RAGE

[Samwais]

Is the subject of an assignment I have to do over the weekend.

The problem with this however is that I've never raged at anyone or anything (I'm a very passive person by nature :/ )

So I'd like you guys to share your experiences with rage, and I don't only mean stuff like "i raegd cus i suk so bad at FFR lel"
but also any situations where you've gotten so mad that you've had to hold yourself back so as to not yell at/punch/kick/slap someone/something or whatnot
(I seriously don't know what it's like to be mad at someone/something ._.)

If everything goes well I might compile something cool out of the replies :3

[Xx{Midnight}xX]

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Your brain would melt if I went into details

[DossarLX ODI]

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Going to Midnight, this is probably best answered in private haha

[Pseudo Enigma]

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umm actually before I restarted school this year I was constantly raging at everything. I was constantly picked on about it, which in turn made it worse. It got so bad that in Grade 8 I had a bad rep for starting fights with kids and stuff. Worst thing that year had to be me nearly choking someone to death and then realizing what I was doing. That was horrible.

After that year I just quit school because of it.

I seem to be a lot better at controlling it now. I haven't gotten overly mad and broken anything at all since April/March-ish. I don't even give a shit if people know about this. It's my past and I am not as ashamed about it as you want me to be.

rageoholics anonymous yo

[MikeShinoda12345]

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middie roflmao

[andy-o24]

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My rage is welled up and bottled pretty tight, but after a point I unleash it pretty quick.

Best example was when I was trying to FC Max Forever and missed at like 2200. I went into my basement and punched the cement walls, punched the cement floor, threw this inflated ball against the wall as hard as I could and repeated until I collapsed from exhaustion.

Most of the time I release it with a punch and realize how stupid I am for letting whatever it is that is making me angry, make me angry.

-o24

[Wayward Vagabond]

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i rationalize my rage so nothing ever comes from it and i realize that situations pass like time and in the end nothing is worth getting mad over

[Hakulyte]

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Anything that's out of your control and/or unfair from your point of view may be the reason why you would rage. It can either be an unexpected event or an unfair situation. Someone's death, your assignment that you couldn't finish for simple or complicated reasons. To avoid raging, you need to be impartial and keep yourself in check constantly. If you're mad, but can't hold it anymore and feel the need to take action to make a difference, you're mostly likely going to rage. If there's nothing too inconvenient from raging that may happen, you should let it out. If it may hurt someone or something, it's probably better to keep yourself in check. An example of good application of rage would be like someone who's been bullied for years that decides to defend himself when cornered. I'm pretty sure there's some conditionning in army for rage control too but I'm not aware of how it works.

Wikipedia is saying that rage is when you're mad to the point that you feel in danger and attack/defend yourself until you're either immobilized or that the danger is gone. So, any form of danger may be more relevant. The only thing I can come up with for that is intimidation, kids being violent at school, being cornered or something going really against your values. Sadness to crying is what madness to rage would be. Except that people who cries usually learn from it and people who rage are just instinctively using their last means to make a difference. Whatever..

[iironiic]

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Surprisingly, I'm actually pissed right now.

The things I say are just... nasty. Containing my anger right now is proving to be difficult.

[DossarLX ODI]

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i rationalize my rage so nothing ever comes from it and i realize that situations pass like time and in the end nothing is worth getting mad over

Great thing to focus on as well. An example I can think of is if you're in a debate or argument with someone else, and while you use rational examples, that other person resorts to yelling, intimidation, or something else other than reasoning with you. You probably will be angry at this point, but you also need to stay composed -- even then that other person won't listen.

This kind of anger is when you want to be able to take action, but the situation is out of your control.

[Cavernio]

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Logic holds no control over rage, much like logic doesn't hold over any strong emotions that you may be more familiar with, like love or sorrow. I'm actually a pretty mellow person in that things generally don't get to me. I get pretty snappish when I'm tired, but that's not the same thing as rage. Rage, for me, is rarely *just* anger. There's a loss of control, often a huge sense of injustice, and I'm often very emotionally hurt. I don't think I've ever raged without at the same time crying or breaking down into tears and feeling sad when the raging is over. While I'm raging I have urges to break things. Not punch or beat things that ultimately won't break, I want to feel something crush or see something shatter. It's so damned satisfying and any rage where I contain myself (doesn't happen as often as it should) feels incomplete.
The last really bad rage in terms of destructiveness I kicked a door off its hinges and twisted the metal frames of my glasses completely beyond repair. Over something I would usually just be like 'yeah whatever' about.
I will say that since my celiac diagnosis and stopping gluten, it seems to be helping all my emotional issues, including rages. The year prior to the dx I would rage at the tiniest things, things that no sane person would do more than sigh at. Those moments I felt like I was losing my mind, because I'd try so hard to just chill.
Also people who push my buttons the worst are family members. My sister pushes my buttons so badly and the slightest thing can escalate in a second. Our fights are spectacular to the point of being comical, and I must say I rage during them.

[SK8R4LY]

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I seriously don't know what it's like to be mad at someone/something

I find this hard to believe. Do you have working testicles? Are you a robot?

[Samwais]

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@SK8R4LY

My natural response to feelings of anger was always self-blame, like "there must be something wrong with me if I don't like this person, I should try to understand his/her point of view" etc. etc. so basically I've never let those kinds of feelings go anywhere but instead I've directed them at myself. Not the most healthy way of dealing with it but I can't just change these sorts of things. I do trust that eventually there will come a time when I will get genuinely mad at someone/something to the point where I'm on the verge of doing something I shouldn't, it's just that nothing of that nature has happened just yet.

[Reincarnate]

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Lack of control over unfair circumstances can inspire some pretty intense rage, especially if one setback brings about another setback which drags everything down and brings about even more setbacks, etc. Downward-spiral chain-reaction shitstorms can really make you angry and bitter.

Also, people who are narrow-minded (and yet wield power over others) = raaaaaaage

[Cavernio]

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You've never raged at yourself then?

I can understand not having experienced rage, I'm not sure my bf's ever experienced what I have in terms of rage.

I've had a bad temper since I was as young as I can remember.