Critical Thinking: Can you love someone...

[CypherToorima]

Alright. I have a question for everyone here. Well almost everyone. This question is aimed at the regular age group that posts here(10...er...13-15 or 16 year olds). Do you think that you are capable of actually loving someone outside your family?


My answer is no. I don't feel I am mature enough to actually love someone outside my family. I can like someone as 'more than a friend', but I don't feel I can love them.


Too clear up any confusion, I'm talking about a 'Marriage' sort of 'love'.

[qualy]

I say it's possible, but VERY VERY VERY unlikely it will happen. Lots of teenagers mistake their feelings for real love, but it's almost guaranteed not the real thing.

[flypie743]

Yea, a lot of teenagers think they are in love, but they really aren't. I think its more of a "like"...and you will realize that once you meet a person who you really do love.

[LEGO]

Yes, I have people outside my family that I love, but in a family-kind of way. Close friends. Maybe you guys are talking about the marriage kind of love.

[Reach]

True love? Yes...i think so. Depends on how mature you are about it I guess...and if you've really found the right person or just someone you think is the right person...

I'm 17 though. Was 16 at the time.

[Privateer]

If you can find any love at all, you can find love in anybody. Why would it be restricted to family? That's pretty stupid logic.

[Izzi]

there talking about like TRUE TRUE TRUE love where theres no way to seperate you

[Privateer]

Ok, then that makes both of you sound stupider, because you rarely get that feeling with a family member. It's much more likely with a girlfriend/boyfriend.

[Izzi]

family love is diffrent >.>

[Privateer]

Stop posting.

[flypie743]

Privateer, so you are saying you don't love your family and would want to be separated from them?-I think people do love their family and would do anything to stay as one family if they had to be separated.

I think you can only find true love once or twice...but when you are younger you think you "love" the person...

[Powerless]

Why would love be restricted to family? Oh..lets see..

Beacuse you've spent your whole life (We'll go with 16 years) with the same people (Hopefully, sorry in advance to all you poor souls out there who's parents are divorced, in jail..etc). You know they're returning the "favor" of love, you love them, they love you. With a BF/GF situation it's different. You may have common intrests, but that dosen't mean that you get along with your significant other.

One example I use is the fact that my parents can stand to be around and socialize with their friends. My dad can stand my mom's friends and vice versa. When people are in a premarrital situation, they tend to cave alot to make their significant other happy. But if your girlfriend dosent like the thing that you enjoy doing (Lets say Paintball, DRR, or somthing), then its not true love. They dont accept the thing YOU like to do.

I could drone on and on, but I find love before you're completely independent from your family to be an extremely fickle thing. It's been done obviously, I know people are going to say that, and thats

..possible, but VERY VERY VERY unlikely it will happen.

[Privateer]

First of all, izzi said 'there's no way to seperate you,' which is a much stronger love than just not wanting to be seperated, flypie.

Secondly, if anything, a girlfriend or boyfriend is more suited for you to connect with, in terms of interest. A family member is more of a forced love. I have a very poor relationship with my mother, but I still loosely love her. If I had a very poor relationship with someone out of my family, I obviously wouldn't love them. You get to choose who it is you get attached to in a relationship that doesn't involve family members.

I also could drone on and on about how you are all wrong, but I don't care enough.

[CypherToorima]

Privateer, you completely missed the point of this thread. I am talking about people around 13-16 actually loving their girlfriend or boyfriend, or are do they just like them alot.

[aleco]

What's the difference? Why does it matter?