Re: Is it best to say "yes" all the time? To comply? To appease ppl?
I too enjoy the devil's advocate. I also enjoy being alone /sarcasm.
My method is to take on a somewhat lethargic/apathetic response and work from there. It doesn't work as much for social encounters but it does get every point across without sounding like you're taking a side; so long as you play it right.
In the situation where you try to open their minds; it's best to take a neutral point of view and open up their bias slowly before hitting them with the devil's advocate. Starting it out as your opening position just comes off as brash and offensive almost all the time; sometimes it's funny when you're the opener though and everyone just questions your sanity. "Nah nah man, hear me out." "Trust"
If suzy asks specifically about the mustard sauce; responding by saying a substitution is better is basically worse than saying no. Not only are you saying it wasn't good (in this context) but you're also giving them advice they didn't ask for.
Suzy's next response would probably be: Maybe you should make it next time. (Among other things).
Pessimism aside; the better way to go about this is to understand where you see yourself in the situation as to their relation.
>A stranger you just met (Have you heard about our lord and savior jesus christ)
>Family
>Distant family
>Friends
etc
Depending on how "YOU" personally want the relation to stand, you can answer in a way that benefits or portrays you.
Normally understanding where to draw a line is key to any of this. Sometimes you draw it closer to you and sometimes it's just non existent; I personally just go for a neutrality approach and state both options and ask them which they think is better (in a situation where both sides have large consequences).
I too enjoy the devil's advocate. I also enjoy being alone /sarcasm.
My method is to take on a somewhat lethargic/apathetic response and work from there. It doesn't work as much for social encounters but it does get every point across without sounding like you're taking a side; so long as you play it right.
In the situation where you try to open their minds; it's best to take a neutral point of view and open up their bias slowly before hitting them with the devil's advocate. Starting it out as your opening position just comes off as brash and offensive almost all the time; sometimes it's funny when you're the opener though and everyone just questions your sanity. "Nah nah man, hear me out." "Trust"
If suzy asks specifically about the mustard sauce; responding by saying a substitution is better is basically worse than saying no. Not only are you saying it wasn't good (in this context) but you're also giving them advice they didn't ask for.
Suzy's next response would probably be: Maybe you should make it next time. (Among other things).
Pessimism aside; the better way to go about this is to understand where you see yourself in the situation as to their relation.
>A stranger you just met (Have you heard about our lord and savior jesus christ)
>Family
>Distant family
>Friends
etc
Depending on how "YOU" personally want the relation to stand, you can answer in a way that benefits or portrays you.
Normally understanding where to draw a line is key to any of this. Sometimes you draw it closer to you and sometimes it's just non existent; I personally just go for a neutrality approach and state both options and ask them which they think is better (in a situation where both sides have large consequences).
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