Me and my GF are together now! But there’s a bit of a problem…

[aperson]

Re: Me and my GF are together now! But there’s a bit of a problem…

We're still coming to grips with new terminology as we get a better societal understanding of sexuality and much like "straight" has connotations that "het" does not "real" has connotations that "cis" does not.

Societally-driven gendered appearances and smell also greatly affect whether we find people desirable or not. Changing hormonal balance can affect both of those, but accepting that that's the case requires accepting that we're just a bunch of fucking animals. Relationships are messy.

[YoshL]

Re: Me and my GF are together now! But there’s a bit of a problem…

I talked to her about this recently, and she said it was “perfectly understandable” for me to feel this way.

People blindly flaming me are not helping me, in fact, they’re making me slightly more pissed off and stressed about the whole thing.

part 1 - if you've already talked to your partner about the issue why are you bringing it up here now acting like you're unsure of how to handle the problem

part 2 - rushy didn't flame you, simply pointed out that you've very constantly been trying to push your personal life into these forums, and that there are much better places to specifically ask for advice regarding your issues. It's been a pattern of you trying to create threads to ask for help regarding xyz when there's some nice alternatives! Your big all caps post in massive font was pretty rude.

[QueenAshy]

Re: Me and my GF are together now! But there’s a bit of a problem…

part 1 - if you've already talked to your partner about the issue why are you bringing it up here now acting like you're unsure of how to handle the problem

part 2 - rushy didn't flame you, simply pointed out that you've very constantly been trying to push your personal life into these forums, and that there are much better places to specifically ask for advice regarding your issues. It's been a pattern of you trying to create threads to ask for help regarding xyz when there's some nice alternatives! Your big all caps post in massive font was pretty rude.

1) I don’t know, I just want to vent. I feel like an outside unbiased opinion can maybe help me better conceptualize this whole situation. Again, no therapist atm, lack of funds.

2) I wasn’t referring to Rushy specifically with the flaming.

[Charu]

Re: Me and my GF are together now! But there’s a bit of a problem…

Okay, so if you're saying that, then why on earth are you even lamenting about it and asking for advice? Everyone is going to tell you the same thing. Respect who they are and have them make their own decision regarding how they look. If they want to remain masculine, it should be their call. Or if you can't, then tell them straight and drop the relationship without breaking too much of a heart.

That being said, if this really is gonna be a problem but you do care, then perhaps you could always pretend their appearance is to your standards until you actually believe it. Y'know, tricking yourself and whatnot.

That is if you really do care for this person. You can mess with people, but mess with their hearts and it's a whole different ball game. The way you worded it in the OP made me think you were considering dropping them.

[YoshL]

Re: Me and my GF are together now! But there’s a bit of a problem…

2) I wasn’t referring to Rushy specifically with the flaming.

you were definitely referring to him in your all caps post, given that you directly quoted him.

[the sun fan]

Re: Me and my GF are together now! But there’s a bit of a problem…

She’s applied to over 2000 jobs

...No she hasn't?

[aperson]

Re: Me and my GF are together now! But there’s a bit of a problem…

1) I don’t know, I just want to vent. I feel like an outside unbiased opinion can maybe help me better conceptualize this whole situation. Again, no therapist atm, lack of funds.

2) I wasn’t referring to Rushy specifically with the flaming.

Everyone either dumps on you or gives you sincere advice that you ignore. Given the failure on both sides of the equation your posts are a waste of time. Go write them into a notepad window and delete them when you're done. Everyone will be better off.

[andy-o24]

Re: Me and my GF are together now! But there’s a bit of a problem…

Mfw male-to-female pre-op trans dating a male girlfriend identifying as sissy who wants to transition to female in the future has trouble with her girlfriend's masculine appearance.

Seriously, just date a real girl if you can't even be patient enough for your "girlfriend" to transition.

Lol, that's what this is about? My goodness me, what a world.

-o24

[devonin]

Re: Me and my GF are together now! But there’s a bit of a problem…

This is not the correct forum to be
A) Asking for relationship advice that you expect to be taken seriously
B) Air your internalized transmisogyny.
C) Making yet another thread that is just a continuation of a previous thread you could have bumped that was a continuation of a previous thread you could have bumped etc.