Scared to Post this.

[evanescence_death4ever]

I think at this point everyone's thoughts should just be with Rapta.

Here's to hoping he's okay.

[Hakulyte]

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1. Do you understand why you self-harm?
2. Can you replace the habit by one that is not harmful?
3. Do you need to talk about it?
4. What have you done before to stop? Is there something stopping you from doing it again?
5. Is there someone who can help you close by that you trust?

You could read something like this;

http://www.helpguide.org/articles/an...-self-harm.htm

..and try to come up with ideas on what to do about it.

[HeZe]

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If I were you, I'd try to focus on something else really hard. Get your focus out of the environment which makes you feel depressed. If you start get the feelings at home, go out. Maybe go for a long walk and combine that with meeting friends or going to a new place. You can also do that in the night if your feelings are keeping you awake. The main thing is to keep your mind busy, not focusing on the issues which upset you.

Do you mean that you are roommates with the girl of with a relationship? If the feelings are gone, it's pointless to continue. It'll be worse for a week or so, but after that it'll be so much better. I've been there many times and trust me, that works.

[evanescence_death4ever]

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If I were you, I'd try to focus on something else really hard. Get your focus out of the environment which makes you feel depressed. If you start get the feelings at home, go out. Maybe go for a long walk and combine that with meeting friends or going to a new place. You can also do that in the night if your feelings are keeping you awake. The main thing is to keep your mind busy, not focusing on the issues which upset you.

Do you mean that you are roommates with the girl of with a relationship? If the feelings are gone, it's pointless to continue. It'll be worse for a week or so, but after that it'll be so much better. I've been there many times and trust me, that works.

Oh, no, no. We're not, or never were in a relationship. Just a girl from school I know~ Not that it really matters (because girls can like girls, too!) but I'm a girl, too.

I guess I'm finding it hard to keep my mind off it because I can't find anyone to talk to, and that's kind of what I need right now. Thank you

[evanescence_death4ever]

Re: Scared to Post this.

1. Do you understand why you self-harm?
2. Can you replace the habit by one that is not harmful?
3. Do you need to talk about it?
4. What have you done before to stop? Is there something stopping you from doing it again?
5. Is there someone who can help you close by that you trust?

You could read something like this;

http://www.helpguide.org/articles/an...-self-harm.htm

..and try to come up with ideas on what to do about it.

I think I have answers for all of those, and maybe specifically for 3, I don't quite need to talk about it, but I want to talk to someone... I really wish I had a friend here with me, I suppose. But it's 4 AM and the only friend I meet up with is sound asleep.

[drizzleRomanceGirl]

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I care about you. It's enough just to be yourself.

Have you tried talking with your family or friends recently? You don't have to tell them that you're hurting yourself; you can just try to spend more time with them. It can really help to have someone to talk with.

[drizzleRomanceGirl]

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Oh, no, no. We're not, or never were in a relationship. Just a girl from school I know~ Not that it really matters (because girls can like girls, too!) but I'm a girl, too.

I guess I'm finding it hard to keep my mind off it because I can't find anyone to talk to, and that's kind of what I need right now. Thank you

By the way, I love the way you post.

[Spenner]

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If you need advice feel free to add my Skype or something, I spent a few years volunteering on a support network for self harm and it taught me a lot.

If you are already in adios mode then be well in your ffr absence.

[_Zenith_]

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Feel free to message me and I'm all ears for what you have to say

I hope the situation starts to look better soon

[-paexaea-]

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Take care of yourself man. We all get down, trust me. This self-harming bullshit is no solution.

[T-Force]

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I'm laying beside someone who has visited a therapist for about 4 years now, and according to her, that's something that has been mentioned.
Obviously the best thing one can do is nothing, but if that seems impossible at the time, finding alternative outlets is recommended and that does include mimicking the action via different methods, such as the aforementioned drawing on yourself. Not sure why this is being crapped on.

[Spenner]

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As someone who has had to recommend everything from holding ice to their skin for short periods to doing something similar, I can say that if it is a compulsive thing then you do want to in a sense taper yourself away from that impulse, because the stress of the situation being very black and white (doing it or not) can lead to rebounding outcomes nobody wants. I get why it seems absurd but really it's crucial to do whatever works and does no real harm.

And please don't compare this to the recent events that have transpired, categorizing people in these situations as remotely the same is unfair. Getting to know people helps prevent this.

[evanescence_death4ever]

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what the fuck, first Rapta now this

what are you guys DOING, man

I thought I was just going to go on a forum hiatus, but with what happened to Rapta, I felt the need to post in his thread. And now just screw going on a forum hiatus, because I now feel the need to post in this thread.

I was one of the people who called the police to try to get help for Rapta. We did everything we could to get help for Rapta. After calling the police again, about an hour later for an update, and them telling me that an ambulance was "there" (hopefully at the right place), all I (and all the rest of us) could do was hope. My thoughts are still with Rapta, here's to hoping he is okay.

I posted this the night before Rapta posted, in desperation after 10 years of self-harming and 3 and a half years clean. I had literally no one to go to. I usually wouldn't have done such a thing but I needed someone to talk to desperately.

To what azpb said, I've had that mentioned to me before, too. I never found it to work. But don't run him down as calling it a "s**t-post"--because although it does sound absurd, it's something that gets recommended to people who self-harm.

I'm sorry to everyone for having to read this thread. Probably shouldn't have posted in the first place, but I was trying to somehow take care of my well-being in perhaps an indirect way. But when you have no one, sometimes running to a community you know/hope that cares...is what may help.

[Buta-san]

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Im positive igotrhythm did not mean to say that in disgust of the thread nor is anyone seeking for an apology from you. Letting people know your situation is always a great start and we are always here to listen (read).

[dAnceguy117]

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Sorry about my earlier post; I shouldn't have commented knowing I was ignorant on the topic