Long distance relationships?

[iironiic]

Re: Long distance relationships?

I personally find it's better to first get to know yourself before any type of relationship.

This.

[Patricoo]

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It's crucial that you plan to meet in a safe environment as soon as possible, so that you can interact and get a better understanding of how the other person communicates, how their personality really is, etc. so that you do not spend time being disillusioned and "creating" their personality for them without even meeting.

I don't understand why people are trying to relay their opinions simply by saying some kind of Internet success story... I see that kind of attitude as if it were a smoker saying he never got lung cancer, so cigarettes aren't harmful. It's a moronic stance to have. Having an Internet relationship, if you can even call it a relationship, has drastic cons for any one pro.

Communicating in other means, besides verbally, changes a lot between people. There was a study showing that couples who text heavily are more likely to engage in sexual activity quicker in the relationship. It said that people believed they 'knew' someone better and that time spent texting was, to them, the equivalent of being around each other.

Random thought; There are handful of people meeting up stories coming out. How many people had these long distance relationships and when they finally met up, completely turned it into a sextraviganza.

[darkshark]

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First one I met, sure, 3 times a day for a week straight. Last one, no, we had sex pretty much like normal people, 3-4 times a week.

[Cold Kitten]

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Hm, well, from what I can tell, the only MAJOR factor is who the people are. It might help to tell you all that the other person and I are basically the same person, just in two different bodies.

We act the same, like the exact same things, think in the same way, have the same personality, etc, etc. We might as well be one person.

[~kitty~]

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A long distance relationship can be deceiving, as one in real life can be. Long distance can be even more deceiving and like Dorby said, people could be caught up inside of a fantasy world. However, at the same time, more so than in real life you can get to know someone more with a long distance relationship since you focus less on some of the things that require physical contact. You spend more time talking and learning, depending on how the relationship goes. In real life, couples tend to spend less time together than long distance. A long distance relationship isn't as secure as a real life one, so there are pros and cons for both.

[3lijah]

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I had one. a couple years back. Her name was Sarah. I live in Virginia, and she lived in ****ing Texas, man.

To put it simply, the time we were going too finally see eachother, after 1 year of nothing but texts and all night phone calls. She wanted to go to the Vans Warped Tour. Didnt dig it that much, but the only band I actually wanted to see was Parkway Drive. Anyway, she got really sick sometime in May. I thought it was the flu or something, but after about a week, she got worse. I told her to go to the doctor to get herself checked out. I called her afterwards and she said that they gave her a shot. No idea what for, but that was it. she was fine for a few hours, but then it got really bad again. I was talking to her one day, and she said she was going to be sick. The last words I heard from her was 'I love you' in a really weak voice. I was so worried that night.

I woke up the next day, in the best of spirits for some odd reason. I got to school and there was a Math exam to do. Didnt pass it at all lol. But after the exam, I got a call from her phone. I answered like usual, but it was her dad. He told me that she had passed away in her sleep last night. I was devastated.

All we had was myspace and cell phones to keep us together. I never saw her a day in my life. And that is my biggest regret, 100 percent. I still miss her to this day.

[Sephiroth28]

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I had one. a couple years back. Her name was Sarah. I live in Virginia, and she lived in ****ing Texas, man.

To put it simply, the time we were going too finally see eachother, after 1 year of nothing but texts and all night phone calls. She wanted to go to the Vans Warped Tour. Didnt dig it that much, but the only band I actually wanted to see was Parkway Drive. Anyway, she got really sick sometime in May. I thought it was the flu or something, but after about a week, she got worse. I told her to go to the doctor to get herself checked out. I called her afterwards and she said that they gave her a shot. No idea what for, but that was it. she was fine for a few hours, but then it got really bad again. I was talking to her one day, and she said she was going to be sick. The last words I heard from her was 'I love you' in a really weak voice. I was so worried that night.

I woke up the next day, in the best of spirits for some odd reason. I got to school and there was a Math exam to do. Didnt pass it at all lol. But after the exam, I got a call from her phone. I answered like usual, but it was her dad. He told me that she had passed away in her sleep last night. I was devastated.

All we had was myspace and cell phones to keep us together. I never saw her a day in my life. And that is my biggest regret, 100 percent. I still miss her to this day.

Wow, that's a pretty sad story man.

[t-rogdor]

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This isn't a dig at your relationship, but that anecdote says very little. I mean, no shit you talk all the time when you're (1) new and (2) far away.

A friend of mine, who cheated on her boyfriend (who previously cheated on her) while his dad was dying of cancer with a guy who was also cheating on his girlfriend, talks to the guy all the time via Skype. I'm sure she relies on lines like "BUT WE TALK ALL THE TIME" to legitimize it.

Oh yeah, wouldn't ever take it like that. What you said makes makes perfect sense. I wasn't even saying that as a way to legitimize it, honestly.
The frequency at which you talk to someone doesn't have shit to do with the stability of your relationship. Hell, back when I loathed B3nny, we talked almost daily.

[Arch0wl]

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Hell, back when I loathed B3nny, we talked almost daily.

wtf that's the most passive-aggressive thing, why would you do that

[who_cares973]

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That's commitment

[Stewie7Griffin]

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If you make plans to meet up on a specific date and he/she doesn't show or has some excuse to change the plans, end it. It will never happen.

[Panic4Me]

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Coming from someone who is currently in a long distance relationship:

In my opinion, there's nothing wrong with them. Many people in the thread so far have said that they're not worth it and they don't work out, but as long as you're both committed to the relationship, it can happen. I have personally witnessed a few couples that started out their relationship long distance and are now living happily together. My ex's brother and his girlfriend met over World of Warcraft and began dating years ago. She lived in Washington state, he lived in Maryland, and they're living together and expecting a baby in a few months. Also looking at all of the posts involving one person cheating on the other: these relationships rely heavily on trust and honesty. If you have both and your minds are set on working through the distance, It. Can. Be. Done.

Being in a long distance relationship is nothing easy. I've seen my boyfriend (known to FFR as MetalAtlas) only twice. We stayed with friends for a few days together, then I spent a week in New Hampshire with him. He's coming down again next month for a week to visit. Our relationship is tough because of the distance, but for the time being I focus on the chances that I'll get to see him rather than worrying about exactly how long it will take (assuming we make it though these times) for us to be together for good. We talk every day (text/IM) and use Skype to see one another. It makes things a lot easier. (and if you have cams, you might want to give it a shot) We've talked about how hard long distance relationships can be but decided that we want to be together, even if it may take a few years for that to happen. He and I are both set on making our relationship last, so I believe that it will.

Tifferz<3 I'm happy for you for finding someone that makes you happy. If you want to be with him and you're both willing to wait and fight to make things work out between you, then there's no reason that it can't. I can tell you right now, there are going to be a lot of people that try to convince you otherwise and attempt to get you to break up. (as you've already seen) If it's what you really want, **** everyone who tries to stand in your way. (not literally, of course ) You always have my support.

[welsh_girl]

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Not for me. I've never done it and never will (I don't need to either as I'm in a 3+ year relationship, still).

I wouldn't have the pacience to wait to meet someone and also seeing them so little.
If other people can/will/want to - good for them and if it can work out and does work out then even better!

[Artic_counter]

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Hey, I just remembered; I haven't been in a relationship with a girl for like 9 years.

FFFFFFUUUUUUUUUUU

[kommisar]

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but you're 18...