The Niceness Brigade

[Arntonach]

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I stayed behind at work so the other worker could go home early. Does that count?

Also, can I stop donating? I'm broke and I want to have groceries and paid bills...

[moches]

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edit: actually with the lockers and notes you could write a bunch of messages and stuff them in every 3-5 lockers. If people share the messages they will most likely get a different message anyway!

I like where this is going.

I stayed behind at work so the other worker could go home early. Does that count?

Also, can I stop donating? I'm broke and I want to have groceries and paid bills...

If it made him/her and you happy, then yes. And you should definitely take care of yourself if you're donating that much, lol.

Update for me:

I walked into the convenience store near my old middle school and the worker at the counter was complaining about the heat. Paid her 5000won, charged my transportation card (yes, we have these in Seoul) 4000won, used the last of it to buy a bottle of iced tea and left it on the counter.

I'm going to have to think of more ways to make the next few days anonymous, though.

[justin_ator]

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See my interests on my profile..

I've always been a people pleaser and have always found happiness in seeing others happy, so I would like to join in on this thread thingermajig. I do what I can when I can, but I could always try to make more of an effort I guess. I'll post some of what I do here and there when I do stuff.

ps I'm the weirdo that leaves and tips $20 on a $10 meal oops

[andy-o24]

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Buses after dropping student off at our highschool have a hard time make a certain left-hand turn and some drivers end up backing up the intersection because they have to take the turn so slowly. Drivers of cars which aren't buses will stop right up on the stop sign and make the turn that much harder for the buses to make. So, today, seeing the buses coming, stopped farther back from the stop sign to help out the bus drivers, much to the dismay of all those behind me. Two rounds of turn-taking at the intersection happened before I was able to go, but it just felt right.

When I got to school, I held the door open for about five people, getting three "thank you"s for my efforts. As I walked down the hallway to my class, I couldn't help but smile and feel good for doing something small to try and help people out. Put me in a good mood for the rest of the day.

Custom T-shirt I designed in like five minutes. Personalization for active members would be cool, but I'm sure someone could come up with a more generic design to order in bulk.

http://puu.sh/18BII

-o24

[Pseudo Enigma]

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hmm a shirt would be interesting. I probably wouldn't wear one though. (I'm an extremely picky dresser..)

design needs a bit of tweaking though

[moches]

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See my interests on my profile..

I've always been a people pleaser and have always found happiness in seeing others happy, so I would like to join in on this thread thingermajig. I do what I can when I can, but I could always try to make more of an effort I guess. I'll post some of what I do here and there when I do stuff.

ps I'm the weirdo that leaves and tips $20 on a $10 meal oops

Welcome! O.o at the bolded, I wish I had the financial ability to do awesome things like that.

Custom T-shirt I designed in like five minutes. Personalization for active members would be cool, but I'm sure someone could come up with a more generic design to order in bulk.

http://puu.sh/18BII

-o24

ahahaha @ the shirt. if we got enough people on it, it could be fun to have one as kinda a personal object. although depending on whether you're doing things anonymously or not it could ruin the surprise for some people . . .

holding doors really is one of the easiest and nicest things you can do. your story made me smile.

as for me, I missed out on Wednesday because of my midterms, but I found time today to sneak in a support note into my friend's backpack. didn't even know it was me :ninja:

WILL UPDATE TOMORROW! MIDTERMS OVER YEAAAAAA~

[justin_ator]

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Welcome! O.o at the bolded, I wish I had the financial ability to do awesome things like that.

Well... I'm really in no position to do it either, to be honest, but I like knowing I made someone's day. Can't do it real often but sometimes I just do it and figure I'll live.

Held some doors today for people, as usual. Picked up some stuff for someone that dropped things.

I haven't had a chance to come up with anything anonymous and really interesting yet, but I'm sure i can come up with something. I did a lot of creative and fun things for my ex, so I know the ideas are there. Just have to put some together.

a lot of the stuff I try to do is just simple things overall everywhere, like holding the door open and picking up trash if I can, etc. Did that in one of my classes today as well, grabbed some trash and threw it away before leaving class.

edit: thoughts?

meh quality, but w/e imgur changed it to a jpg

[moches]

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edit: thoughts?

meh quality, but w/e imgur changed it to a jpg

[justin_ator]

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>__>

obviously that wouldn't be the final design. I was throwing out an idea. I don't even have photoshop

[moches]

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it still looks dope as heck

[popsicle_3000]

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what language is that??


i guess in light of this thread though,
yesterday i went to a coffee shop my friend always goes to, and paid for her next two coffees. we'll see what happens tomorrow

[Pseudo Enigma]

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it looks pretty good, but is it even really easy to make for a shirt? Remember that the more colors on a shirt = more money required

Internet is down so I have to access it at the library/school. I'll keep doing this.

Yesterday I wasn't really in the mood to be nice. The teacher looked down and I thought about leaving him my can of Dr. Pepper and a note--yes I have made my codename in Science steins;gate related so you guys can guess what the hell would be written (in weeaboo). I was too selfish though.

also @Pop it rhymes with Korean.
oops

[i will pwn u]

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this is a good thread and something i do daily.. i kinda live by the pay it forward philosophy.. i do good things and usually good things come back.. the job i have depends on me being happy and enthusiastic because if i dont people wont buy shit from me and im only selling stuff that helps their car run better xD.. i always have a smile at work specially that first 10 seconds of guiding somone in the bay and even if they are havin the worst day usually i get a smile back.. its rewarding

[UserNameGoesHere]

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First off, I do not wish to be added to the list. I am posting here to comment on the idea, not to join it.

Just make sure you're actually being nice and not "nice". That it's a real nice and not a fake nice. No offense, but my initial impression of this thread is that of fake nice -- doing things to make you feel like you did something nice.

So what's the difference?

Fake nice:
The primary focus is on making you feel better about yourself (you feel like you did something nice) and/or to make you look better in front of other people (politician trying to win votes). Elaborate scenarios may be constructed for which the "nice" thing you do is the "answer" when in reality, it was either a minimal contribution, completely unnecessary, or even a nuisance. You do things you think are nice, but in reality they aren't very nice or you're doing them for the wrong reasons.

Real nice:
The primary focus is on others. You don't care so much about the recognition. You're not trying to do every little tiny thing you've elaborately constructed some idea is "nice". You see a need, meet a need. Your conscience tells you "I should probably go help that person" so you help them. You should expect NOTHING in return. Especially if no one even thanks you or anything, accept that, and it should have no influence on your mood (if it does, see fake nice above).

The primary difference is that fake nice focuses on you (feel good, seen as being good), whereas the real thing has exactly the opposite focus (community, greater good, etc...).

Donating a bunch of money to a cause, while helpful, is more often a fake nice to either make you feel like you did a good thing or to make yourself look good.

Unpaid volunteer work, especially of a type most people wouldn't volunteer for, and where there isn't some ulterior motive (credits for a society, club, or fraternity/sorority, or court-ordered community service), is most often the real deal.

Just make sure you're doing it because it's something that needs to be done or it's actually helpful, and not because it's something you think might be being nice but isn't.

[moches]

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very good point, and one that probably needed to be pointed out at some point. that's the whole reason I'm trying to do these things anonymously...the sharing in this thread is more for the support sharing and taking in experiences with other like-minded people can bring.

I'm planning to write a few guidelines for this thread sometime next week; mind if I quote you?