Lonely

[October Scream]

Re: Lonely

Yeah it's just knowing that either I'll have to help the kindest soul in the world or I'll be paired with the biggest douche in history, or worse, kids...

I absolutely can't handle kids. I have a panic attack when there's extremely loud and obnoxious kids around, and honestly wish that I didn't.

[Funnygurl555]

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Yeah it's just knowing that either I'll have to help the kindest soul in the world or I'll be paired with the biggest douche in history, or worse, kids...

I absolutely can't handle kids. I have a panic attack when there's extremely loud and obnoxious kids around, and honestly wish that I didn't.

Ohhh, yeaaaahhh I can see how that makes getting a job hard. Some people suck though but in the end you do get paid so I mean benefits $$$$

At least try not mentioning that in interviews and trying a job out. You could always quit if you really are paired with a douchebag

[awein999]

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i'll handle the kids for you. i love children <3

[Buta-san]

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i wanna say try establishing your own meetup group, but meeting people on meetup is as random random gets.

[Deadlyx39]

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:v I'm gay

Plus I can't use those sites for one more day still because tomorrow is my 18th, but I see it now...

"Girl:Hey sexy
Me: Wanna meet and play Stepmania
Girl: What's a stepmania?"

Just so you know this is going in my siggy.
I guess I benefit from the fact that there's a lot of people on this site from my area, including Charu, blindreper, and Afro. Haven't met any of them yet, but I probably could some day.
I met a lot of good guys up at this laser tag place not too far away from my house and they were into rhythm games. Is there anywhere that has an ITG machine near you? It seems like a lot of rhythm gaming people go to places that have an ITG machine.

[MixMasterLar]

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Well, I've tried applying for jobs, but I have never gotten accepted because I can't handle talking with so many random people I think, since it's one of the things I've mentioned when I've been asked questions in an interview.

Not trying to go all sage here, but take it from a 27 year old who once was an 18 year old FFRer who had the same exact problem.

You gotta basically polish your good points in an interview and whenever you are asked if you can do something you are not sure you can, the answer is always "Yes Sir, No Problem" and then you grit those teeth John Wayne style and everytime you have to do it you just gotta do it.

I commend that you want to be honest but trust me, anyone hiring folks without a job history already suspect that you might be making yourself look better; all you do by pointing out any faults is make 'em wonder "Shit if she confesses to that what else is she bad at?" and they'll drop you. As great as 100% honesty would be, this is one part of life where you are sort of forced to play the game.

So google interview tips, walk with your head held high into that room and assume the Little Engine That Could attitude on life: You got this!

[Red Blaster]

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As someone once told me:
"Fake it until you make it."

[October Scream]

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As someone once told me:
"Fake it until you make it."

But then I'd be a fake :v

@MixMasterLar, I know 100% honesty can kill chances at times, but the only reason answering the question like that was because I was asked something like that as a made up scenario. I felt like if I were to lie and I were to get caught in that made up scenario for real if I got the job then they'd worry or say you're out.

[drizzleRomanceGirl]

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there's also sports clubs in college and places to play sports outside of school like a place to play ping pong or even soccer; you can also go anywhere to eat whether it's at school or not and start a conversation with someone; i used to have trouble having a conversation with random strangers, but after a while it got easier and i learned that it's okay if the conversation doesn't go well because i can always try again with a new person; i've actually met a few people this way who i really got along with and we were able to talk for over an hour for the first conversation we had

[October Scream]

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there's also sports clubs in college and places to play sports outside of school like a place to play ping pong or even soccer; you can also go anywhere to eat whether it's at school or not and start a conversation with someone; i used to have trouble having a conversation with random strangers, but after a while it got easier and i learned that it's okay if the conversation doesn't go well because i can always try again with a new person; i've actually met a few people this way who i really got along with and we were able to talk for over an hour for the first conversation we had

I do online school, am still in high school, and don't play any sports since marching band is not a sport :T I've been thinking about inviting some friends over to my house that I haven't seen in a long time since they're allowed to leave the school campus during lunch, but I'm not sure how their school schedules are since some have to head over to another school for class and their lunch period takes up the time to drive there.

I have been thinking about joining the Boys & Girls Club stuff since it seems to be one of the few things that allows eighteen year olds to join. The other thing I have been thinking of is going to meet people at the library while events go on there, and last is trying to get back to FNM weekly so I can hang out with the friends I've made there again, but I doubt that it's enough to really even keep me from not feeling so shitty.

[drizzleRomanceGirl]

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I do online school, am still in high school, and don't play any sports since marching band is not a sport :T I've been thinking about inviting some friends over to my house that I haven't seen in a long time since they're allowed to leave the school campus during lunch, but I'm not sure how their school schedules are since some have to head over to another school for class and their lunch period takes up the time to drive there.

I have been thinking about joining the Boys & Girls Club stuff since it seems to be one of the few things that allows eighteen year olds to join. The other thing I have been thinking of is going to meet people at the library while events go on there, and last is trying to get back to FNM weekly so I can hang out with the friends I've made there again, but I doubt that it's enough to really even keep me from not feeling so shitty.

Those are a lot of helpful ideas to try! I think you should try giving them a chance; even if you don't make any friends, it's still wonderful to meet someone new and find something you both like to talk about. You could try going to places like the library, the Boys and Girls Club, and other places to try to meet new people and try to have some conversations with them. I think you'll have a better chance of having fun and enjoying talking to other people if you give these meetings a chance.

[October Scream]

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The thing is I feel worried most about asking my mom about the Boys and Girls Club because she may think I'm a bit too old for it. I haven't been able to find anything on my local Boys and Girl Club like videos or descriptions, etc. The other problem is cost and how my parents will both handle it, since my dad already forgets to pay for most of the things my brother, sister and I need that my mom had to get. It is only $10 a month I think, or for the school year. It didn't really clarify well on the site.

[Mahou]

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I'm lonely as well. It sucks.

[Rapta]

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If you are feeling lonely, just follow these three steps and dealing with it is easy (incoming bs)

First, become insane enough to be able to entertain yourself with anything in your immediate vicinity, but still be able to compose yourself when need be.
Next, repress all terrible memories unconsciously.
Third, become a heartless bastard.
Goh, indulge yourself with things that can't betray you, like your training. FFR finger exercises daily, go find an instrument to learn how to play to build self esteem and also to occupy your time, study constantly, or do your job [s] to perfection.
Roku, Ascend to what everyone secretly wishes they could be but could never achieve without a type of guidance (this post, for example)
Nee, be a strong independent woman who don't need no man.
Hachi (maybe?), ...
8, profit.

im lonely too..

[MixMasterLar]

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Yo, don't keep telling howself how it won't work, just go do it. Nothing to lose means no excuse to not try.

Besides, good things come to those who get to work achieving them

I'm lonely as well. It sucks.

Oh whoa I renember you.

'Sup?