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Re: New marriage proposal standards
Woah bro. I dislike "furry" as much as the next guy, but there's no reason for that comment.Originally posted by Xx{Midnight}xX
When did you start acting like this? Because that was uncalled for and unjustified man.
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Got offended at a different uncalled for comment, made his own in an attempt to offend the other person.
And Mid, you should probably not attack fetishes like that and attempt to correlate it to desperation with a person. It doesn't work. Some people find bondage repulsive, does that make the people who enjoy being bound and dominated desperate for the affection of another person? Even if you think yes, most couples who actually care for one another will move past things like that and sometimes even attempt to embrace it. The ones that are too surface to handle something as simple as a fetish that isn't even remotely abusive to anything probably won't even make it as far as a proposal. And for the record, proposals should be cool shit. If it's original and the couple enjoys it, who's to say it's too gimmicky to be good? I mean shit, someone used FFR to propose recently, you going to say that's gimmicky and shouldn't last?
On topic, not really my cup o tea, but good on him for coordinating that.Last edited by speeddemon; 05-27-2012, 12:51 AM.Comment
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"Affects" isn't the right word. The proposal is a symptom. But it's one of those complicated symptoms where you can't single out anything really wrong. Each part of it is only a little bit bad, but in a way that adds up to create something so insufferably banal that telling me it comes from the same place as real commitment would require a full-scale suspension of disbelief.
The disease is the kind of narcissism and desire for envy that makes people feel like proposing requires a GAP dance crew, indie soundtrack, internet audience, and the shakiest camerawork I've ever had the misfortune of seeing.
If that explanation sounded like bullshit, it's probably because the feeling is more intuitive than logical. When I watch this video, my reaction is less "awwwww" and more "get this feel-good, made-for-youtube trash out of my face." And I don't imagine the line between those is thin.Last edited by Mike Weedmark; 05-27-2012, 01:25 AM.
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I haven't watched the video yet (can't on my iPod) but I can kind of see what it consists of.
It reminds me of the good ol' days when a king would build his wife a castle, or pyramid, or Taj Mahal; even if the gesture was genuine, it might feel a bit more materialistic. The kind of love that is fuelled with materialism, being bought lots of things as a gesture, is nothing really new. To me it feels like the actions don't justify the emotions in a way they should. Like, if a pyramid appeared of my lawn, with a ring, I'd think "Damn. All you really needed to do was tell me how you feel LoL". Not that I would put them down, it just implies desperation when someone doesn't exactly have a way with words.
...why is everything a debate thread.
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Don't get me wrong- I enjoy debating, sometimes it's just tiresome. And I would rather have an open topic with either choice :s
To be on topic again-- With stuff like this, I try not to become too engaged (I guess that's a pun) in people's actions like this. Whatever the case was, it made her happy, and married. We don't have to let it set the bar or anything. People need to have the mentality of suiting needs based on their own preferences, not by what they have been told they need (blindly, that is. Really depends on the situation; sometimes you don't know what you want until you are shown it. BUT I mean like, forcing standards)
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the way i see this is that you love someone so much that a simple proposal wouldnt suffice. so you go above and beyond for that person. frankly though i love a chick a lot but i wouldnt go that far because it would feel to gimmick-y and fake for me
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Even though I was bashing the proposal, I agree with Spenner that everyone has different needs. Not every relationship is destined to be something I'd read a book (or play a game) about. Some people are just not interesting, and that's fine.
But calling this a new standard isn't fine imo :P Nevar 4get: The guy who proposed by hacking Chrono Trigger.Comment
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I haven't watched the video yet because I'm on my phone and I don't want to wait 10 hours for a video to load; but I will say a creative, well-thought proposal represents the amount of care/love the proposer has for the proposee. Anyone can do the cliche "take your date to a fancy restraunt and propose there", but a creative and thought out proposal shows that the person loves the other person enough to think of and plan something special. This creative/thought-out proposal doesn't need to be extravagent though. Anyways, if the couple is happy with how the proposal turned out, let them be. Same for everyone, there is no need to set yourself up to some standard, if your potenial partner turns you down simply because of how the proposal was executed, then they are just too shallow anyway. Still though, I expect some degree of effort to be put into a proposal; proposing at a Burger King across the street from your house with a $10 ring you found at a pawn shop yesterday would be slightly frowned upon by me. Anyways, I'm going to stop ranting, because I don't even have the appropriate context to fully understand what is going on.Comment
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I don't see a problem with this. Let people do what they wanna do as long as it's innocent. I thought it was cute.
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