Re: Should men open doors for women?
Chivalry is somewhat of an out-dated terminology for these kinds of actions. Civility would be a more appropriate word.
It isn't just a gallantry towards women. It's a generally polite thing to do for anyone. As such it's really not done with ulterior motivation, and if there is it makes the entire action insincere.
I had issues with my ex-girlfriend about 4 years ago. She was the type of girl that called herself a "feminist" when in reality it didn't mean equality to her, it meant Women > Men. She would seriously get angry when I'd do things for her and rant about it saying how she could do it herself. I'd say "I know sweetheart, but I'm right here, it's not a big deal." Getting her a soda when I grabbed one for myself, holding the door open after I got to it first, and a number of other similar menial tasks. Eventually I stopped doing them for her because I got tired of hearing her bitch. It does happen lol. (and there's also a reason she's my EX
lol)
I don't hold doors open just for girls. The idea of holding a door open meaning anything besides kindness should be tossed right out the window. Chivalry was an idea of general of expected behaviors, not about wooing women into bed. It's a system of ideal qualities in an upright and noble person. My buddy holds doors for me. I hold them for him. It's a matter of being the one to actually grab it.
I think one of the commonplace problems with modern society is that nice and polite actions cannot be taken at face value. That's the real underlying issue.
Chivalry is somewhat of an out-dated terminology for these kinds of actions. Civility would be a more appropriate word.
It isn't just a gallantry towards women. It's a generally polite thing to do for anyone. As such it's really not done with ulterior motivation, and if there is it makes the entire action insincere.
I had issues with my ex-girlfriend about 4 years ago. She was the type of girl that called herself a "feminist" when in reality it didn't mean equality to her, it meant Women > Men. She would seriously get angry when I'd do things for her and rant about it saying how she could do it herself. I'd say "I know sweetheart, but I'm right here, it's not a big deal." Getting her a soda when I grabbed one for myself, holding the door open after I got to it first, and a number of other similar menial tasks. Eventually I stopped doing them for her because I got tired of hearing her bitch. It does happen lol. (and there's also a reason she's my EX
lol)I don't hold doors open just for girls. The idea of holding a door open meaning anything besides kindness should be tossed right out the window. Chivalry was an idea of general of expected behaviors, not about wooing women into bed. It's a system of ideal qualities in an upright and noble person. My buddy holds doors for me. I hold them for him. It's a matter of being the one to actually grab it.
I think one of the commonplace problems with modern society is that nice and polite actions cannot be taken at face value. That's the real underlying issue.
*wonders when the song will end =/*
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