I saw a video once on things to do if this situation ever happens to you. I was in like grade 7 or something at the time so I wasn't paying much attention, but I remember it said NEVER say "It'll be alright".
Alright this is what to do,I had this problem 3 times in a row with the same friend. First of all let him know over and over and over what he's going to be missing ( including you,and your good times you have with each other ) Then tell him his family loves him despite the fighting and crazyness. Tell him there's no point.
Tell him and break this down to little bit of details possible
Pros of Suicide : ......
Cons: Family will hate him even more for being retarded.
Friends (i.e: you ) will forever hate love him forveer and somewhat hate him for being such an idiot.
Making everyone sad that whoever knew him and cared about and the community sad....
Just keep telling him...if its worth losing your best friend then do it. Make him feel so bad that he'll want to change his mind.
What is up with everyone wanting to kill themselves all the sudden? God, wait till you get out into the real worl dto kill yourself. You have no idea what is going on. Shut the f*ck up and tough it out. That's what I told my friend when he wanted to kill himself. I even offered to help. Majority of the time it is a cry for attention. Tell him how angry you are at him for thinking such a stupid idea and that there are a lot of people who feel the same way. Remind him how easy he has it. Remind him that there is a f*cking war going on and that he needs to shut the f*ck up and tough it out...f*ck, if the people in Iraq can, then he sure as hell can. And if his mind hasnt changed after that, PUT A F*CKING GUN TO HIS HEAD AND YELL AT HIM "YOU REALLY WANT TO F*CKING DIE? I LOVE YOU, AND I WANT WHATS BEST FOR YOU, AND IF THAT IS DEATH, THEN SO BE IT."
Is your friend simply overreacting to a certain event, or has this been an ongoing dillemma?
If it's the former, what he needs is to have a talk with somebody with a large reserve of common sense (neighbor, school councillor, parent--any will do, but a disinterested third party is really best) and insight to point out calmly and logically that the event in question really isn't that bad at after all and things could be worse. Then he'll need the support of friends to put the incident behind him.
If it's the latter, then the entire family needs to see a professional psychologist to unearth the CAUSES of the dillemma instead of chasing after the effects and then ACTIVELY WORK to correct them. This requires the person involved, any siblings they have, and the parents. A family unit must act like a unit and work in a disciplined, synchronized manner to effectively combat this sort of thing.
I am, of course, assuming that your friend WANTS help and is willing to go the distance to actually accept the idea that he might go into a psychologist and get professional help. If he/she is not and continues to wallow in his/her own self-pity, then he/she is a complete and utter fuckwit who is going to be nothing but a burden to everyone he/she comes in contact with until they get off thier tear-soggy asses and actually try to help themselves.
For once, I agree with TC. On some parts, mostly the parts that said:
Originally posted by ThunderClaw
I am, of course, assuming that your friend WANTS help and is willing to go the distance to actually accept the idea that he might go into a psychologist and get professional help. If he/she is not and continues to wallow in his/her own self-pity, then he/she is a complete and utter fuckwit who is going to be nothing but a burden to everyone he/she comes in contact with until they get off thier tear-soggy asses and actually try to help themselves.
I'm depressed half the time, half my friends are depressed all the time, but you don't see me flauntin it all over the fucking place. Seriously. If your friend was really gonna commit suicide, he wouldn't tell you so you'd pity him...he'd just go right ahead and do it. Anybody who mopes around saying 'Ohh, woe is me, I want to die, somebody hug me' is just looking for attention. I do believe we had a very similar convo with Bittabe-be a little earlier on, where she flamboyantly expressed her wishes to die for the entire fucking planet so we'd all say 'Don't do it, Be! We love you!'
Again, sorry for my bluntnes...I'm pissed off today.
Nobody wants help when they're killing themselves unless they are just doing it for attention!
YOU GIVE THEM HELP NO MATTER WHAT AND YOU FUCKEN REPEAT REPEAT AND REPEAT,and if that doesn't work you go up to him and tell him face to face If you die I die.
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