[Laharl]

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Where did you meet these friends? My friends have friends that I am not friends with, and it used to bother me until I realized I also have friends that some of my other friends are not friends with.
Maybe you're hanging out with the wrong crowd.

One is my best friend I've known my whole life, and the others are friends I've made through him.

[esupin]

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Each year, I befriend a few more kids I had never talked to before because they end up in the same class as me.

[ToshX]

I've always had friends my age within a mile of me, no matter where I move. Right now I have one across the street. I guess it all depends on where you move, too.