Anyone else live with an alcoholic?

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Re: Anyone else live with an alcoholic?

My mom's an alcoholic. To people who think that their alcoholic relatives are "funny", it's really not. They probably feel like **** and are depressed all of the time because their condition makes it so hard for them and their families to live.

I've been dealing with this for a while. My mom's an angry drunk, verbally abusive, only been physically abusive with me, but whatever. I kind of just started going on the internet as an "escape" or whatever and now I want nothing more than to just get away from it (her when she's drinking). It's upsetting but its more of a hassle than anything. I'm the one who gets to play mini mom.

I wouldn't suggest breaking your step-dad's arms. Alcoholism's pretty hard to get over. My mom's done all sorts of rehabs and ****... right now she is in AA and has a sponsor and friends she made who really helped her get back on track when she relapsed a couple months ago. Anti-depressants, therapy, rehab, meetings, sponors, etc. all go a long way when it came to her shaping up. I mean, she's gotten sober before but she's been drinking on and off every 1-2 years for the past 6. Before that she quit for 6 years and was drinking idfk how long before because I was so young. Anyway, it's tough to live with so just try to remove yourself from the environment as best you can.

It truly is terrible. My mother is in a stressful situation of her own; she doesn't have a job and she has a strong feeling that my father is having an affair (sadly, I think it's true). When she starts to drink, she's either locked away in her room crying or she's blasting loud music while drinking herself to sleep.

I kind of just started going on the internet as an "escape" or whatever and now I want nothing more than to just get away from it (her when she's drinking).

About three years ago, there were practically no problems in my mom's life, she felt like she was in a strong relationship with my father, had a decent job, and her son was doing well in school. I don't think she would have asked for anymore at that point in time.

Then--something happened. My dad suddenly to get a bit verbal with my mother for the smallest things. Hell--he even grabbed me by the collar once for me simply not throwing away something that was on the table (we were both in pretty bad moods so a fight broke out that day) when he was angry.

Since then, my dad went into surgery for a tumor in his brain (successful removal) and I've never felt any closer to him. I feel bad for not being with my mom as much as I can, but she operates under too much stress sometimes. When she's not drinking, she's an amazing person to me and I wouldn't trade her attitude for anything in the world when she's sober. But when she's going through her problems, I can't sit around the house and simply pretend that I want to hear her.

Those who think it's funny to be around an alcoholic probably don't have to deal with their own parents fighting with each other.