Sex

[MalReynolds]

Re: Sex

I don't think a person should have sex until they're ready for children. Why run the risk?

It's fun. It's a deeper way of expressing your feelings.

And if you only have sex when you're fiscally responsible and ready to have a child, then have fun being a virgin until you're about twenty five to thirty and can support a small family.

[darkdragoness]

Re: Sex

And if you only have sex when you're fiscally responsible and ready to have a child, then have fun being a virgin until you're about twenty five to thirty and can support a small family.

That's exactly what I plan on doing.

[Chrissi]

Re: Sex

Can't we settle this as saying everyone should do what works best for them?

Some people want to remain virgins and some people want to have lots of sex. Power to both sides, but one side more than the other ought to ensure they are having very safe sex.

Most people are somewhere in between. They fall in love and want to have sex with this person, and they might even do this a few times before they're married. What's wrong with this? I don't think there's anything that makes sex inherently sacred to all people and requiring the boundaries of marriage to take place in safety. If people can keep themselves safe, no problems. If sex is sacred to YOU and you feel you only want sex when you are happily married and ready to have children, that is fantastic... for YOU. I hope people see what I'm saying here. Not everyone needs the same solution.

When things become unethical is when people try to enforce their personal views on others.

One note I want to make about abstaining: please don't expect the first time to be all happy-jolly-go-lucky and wonderful because you have found the right person and it should just "work". People aren't really naturally very good at sex. They have no idea what to do. It hurts and it's bothersome, especially for women. Men have poor ejaculation control and women do not know how to please themselves, in turn leading to the man also not knowing how to please the woman.

If you abstain.... you will probably suck your first time. Don't be naive.

And a note for women: if you don't know how to please yourself, he WON'T either. It's just impossible. You can't find the man who suddenly makes all your dreams come true and sends you to sexual ecstacy. It doesn't happen. No matter how good he is, he needs input from you. No matter how much he loves you, you must love yourself (sounds cheesy but it's the truth).

And another that ticks me off: If you aren't a virgin, don't shop around for a virgin.... really. It's hypocritical. What I'm thinking here is the stereotypical hypothetical man who's studly and has had a lot of sex, but only wants a woman who's "pure". So much sexist bull**** going on right there.

[Reim]

Re: Sex

I think there's a definate point in what darkdragoness is saying. There is that very real risk in having sex, and if you're not ready to deal with that risk, then you shouldnt really be messing around with something thats over your head.

But is that to say that everyone that's having sex should have a basement loaded with diapers and bottles ready? Is it enough to just acknowledge that risk, rather than either choosing not to consider it, or become abstenent until you have enough money to buy your baby, and your baby's momma food?

[FRANKKK]

Re: Sex

God I love sex

With a name like Grim Raper, I bet.

lmao

edit: didnt notice that this was critical thinking soo..

i agree with reim, you shouldnt be having it if you aren't ready to handle the risk. because if the worst happens, you have to live with it for the rest of your life, and nothing can change that. if you cant handle what may happen, you should wait untill your older. but hey, theres kids in my school that are 15 and they're having kids, so what do i know?