Transgender AMA

[Moria]

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chicken or beef? if meats not yo thing; soup or salad?

[Sanjixcon]

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what do you think about pronouns?

would you date another transgender?

[drizzleRomanceGirl]

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chicken or beef? if meats not yo thing; soup or salad?

i don't like meat that much in general but i like chicken and i don't really like beef

also i love soup and i love it more than salad but i like caesar and greek salad a lot too

what do you think about pronouns?

would you date another transgender?

i think pronouns are really important because they represent that you accept how someone feels about themselves (if you use the pronouns that person wants to use)

and i would but only ftm transgender individuals since i only like boys (and by the way, it's rude to say transgender by itself; you probably wouldn't say "would you date another black?" so please say transgender person or transgender individual)

you could also say person/people who is/are transgender or individual(s) who is/are transgender as another way to be respectful

[benguino]

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I know that there's been a push to the normalization of asking people about their pronouns when you first meet them (or telling them yours when you first meet them to encourage them to tell you theirs. An example being like "Hi, my name is Ben and I go by He/Him/His. And you?"

What do you think of this idea?

I know for some people in the LGBTQ+ community, this seems like a good idea since it allows us to avoid misgendering someone. However, I've also seen that some members of the trans community don't like being asked for their pronouns since the act of asking might indicate that they've been clocked.

[drizzleRomanceGirl]

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I know that there's been a push to the normalization of asking people about their pronouns when you first meet them (or telling them yours when you first meet them to encourage them to tell you theirs. An example being like "Hi, my name is Ben and I go by He/Him/His. And you?"

What do you think of this idea?

I know for some people in the LGBTQ+ community, this seems like a good idea since it allows us to avoid misgendering someone. However, I've also seen that some members of the trans community don't like being asked for their pronouns since the act of asking might indicate that they've been clocked.

i don't think it's a good idea to ask someone because a lot of people who are transgender haven't told anyone yet and it might hurt to have to tell someone you're not the gender you are inside; also even in a transgender setting, if you ask someone that might imply you're not sure which gender they look like which also might hurt, and when someone is transitioning it probably won't be helpful for people to ask them which pronoun to use because they're trying to pass as the sex they are inside, and having to be asked which pronoun to use isn't satisfying and doesn't tell them whether they pass or not

[Moria]

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i don't think it's a good idea to ask someone because a lot of people who are transgender haven't told anyone yet and it might hurt to have to tell someone you're not the gender you are inside; also even in a transgender setting, if you ask someone that might imply you're not sure which gender they look like which also might hurt, and when someone is transitioning it probably won't be helpful for people to ask them which pronoun to use because they're trying to pass as the sex they are inside, and having to be asked which pronoun to use isn't satisfying and doesn't help them know whether they pass or not

huh, thats a nice way to look at it.

[probably dont waste your time reading this, thank] i feel like if someones in the process of transitioning they're kinda in a grey area until they find themselves satisfactory. reshaping isnt yet complete. would be rude to address the idea unless they address it first; asking someone or anyone who wasnt happy enough with their given sex that they were determined enough to seek change what they would prefer to identify as while they've still yet to achieve that preference is just kinda stupid really. given some self-consciousness and a little introspection on transitioning parties behalf and that question of their present being could easily seed anxious conflicts on who and what they are, are not, were, will become, feel they truly are, know they observably are and everything inbetween. asking for a perspective on the destination from someone whose still undertaking the journey. potentials for discomfort are too damn high. actually same.. too damn high.. then again i don't think.. and in that scenario: people probably wouldn't have the time to think much either. more likely reflexively respond with their ideal without much self-awareness. so you've just wasted time reading another one of my homemade tangential hypothetical reflections. blindly brought to you by someone who doesn't have any experience on the subject and just wanted to take a moment to leisurely shitpost. :^)
sorry for spamming your ama driz; my bad~

also extra sorry if i managed to fuck with anyones head there. the intention wasn't to harm, don't worry a little existentialism is good for you

[drizzleRomanceGirl]

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huh, thats a nice way to look at it.

[probably dont waste your time reading this, thank] i feel like if someones in the process of transitioning they're kinda in a grey area until they find themselves satisfactory. reshaping isnt yet complete. would be rude to address the idea unless they address it first; asking someone or anyone who wasnt happy enough with their given sex that they were determined enough to seek change what they would prefer to identify as while they've still yet to achieve that preference is just kinda stupid really. given some self-consciousness and a little introspection on transitioning parties behalf and that question of their present being could easily seed anxious conflicts on who and what they are, are not, were, will become, feel they truly are, know they observably are and everything inbetween. asking for a perspective on the destination from someone whose still undertaking the journey. potentials for discomfort are too damn high. actually same.. too damn high.. then again i don't think.. and in that scenario: people probably wouldn't have the time to think much either. more likely reflexively respond with their ideal without much self-awareness. so you've just wasted time reading another one of my homemade tangential hypothetical reflections. blindly brought to you by someone who doesn't have any experience on the subject and just wanted to take a moment to leisurely shitpost. :^)
sorry for spamming your ama driz; my bad~

also extra sorry if i managed to fuck with anyones head there. the intention wasn't to harm, don't worry a little existentialism is good for you

you weren't spamming; i really enjoyed reading your take on being asked pronouns you're welcome to share your point of view and you don't need any experience to share your opinion

[Funnygurl555]

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How do you feel when people misgender you? I slip up occasionally when talking to a trans person who doesn't pass as their gender. It's an accident but eheheh

[drizzleRomanceGirl]

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How do you feel when people misgender you? I slip up occasionally when talking to a trans person who doesn't pass as their gender. It's an accident but eheheh

i feel really defensive and take it personally and either say the gender i am if it's in a conversation or try to change it on file if my old name is in a record

i used to be really anxious when that happened but i don't have to question myself anymore

[the sun fan]

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i feel really defensive and take it personally and either say the gender i am if it's in a conversation or try to change it on file if my old name is in a record

i used to be really anxious when that happened but i don't have to question myself anymore

how often are you misgendered?

[Celirra]

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i feel really defensive and take it personally and either say the gender i am if it's in a conversation or try to change it on file if my old name is in a record

i used to be really anxious when that happened but i don't have to question myself anymore

Back when I had long hair I would often be mistaken as female and it really got to me, and that was even without gender identity taking into play; I imagine it's much more aggravating and upsetting for you too, sorry that you have to deal with it

[rayword45]

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legitimate question: what do you want to do when people make "did u just assume my gender?" jokes?

I'm cis, never seen a trans person say that sentence, and any time I hear it I want to beat the living shit out of whoever made the joke not bc bigotry but bc STOP SAYING THE SAME JOKE OVER AND OVER GODDAMNIT

[Aquellex]

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any time I hear it I want to beat the living shit out of whoever made the joke not bc bigotry but bc STOP SAYING THE SAME JOKE OVER AND OVER GODDAMNIT

same

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[drizzleRomanceGirl]

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how often are you misgendered?

i'm never mis-gendered anymore

legitimate question: what do you want to do when people make "did u just assume my gender?" jokes?

I'm cis, never seen a trans person say that sentence, and any time I hear it I want to beat the living shit out of whoever made the joke not bc bigotry but bc STOP SAYING THE SAME JOKE OVER AND OVER GODDAMNIT

i think it's funny too XD

i also love when people make fun of how many genders there are now lol even though i respect all genders

[mellonxcollie]

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What is your opinion on gender neutral bathrooms? What would be the most comfortable solution for public bathrooms for transpeople in your opinion?