Him or me?

[Tantric]

Ok, my g/f best friend says he wants her to choose between him or me...because he doesnt want all the drama that we have in his life...b/c he freaks out everytime we do anything...she is deciding...its been a day! im really nervous...we've been together for 8months and counting...why would som guy want to do this!! AHHAFwaw! what would you guys do...

[Ardor]

RE: Him or me?

If she cared for you the least bit she'd tell the other guy off. Personally I wouldn't wait around for her to decide cause well if she did choose the other guy over me well that wouldn't exactly be a pleasant moment.

If I were you I would tell her off and leave her if she's going to be an idiot about this.

[CypherToorima]

RE: Him or me?

Jesus, this friend of hers sucks. And your 17 or 18 or around there right? I thought people would have matured by then.
And if it took that long for you girlfriend to decide, well...that's just too long, in my opinion.

[SMGod]

RE: Him or me?

Ummm... If she cared the least bit about you the answer should be simple. The fact that her best friend is jealous about not having as much time with her is his own fault. He should just DEAL WITH IT. If he was a true friend he wouldn't be meddling into her relationships and trying to ruin them due to his shere selfishness. Honestly, if she is taking this long to decide between you and her friend I would seriously question her motives as her friend is one hell of an ass.

[evilbutterfly]

RE: Him or me?

Her best friend is a twat for making a big deal about it. Stab him.

[SMGod]

RE: Him or me?

Why doesn't he just grow up and get over it?

If she told him off that would really show him.

[Tantric]

RE: Him or me?

yeah i know...i told her, he's playin his little tricks again...he's always trying to break us up and shit...it really pisses me off! but i just got done talking to her...and she said not to worry im not going anywhere! so that makes me feel a whole lot better...but she didnt say much else...so i dunno...

[jewpinthethird]

RE: Him or me?

Listen, whatever the outcome, you have to play it cool. Just blow it off like "it aint no thang".

[stretchypanda]

RE: Him or me?

The fact that your girlfriend is not appalled that a friend would put this kind of pressure on her is amazing.

While I realize it would be a difficult choice, it's not one someone she trusts should try to force her to make. The guy sounds like a tool for doing this to her.

[CypherToorima]

RE: Him or me?

Dangit, I voted wrong. What I meant was you should teach that friend some sense.

[evilbutterfly]

RE: Him or me?

Go find this "best friend" of hers. Ask him what his problem is. Then when he's like "but I love her I want her so bad!" be like "you can't have her, I'm better in the sack. Just ask JO MOMMA!"

He will be too stunned to ever go near you or your gf ever again.

[aperson]

RE: Him or me?

Wow the advice in this thread is bullcrap.

If she chooses you she obviously makes a good decision.
If she chooses him she's a worthless bitch anyways for quite obvious reasons.

Looks like a win/win situation to me.

[Izzi]

RE: Him or me?

i agree with aperson... but even going to taalk to this guy seems like a bad idea... might as well wait at his house with an AK47

[xObserveRx]

RE: Him or me?

a win/win situation? how so?

Obviously buddy cares about this chick, or else he wouldn't have asked us for advice.

Honestly man, it seems to me like the friend is just a jealous prick who can't get over the fact that you have the girl, not him. I think you really just need to wait it out and see what this girl is going to do. I mean if she really does pick him, which I don't think she would, unless she truly is a heartless bitch, she'll come around. Maybe she just understands that other dude has liked her for awhile and is feeling like second place (which he should, cuz you're her bf, not him.) It's understandable, but definately not tolerable, especially not behaviour like this.

Wait it out, and if she picks him, ask why. If she gives you some BS answer, take it out on him more than her. He sounds like the manipulative asshole here. But leave some for her too. Make sure she knows she fucked up, and is paying for it.

[suicidalmuskrat]

I'm a bit surprised here, not that I think anyone has really said anything wrong, but because I thought this would be more of a debatable issue. Time for the 'skrat to dig into his bag of highschool memories:

I had a best friend, who was a girl in highschool, freshman through junior year...We hung out at school everyday, talked, told each other everything, etc...During the summer we spent virtually every day together. We loved each other as friends, and were basically inseperable. Until senior year when she got a boyfriend. All of a sudden I didn't exist. We didn't talk, rarely hung out during the summer. Really the only time I saw her was when she had parties at her house.

I guess what I'm saying is that if this friend is now being ignored, I certainly know where he's coming from. I was pissed when that happened...of course I'm not sure if it was justified or not, but either way I can understand what he's doing...Yes it's immature, yeah it's stupid...I guess I think if your situation is anything like mine, then the girl deserves more blame than the guy....Or it could be completely different from mine, then the guy is just an asshole, and ya don't have to worry bout my little story.